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My dd is one year old now and while I feel I have generally adjusted well to motherhood, I feel like my level of mental alterness, or sharpness and clarity simply isn't what it was pre pregnancy. I assume this is somewhat par for the course, due to lack of sleep, lack of space/time to self-nurture, demands to multitask endlessly, etc, but I'm wondering what others are experiencing with this. I dont particularly think that anything is wrong with me, but I certainly go through the days with a fair amount of fogginess in my head, and never seem able to organize myself and my day well. I used to concider myself a very efficient person, but I feel as though I am only operating at 50% of my previous capabilities now, which was fine at 3 weeks pp, but now, one year later, it seems excessive, and is frustrating and I'd like to return some ballance to my life. I have ambitions of going back to school, working, etc and wonder how I will ever pull it off at this rate!! I am breastfeeding on demand, which is every couple of hours, day and night, and we co-sleep.

I have begun taking omega-three's and a multi vitamin, and also watching my diet. I am food concious and eat according to my known food allergies which I avoid (bread, dairy, eggs, soy, etc...) and certainly when I DO eat the forbiddens, I feel my mental capacities plumit!! The suppliments I just began, so we'll see how that goes....

Anyone find anything that works for them to regain mental alertness and ballance into their lives?? Any ideas?? Stories to share???

Thanks
Sarahfina
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I have heard it takes about two years to get back to normal. DD is 22 months and I am starting to feel more clear-headed.

Its important to continue taking a good prenatal while breastfeeding (I don't think a multivitamin is adequate). The omega-three's are also a good idea. I also added a slow release iron that I take every other day.

Make sure you get quite a bit of good protein during the day, and try to avoid sugar and too many fruits.

When you have a toddler, it doesn't require much higher level cognitive functioning to engage with her. After a while our brain kind of fades out from lack of cognitive stimulation. Its important to try to find a way to continue to exercise our brains during this time. A couple of ideas:

Reading (even if the only time you can find to read is 2-3 minutes while sitting on the potty ).

Doing something creative while listening to Mozart (painting, sculpting with playdoh, etc.).

If you have a musical instrument, learn to play a new song on it (lol I am currently trying to play "Twinkle Twinkle Little Star" on DD's accordion).

Yoga (for both mental focus and well-being of your body).

Logic puzzles (you can get a logic puzzle magazine).
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sarahfina....i felt the exact same way! (still do, to an extent). before children, i was super-organized & efficient & capable of maintaining a professional nursing career as well as a busy social life. after kids, my life turned upside down. it took (and still takes) a lot of daily personal reminders as to what is a priority & what isn't because i know i can't get it all done like i used to. (a few years back one of my dearest friends came over and, in a very funny way, took a look around my house & said, "you sure have relaxed since having kids. thankfully i could laugh it off & be proud that cleanliness was [I]not[I] next to Godliness, in my house. )

i find the most important thing at this point in my mothering journey is to not be afraid of a little selfishness. the more i take time for myself, the more clear-headed i am. i have a 3.5 yo, almost 2yo & one on the way. i've been a SAHM since my first was born but, as nutty as it's making my life, i decided to regroup & become certified as a doula & childbirth educator. i am so happy & my organizational skills are coming back to me!

i've never done any reading on this, but i would agree with the previous post that it takes a couple years to start feeling motivated again. it scares me to think i'm going to be starting it all over again in a few months but with each child i feel a bit more prepared for what i'm in for! and most of it is pretty darn wonderful!
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