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post #1 of 29
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My 28 mo. old dd is just out of the family bed and will be moving to her own room as soon as the IL's leave (they are staying in her room at present). Since we have a split floor plan I wanted to be able to hear dd if she woke up at night, so went to buy a good baby monitor yesterday. Oh the choices!

I was so sad to see all these parenting substitute things. I could sort of see the 2 way monitor being useful, for me to say, Okay honey Mommy's coming. But there was one that would automatically vibrate the crib if it detected movement. Another one had a remote control and projected a lightshow on the ceiling at the touch of a button. Why can't people just go in and attend to the baby themselves?? There are so many kids being parented by plastic devices instead of their own parents. There was of course that heartbeat bear-- very sad. And there was also a machine that made nature sounds, "So you can help to establish a bedtime routine that pediatricians recommend" or some such nonsense on it. I always thought that bed time routines consisted of reading and rocking and interaction.

Anyway, just wanted to vent. I was horrified. I feel like I must be so out of fashion, with our family bed. Dh and I were both wondering if it might be too soon still to move her to her own room at around 30 months (we'll try it and see-- shel likes our master closet as her bedroom right now- lol) and here are these devices vibrating and entertaining newborns all alone in their cribs. What a contrast in parenting attitude.

Darshani
post #2 of 29
Those things upset me, too, Darshani. I can also see uses for a two-way monitor, like if you're nursing the baby and need to ask your dh to bring you a drink! But the ones that have "soothers" that you can activate by remote control...what's next, one that plays a recording of Mom's voice so that Mom herself doesn't have to even talk to the baby? Wait a year or two and someone will invent one...:
post #3 of 29
we had to buy a new monitor for this baby (4 story house - yet not much room on each floor so we are up and down a lot anyway) and I really wanted a two way monitor, not just for the baby but so I oculd put it in th play room and listen in on the girls and have them answer without going up 3 flights of stairs or shouting. So it was decided two way was the way to go. the onlyone we could find had a light show soother thing that was activated by sound or some such nonsence. We ended up just gettong a basic monitor because there was no way I was going to buy any device that self sooths a baby.
post #4 of 29
Wow I feel pretty silly getting a mobile with a lightshow now! I bought it because it projects stars and moons on the ceiling and I wanted it in OUR room for me! :LOL Now that we're probably not gonna be able to sidecar a crib in our room (too small.. we'll just use a bassinette and/or snuggle nest instead) I'm not sure where I could attach the mobile... I didn't even realize that the lightshows would be used to sooth a baby! I mean DUH, they didn't make the thing just so mommy would want it in her room!
post #5 of 29
just wanted to say I know what you mean, it always makes me sad to see the new & improved way to get some distance from your offspring!! With that being said, I do have a monitor set up, but it is for my 5 year old who is in his own room!! I am a worry-wart, but my DH would not wake up if the house was crashing down around us, so it is up to me to be half-listening all night for possible choking, burglers, whatever. not a lot of sleep for me, ha!:
post #6 of 29
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what's next, one that plays a recording of Mom's voice so that Mom herself doesn't have to even talk to the baby? Wait a year or two and someone will invent one...
sadly, they do exist. Well, I don't know if they have them combined with the monitors yet, but they do have play pens that you can record your own soothing words or whatever so you don't actually have to sing or something icky and involved like that. That said, I did just do about 30 rounds of Row, Row, Row Your Boat.
post #7 of 29
Lisa -
I wouldn't have minded the light show for my room but that part wasn't the part that went in my room. Hehe You can usually mount mobiles to the wall.
post #8 of 29
And then there's the swing that responds to baby's cries by playing music and lights. I remember an ad I saw for that one that said something like, "For when you can't drop what you're doing to run to your child." Ugh. I'm not anti-swing. I'm not even anti-noise-making-swing. But the impression this ad gives is that it's intended to stand in for a caregiver, and that gives me ickies.
post #9 of 29
its sad isn't it! instead of calling mommy they have fisher price to sooth them :
post #10 of 29
I just attended a baby show for a very non-AP friend. She got one of the light show/ 2 way monitor devices! Someone at the party said "Oh Great! Now you don't even have to get out of bed!!" She was very serious. I know these products may have some good intentions behind them, but I see them being used in very wrong ways....
post #11 of 29
My husband steers me away from the baby section because of the rants I get into about those #$@#! remote control devices so you never actually have to be WITH your baby at night :

I've never figured out why people think a baby's needs change because of the position of the sun.
post #12 of 29
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Originally posted by OhMel
sadly, they do exist. Well, I don't know if they have them combined with the monitors yet, but they do have play pens that you can record your own soothing words or whatever so you don't actually have to sing or something icky and involved like that. That said, I did just do about 30 rounds of Row, Row, Row Your Boat.
See, when I posted about the voice recording, I had a funny feeling someone was going to say that it already exists. I was hoping nobody would, though...ugh, I think I'm going to be sick.


I'm sure anyone could come up with at least one circumstance in which something like this could be useful, but I second what Poetmama says, that devices such as these are misused sooo often. I've noticed that threads like these often elicit a few responses along the lines of, "Wait, I bought one of those because..." and then the person describes some sort of appropriate use for the thing. But I think what we're talking about here is the way these things are marketed, to appeal to parents who think a baby who needs attention is a "difficult" baby, and that anything that can be used as a substitute for attention is a godsend. Ugh again.
post #13 of 29
Well,...I love the light show...
I love lying in bed with Jordy,watch the stars and moon on the ceiling, listen to the music and sing to her...
It has never put her to sleep or anything...she is to curious about the pictures and doesn't even think of going to sleep then...
I never leave her alone in the room no matter what, but the night show is a great feature, I think...
I'm sure Jordy would do without it and she doesn't even understand what's a star and what's moon, so it's basically for me...{ditto Lisa...}.
Mags
post #14 of 29
We got both the remote control monitor/light show thing AND the fischer price activated music swings as gifts, ugh! I thought about keeping the light show for ds1 who is 10, but exchanged it for something useful. The whole remote control part was what bothered me; not the light show itself grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.

The swing. Our neighbor loaned us an older swing (crank kind) and ds did love it as a newborn. MIL, trying to be helpful, went out and bought us the new fp swing that plays music and such if baby cries. We didn't use it, as it offended me; AND it is designed poorly (for my ds2's needs, anyway).......it's way too upright for a small baby, and if the baby moves his legs alot they keep bumping on the tray part. Ds2 didn't like the new swing. We gave it away.

Most of what we got as gifts we returned or gave away. Though we did get some cool stuff, like the Tiny Love gym (which is mostly cloth), clothes, and books, yay!
post #15 of 29
If we could get just the light show we would have been there in a minute. It was the whole combo monitor/light show/remote thing thhat sickened me.

I am intreiged by the mobil. We love mobiles around here and we could always use another one with dancing lights. hmmmm, how to convince dh . . .
post #16 of 29
Thread Starter 
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If we could get just the light show we would have been there in a minute. It was the whole combo monitor/light show/remote thing thhat sickened me.
I know-- the light show thing was okay. I had a peaceful planet aquarium but it broke. :-( Now we have a square lamp with rice paper (or something like it) on the outside, and a round spinning schene on the inside, and when it rotates it projects dophins all over the walls. Pretty, and only cost $10 and no remote controls.

Darshani
post #17 of 29
I had the light show monitor, but it made a constant clicking noise that drove DH and I up the wall, so we exchanged it for a traditional one - and haven't even used it. We were going to use it so DH could hear me when I'm in the living room and he's in the back room and I'm nursing and dying of thirst but don't want to scream for fear of waking the baby. =)

I think the saddest part of the soothing industry is they're telling moms that they can't take care of their own children. "Baby's always cry, they're horrible, and you can't do anything about it. So, you go in the back room and leave your fussy pain in the butt to us (after all, you're incompitent and can't do it anyway)."

~Melissa
post #18 of 29
An unfortunate side effect of this is that parents think that babies aren't supposed to be fussy. We get so many calls..."She just wants to nurse every hour or two!" "He cried every time I put him down!" "He won't sleep in his crib!" on and on. And we have to constantly say, "It's okay, it is normal, if she wants to nurse every hour, nurse her every hour. If he cries when you put him down, don't put him down. If he won't sleep in his crib, let him sleep with you..."

People feel all this pressure from commercials, friends, and even peds to have this baby that never cries, that self soothes, and who understands that the world doesn't revolve around him. They don't understand that it is normal for the world to revolve around a baby! And for many of them, the feel like they have to do what "they" say, not what their own instincts are telling them.

I can't even go to the baby isle anymore. My standard gift is a sling now....I give it with a note about how much my children loved it, and then I never had to put them down. I feel like some moms almost need permission to parent according to thier maternal instincts, not according to fisher price!
post #19 of 29
On that note, lorijds, I was curious as to why more sling manufacturers such as Maya Wrap don't actually sell and promote their slings in mainstream stores. I guess they think it's not worth the effort and that mainstream parents would think it was not for them or something. But, Dr. Sears' sling (NoJo) is sold in Babies R Us, Target, etc. Hmmm.
post #20 of 29
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Originally posted by Melissa Johnson
On that note, lorijds, I was curious as to why more sling manufacturers such as Maya Wrap don't actually sell and promote their slings in mainstream stores. I guess they think it's not worth the effort and that mainstream parents would think it was not for them or something. But, Dr. Sears' sling (NoJo) is sold in Babies R Us, Target, etc. Hmmm.
And that NoJo sling doesn't work for so many moms, because it's one size fits all (or none, really). Then you get people who say, "oh, my baby didn't like the sling." Or, "slings really hurt my back." It's frustrating! So many great slings out there and only a crappy one is widely available.
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