Hi!

My second birth was with a CNM at her birthcenter. The main thing I noticed was that when I attended prenatals she made me nervous- the way my doctors did- about my weight gain, my test results, and my due date. I remember one month I gained 3 pounds more than was the "norm", and when I told her my weight she made a point to mention the gain- like I was stashing twinkies... I'm vegetarian... you tell me... Then at one point she said the baby was measuring a bit small, and worried me sick for the next two weeks. At the next visit she never mentioned it once, and said the baby measured fine... She would have liked me to take all the standard precautionary tests to rule out defects, but as I had a choice, I chose not to. I believe she was surprised. By two days past my due date, she was really pushing for an ultrasound, and talking about a possible induction...

My last gripe was that she was a real "pushing coacher", and when I hit that "ring of fire" spot, boy did it bug her that I slowed down... I still ended up with a stitch, but I hate to think what the result would have been if I hadn't listened to my body while pushing...
Don't get me wrong, she was a sweet lady, and the whole experience was good. Much better than the hospital birth I had before...

But the next time around, I was looking for a homebirth midwife...

I just want someone who I can be certain isn't transferring her fear of negative outcome onto me in prenatals and into my labor... If the baby were in trouble, I would push if it meant a 4th degree tear (my hospital birth came with the standard episiotomy/4th degree tear combo...) But if all is well, trust me, I'm doing all I can to get that baby out as my body leads...
Just my experience... and I would go back to her if I had to choose between hospital and the birthcenter... But I'd rather a repeat of the last two, safe in my home, birthing in my nest...

The Lord bless you,
Zoie

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