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post #21 of 36
I've had good & bad. I have a friend that seems to find it a point of pride that she can keep her babies as far away from her as possible from birth on. Nevermind that (for example) the youngest one apparantly suffers from rage syndrom. They are "successful" in moving her from high chair to stroller to play room to private bedroom, and it seems they're quite smug about it when they see me with my little one in the sling. We'll see. Her older children are going through a pretty bratty phase right now; I'll be interested to see how it all works out as the children grow. For now all I know is I'm happy and my baby's happy, and when it comes right down to it - ain't that what it's all about?

OTOH, I also get lots of comments out of public of "I've never seen one like that" and how handy it must be when I'm doing things like (for example) going through a buffet line or navigating through a crowd. I'm very active in dog sports & I used to hate it when people would bring their children in a stroller - they're right down there at dog level - with mom standing behind the stroller - and even though these are trained dogs, it doesn't mean they're necessarily child friendly and it can happen so very, very fast. I feel she's a ton safer on me, even though I'm anxoius to get her in a back hold - that way if a dog jumps on me it can't touch her.

I hate it when she's snoozing in her car seat and I have to lug that big thing into stores. It's heavy and clumsy. I'd much rather have her in the sling!!!!!
post #22 of 36
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Originally Posted by mollyeilis View Post
I can't imagine how people think strollers are convenience items,
I dunno...it works great to carry the diaper bag and any shopping bags.

Actually my little guy LOVES sleeping in the stroller. Loves it - so sometimes we do walking naptime. But awake time? Nope.
post #23 of 36
I'm new to babywearing, as our first is only 9 weeks old. I've never seen or even heard of anyone wearing their baby IRL.

I wear my DD when running errands, and have only had good comments so far - "She looks so comfy in there!" being the most common. I was walking up and down the aisles of a CVS the other day and a woman passed me in one direction and exclaimed "Smart!" - then I saw her coming from the other direction with her mother in tow in the next aisle and they asked where I got it, how it worked, etc. I'd like to think I turned someone on to babywearing already!
post #24 of 36
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Originally Posted by shelbean91 View Post
I just say it makes my life easier and they like it.
: That is totally what I'd like to matter-of-factly say to those who are weirded out by babywearing. Instead I find myself awkwardly defending it. Ah, well.
post #25 of 36
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Originally Posted by aisraeltax View Post
my friends believe i hold my baby too much but he is the best baby i have ever been around (didnt know about them before finding mdc).

worn babies are happy,healthy and very well adjusted!
I totally agree! My mom had said that picking up my daughter and holding her all the time was going to spoil her but she's since changed her mind since she's seen how happy and confident my daughter is I definitely see a difference between dd and other kids in my moms' groups.

I usually reply with how great it is to cuddle with my daughter when I know this time will pass too soon. People generally nod their heads at that-- unless they're old diddies and then I just don't care what they think
post #26 of 36
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Originally Posted by BetsyS View Post
I was shopping in the international market Friday, and I had 3 different women come up to tell me how much the sling reminded me of "my home country." One was Haitian, one Romanian, and one Korean. Pretty cool.
I get this a lot too! My Nigerian neighbor saw me with ds on my back and said I looked "very motherly!" Made my day. And one women in costco asked me to remind her of how to use the rebozo (she had 2 preschoolers and a baby) 'cause she'd been in the states so long she forgot that women even did this.

I have had a few rude comments and mostly I feel like it's none of their business so I reply simply and firmly that it works for us and walk away. With family, I have given my philosophies in more detail (why this works and how it works, etc) but again, simply and firmly because this is my child and DH & I are accountable for who he becomes. Not his grandparents or his aunts or uncles.
post #27 of 36
The only negative comment I've got was "she's not suffocating in that thing is she?" from a greeter at walmart of all places. I just said no and kept walking.

Some people were curious, probably because very few people I've seen around this town wear their babies, most use strollers. I've been asked if it was comfortable and I said yes, she usually fell asleep or calmed right down when I put her in it. That to babies it feels like being in the womb with all the rocking motion when we walk, heartbeat & warmth. I explained how I loved having my hands free to do housework or shopping

I'm not really trying to convert anyone to baby wearing though. I don't think strollers are bad and I figure if you start off telling someone "strollers bad, slings good" all they're going to hear is that you think they're doing something wrong instead of hearing about how great baby wearing can be.
post #28 of 36
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Wow, so many of you have had positive comments!! I've tried saying many of the things you have all pointed out. But somehow they always come back with something negative. Like when I say "It makes her happier" they say shes manipulating me. If I say "It makes me happier too" they then say I'm obsessed with her - I mean I can't win!! I think the next elderly person who says the line "You're making a rod for your own back" I think I may actually explode. A lot of the time I don't even put buby in a sling - She reall doesn't seem to like it But every now and then I try, but most of the time I just carry her round. Slightly inconvenient but still makes her happier, and in turn makes me happier. And with co-sleeping. That makes us both a lot happier!
post #29 of 36
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But somehow they always come back with something negative.
Huh, well if they're convinced they're right - good for them. *insert rolling eyes here* It's your baby's opinion that counts the most though!

I think everyone wants so much to do the best thing for their kids that they are very resistant to any idea that is different than theirs. If everyone were doing the same thing they could be assured they are right. IMHO, when they start seeing other ways of doing things it's like a walking question to their own value system.
post #30 of 36
I just tell people "This is the way we have chosen to raise our children". I will give them info if they seem intrested, but many are not intrested in learning, they just know how they did it and that is the correct way and there is no changing thier minds anyhow, so I dont worry myself over it.

The funniest one, though, when my nephew was 1 month, my SIL's grandmother told her that he wasnt getting enough exercise because she wore him in a Hotslings all the time.

I want to know how a 1 month old exercises!
post #31 of 36
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Originally Posted by RainbowsMum View Post
Wow, so many of you have had positive comments!! I've tried saying many of the things you have all pointed out. But somehow they always come back with something negative. Like when I say "It makes her happier" they say shes manipulating me. If I say "It makes me happier too" they then say I'm obsessed with her - I mean I can't win!! I think the next elderly person who says the line "You're making a rod for your own back" I think I may actually explode. A lot of the time I don't even put buby in a sling - She reall doesn't seem to like it But every now and then I try, but most of the time I just carry her round. Slightly inconvenient but still makes her happier, and in turn makes me happier. And with co-sleeping. That makes us both a lot happier!
These are strangers, right? Then might I suggest "Do I know you? No? Then mind your own business, you know nothing about babywearing and it's clear that you're too *UA violation* to learn."
post #32 of 36
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The funniest one, though, when my nephew was 1 month, my SIL's grandmother told her that he wasnt getting enough exercise because she wore him in a Hotslings all the time.
I hear quite often that babies need to cry to clear their lungs out, that it's how they get exercise." In the US a baby's crying is measured in hours. The LLL book I read a while back, OTOH, says that in some babywearing /
breastfeeding cultures the infants cry an average of 30 seconds at a time.

Maybe she's not spending enough time crying that she's not "getting her exercise" ?

When your infant grows up unable to speak above a whisper or woefully underdeveloped due to his/her not having the opportunity to go into total meltdown, let me know. Until then, I think I'll just keep doing what my instincts tell me to do.
post #33 of 36
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Originally Posted by GypsyGrin View Post
When your infant grows up unable to speak above a whisper or woefully underdeveloped due to his/her not having the opportunity to go into total meltdown, let me know. Until then, I think I'll just keep doing what my instincts tell me to do.
So true. And in all honesty I'd rather have a quiet "whispering" happy child, than a loud unhappy one, KWIM?

Some of these people are strangers, some are friends - Or family of close friends. I think I'll stick with sapphire_chans suggestion: "Do I know you? No? Then mind your own business, you know nothing about babywearing and it's clear that you're too *UA violation* to learn."
post #34 of 36
First of all don't ever feel like you should have to make excuses for doing what is best for your baby I am constantly finding myself defending my choice to wear and co-sleep.

My mother is always telling me that I spoil my DS, and I need to put him down or he will never learn to crawl! lol She also reminds me that she would never have let any of us sleep in her bed b/c of what it would have done to her sex life?? No imagination, or spontaneity I guess
The funny thing is that in the same breath she comments on what a good calm, quiet baby he is. Go figure.

My feeling is this. I don't think God (or whatever your belief is) gave us little ones to carry and keep safe and warm in our wombs for nine months- to later throw them in a crib that resembles a cage with no body warmth or heart beat, and push them around in a cold stroller as if they were a germ on parade. There is a reason why our babies love to be close and warm-b/c it is the way God & nature intended it

Here is a link to some great babywearing articles written by a doctors. They go over some great points and scientific advantages. Maybe it will help you give them something to think about.

http://www.didymos.de/english/index_e.htm
post #35 of 36
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Originally Posted by 425lisamarie View Post
I think it's kind of funny, I hear all of these stories about woman who get all these rude comments, people that stop them on the street, etc to tell them wacky things about wearing a sling. I've never had this happen . I mean, sure, the random person here and there asking where I got it or something....maybe I just don't notice or people don't want to talk to me I've only had little comments on a nice note
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post #36 of 36
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Originally Posted by philomom View Post
Babies don't last long. Soon enough I'll be chasing her.

Holding your baby instills a strong sense of trust in you and the world at large.

They fuss less if held more.

No, they aren't that heavy.

Spoil a baby? Only milk spoils.

Is this true! I was just looking at my 2 boys and thinking how big they are!
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