Need advice with ex - Page 2

[laralou]

Thanks!

[Dale]

There are people who behave irresponsibly because they are fundamentally exploitive of others. Such people seldom change in any meaningful way, even if they find a new hat to wear that makes them look as though they have. Then there are people who behave irresponsibly because they are immature. Such people often grow up late in life.

I think it is possible that dsf belongs in that second category. If so, he may surprise you by turning out to be a better man, and a better father, than you currently expect. He may be more sincere than the "chase" theory gives him credit for. Then again maybe not. I'm glad I'm not the one making those decisions.

One more thought, and I'll quit "championing" him. I hope that dh and dsf can make peace with each other. Such a peace may become very important to ds as he grows.