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post #21 of 38
11/16/06 at 4:18pm
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Originally Posted by Isaac'sMa View Post
Is Evelyn your midwife?! I'm in B'more and saw you are too! She was my MW and that's what she told me
Yes! My first HB -- I'm very excited about it. We also have a whole unfinished room upstairs but it's closed off with tarp so we don't have the drywall and plaster dust coursing through the house at this moment. But it makes the rest of the house extra cluttered up with the stuff that's supposed to be in there.
post #22 of 38
11/16/06 at 4:29pm
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Originally Posted by janellesmommy View Post
My midwife has a handout that says one of the requirements for a homebirth is to have a clean house. I'm going to have to talk to her about that. I think that is ridiculous. So if my house is messy, even dirty, it's better to give birth in the hospital and risk getting an antibiotic resistant infection from their super germs?

Of course I hope to have a clean house, but if I don't, that's no reason to go to the hospital!
Think about it, most midwives clean up after the birth--wash towels, sheets, wash any dishes that were used, etc. It's *really* hard to clean up a mess that was made in an already messy house. Also, the birth itself requires space. There's no need to have a spotless, uncluttered home, but there should at least be a reasonable space for birthing in. I'm guessing that item's on the list for people with ordinary homes to glance around and say "not bad, I guess I will take care of that one project I'd been putting off" and for people with problematic homes to glance around and say "I need a clean home for the birth?!? Wow, I guess I will finally ask for help with this for my baby's sake."
post #23 of 38
11/16/06 at 4:32pm
I am not a good housekeeper by my mother's standards, but I do clean something every day. I am trying to get the perfectly clean house before labor starts, because I don't want to have crap in every corner with all the pictures that will be taken. I don't want to be embarassed by that

SO, my paranoid state has begun
post #24 of 38
11/16/06 at 4:59pm
my nest area is clean. but the places where I don't plan non being regularly...no....not spotless...just...decent.
post #25 of 38
11/16/06 at 5:25pm
Not clean here. But when my "nesting" instincts set in my house is spotless. So, I'm not worried about a messy house during labor.
post #26 of 38
11/16/06 at 5:46pm
I WANT it to be clean, does that count ??
post #27 of 38
11/16/06 at 5:56pm
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I am SO enjoying this thread
Our house is a disaster too. I never liked cleaning and I was always a messy person. I simply put things down and forget to put them where they should go. I only clean because I have to - and then mainly if I know we have someone come over..
Where I live it is an offer for all new moms to have a childrens nurse come by 4-5 times in the months after birth, to help with breastfeeding advice, advice about baby-care etc. Anyway I had forgotten she was coming and suddenly she was at the door.
I had to let her in (I had agreed to have her come and had agreed to that particular day and time - I had simply forgotten all about it) - Anyway she saw our house in its regular state. Toys all over the floor, sand from shoes and cathair on the floor, mail and newspapers all over the place. A couple of old glasses on the coffee-table, mess stacked on the shelfes etc. I have never been so embarressed in my life, but then I thought - what the heck.. this is who we are. We ARE messy people - but I know we are good parents - and that is what really matters in the end..
post #28 of 38
11/16/06 at 6:01pm
No, it's not! Though it's better than it would be without Flylady. We are saving up to have a housekeeper come in once a week starting when I'm 36 weeks.
post #29 of 38
11/16/06 at 7:21pm
I'm so glad this was posted! I just had my home visit yesterday, and I was so worried that my house wasn't going to be clean enough for the midwife. I've been nesting, but I'm a little on the OCD side (see: VERY OCD) and just could not shake the worry that she was going to think I was a nasty slob and tell me I would have to go to the center instead of birthing at home.

I think it went well. The house is clean (to my standards, anyway) but not spotless and she didn't say anything at all. Now it's on to worrying about whether it will be clean when he finally decides to make his arrival! One of my biggest fears is that I will go into labor and worry the whole time that the m/w's are more concerned with my messy house!
post #30 of 38
11/16/06 at 8:44pm
Clean - Yes! Tidy - Notsomuch!
post #31 of 38
11/17/06 at 1:59am
I think I cleaned the house one time while I was pregnant- the day before the home visit. I went into labor a week later. Definately not spotless, I don't even know what dusting is

they never said anything about it and I'd bet there are less disease-causing germs in my house than in the hospital any day!
post #32 of 38
11/17/06 at 9:32pm
you can join cleanhome here: http://cleanhome.freewww.info/

it's a website done by a homebirthing and nursing mom. cleanhome is a little less ......uhhhhhh... "preachy" than flylady.
post #33 of 38
11/17/06 at 10:08pm
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Originally Posted by honeybeedreams View Post
you can join cleanhome here: http://cleanhome.freewww.info/

it's a website done by a homebirthing and nursing mom. cleanhome is a little less ......uhhhhhh... "preachy" than flylady.
Oh...gonna check that out.

Also found www.largefamilylogistics.net
post #34 of 38
11/17/06 at 10:42pm
Thread Starter 
hey I do the flylady routines, imagine what my life would be with out it! I even bought her book for my MIL

I'm glad to know that there are other families that live the cluttered lifestyle
post #35 of 38
11/17/06 at 10:50pm
My house is far from clean. I am stressing SO much about this too, getting the bathroom painted and finished, getting my house cleaned top to bottom. At least I'm only 15 weeks and she isn't visiting my home until 37wks. LOL I know I have a little time but I'm SO tired, I don't have the energy to clean! Dh keeps mentioning it and it just stresses me out even more! :

I hope my midwife has seen worse, I just pray I get an incredible nesting urge and go on a cleaning spree before then. lol
post #36 of 38
11/19/06 at 12:54pm
LOL! This was one of dh's biggest concerns.

Our house is not clean! We can not have the baby here.

I tried picking up things the last weeks of my pg. By the time I was actually in labor there were toys all over the floor that ended up being kicked in a corner and my bedroom was less than perfect.

It had no impact on my experience or my feelings. I never even noticed it really but to laugh.

Emilie
post #37 of 38
11/19/06 at 8:30pm
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Originally Posted by Boobs View Post
My house is a disaster now, but when I was pregnant, I always made the house extra nice for my midwife appts. I wanted it to be really relaxing and well, the opposite of a dr's office! Lavendar in the air, soft music, natural lighting. It was spotless before the birth and literally when he was born, my house became a mess and has been filthy since. He's 21 months now and cleaning is like shoveling snow during a blizzard.
I don't think I'll ever attain a house anywhere near that clean, lol.

I am going to be very embarrassed when the midwifes come over to my house...
post #38 of 38
11/20/06 at 12:44am
They've seen it all I am sure.
No worries Amy.
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