No yelling challenge - Page 2

[AntoninBeGonin]

Originally Posted by bobica

I'm in. a little late in the game but i haven't yelled since yesterday! I'm also quite the snapper- we may have to have a no snapping/sniping challenge next! :

Great idea

~Nay

[aywilkes]

Count me in! Just what I need!! So will we check in each day or something?

[JamesMama]

Count me in! I haven't been with James all day (shopping) but I'm still in for the rest of the week!

But I'm like Kelli, I have a short fuse...I'm working on it though. Seeing if DH's ins covers therapy...

[AntoninBeGonin]

Originally Posted by aywilkes

Count me in! Just what I need!! So will we check in each day or something?

Yep. Everything's in post 9

~Nay

[CharlieBrown]

so far today has been good!

[mommajb]

I'm in.

I really need this. Just reading the thread made me more careful. I suppose I am more of a snapper, and it is more directed at my older two. The little ones wear me out and I snap. Well, they are about to go to read/rest/bed and I counted 3 snaps today. The sad thing is nobody was doing anything 'wrong', just moving slowly when we needed to get going, being kids, living in the moment.

I like the idea of taking stock each day.

[Think of Winter]

I'm in. I need all the help I can get. I'm a snapper, and I get louder and louder and louder waiting for a response from ds.

[eldadeedlit]

Late, but in!

[girlsmamma2]

ooooo, I did soooo good today! No snapping or yelling at all! I tried a few techniques I researched last night (telling dd what she COULD do instead of could not, naming her feelings for her, teling her what older dd liked and made her happy, praising her) worked wonders. I knew all this before but really thought about the damage I was beginning to do by NOT using them or taking the time to use them. You could feel dd's energy change. I only hope I can keep it up tomorrow because the kiddos both went to bed an hour and a half late. that means grumpies for tomorow.

and whooops, i kind of redirected the anger at my dh a couple times! . poor guy. Well, we were out in the wood picking a Christmas tree and I wanted a gigantic one and he chose that subject to bicker with me on....men. ...um...got my GIGANTIC Christmas tree though!

i'm going for day two in the morning...boy does it feel good!

How's everyone else doing?

[witchbaby]

i will preface this by saying this was not our average friday. usually by friday i'm completely fried from being the only adult 90% of the time-- we had thanksgiving with my family yesterday, so i got some time off, plus the husband only worked half-day today, so that helped.
in any case, i did really well today. no yelling! i'd remind myself when they (usually k) did something i normally yell for and really try to talk to them/her respectfully. it was tough at times (k has a new fun habit of running shrieking through the house randomly), but i'm really proud of myself. i really hope i can keep it up!
love and support to all of you working on this!

[afishwithabike]

This IS a wonderful Idea. That is my weakness too. I won't hit BUT I in anger will yell. I HATE that about myself.

[l_olive]

I'm in. Today with all the grandparents, aunt, uncles and cousins running around, it was NOT a stellar day. Tomorrow will be better!

--Olive

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I'm in, though I feel like I'm setting myself up for failure. Tomorrow we visit my aunt's house, then go to the mall to get my mom's glasses (living with my parents atm with 19mo DD : ). She is so darn sensitive (as am I), the mall drives me UP A FREAKING WALL, but she will have a place to play there. My mom is also very insensitive about DD's DIRE need for sleep. If she does not nap fully or at her normal time, she becomes explosive. But I suppose if I can do it on a day full of triggers (for the both of us) than a normal day should be easy with some accountability thrown into the mix, right?

[LynnS6]

OK, so I'm 0 for 1 today.

I yelled (just a minor one "HEY!!") when dd closed the door when I went out to the freezer in the garage and then was holding it shut when I tried to come in.

But, I really lost it at bedtime. They were jumping on the bed, slide off the bed, upsetting the laundry bin. And I yelled. And my kids said "Don't yell. That's not nice." Hey, at least they've got the vocab and the guts to tell me not to do this!!

[eclipse]

I'm in. Everyone is asleep and there's only 30 minutes left in the day, so I'll start tomorrow. I really need to work on this.

[Jessy1019]

I'm late, but I'm in. I failed yesterday during a ridiculous argument over white patent leather shoes, but today is a new day.

No more yelling.

[JamesMama]

Okay, recap from yesterday. I was amazingly gentle and kind...until about 9:00pm...my mom got him this really awesome train set and he broke 2 of the tracks. I said (loudly, not screaming but upset) "James! Grandma got that for you and you just broke it! Thats bad." : and he went into DH half sobbing saying "I broke." and then came to me and said sorry. Crap...

[sdm1024]

I'm game

...but wow...I'm going to have to break nearly 30 years of habit and learning for this one.

[Mialsse]

Yesterdays recap ...

Soooo, I snapped one more time yesterday We came home, and it smelled like cat pee in the house (one of our cats is having issues, and it is really : me!) So, again, it was my frustration directed at them that led to the snap. They started running around trying to find the culprit cat. When they found her, they chased her, she got scared and they laughed. In a raised voice I snapped something like "how would you like it if you were scared out of your mind, and the rest of us laughed about it"?

So, 2 snaps for yesterday today will be much better (I just woke up :yawning: ... I was dead tired I guess.)

[AntoninBeGonin]

Aw darn! I did so good, no yelling or snapping at all until 1030 this morning. Ds 26 months used to cosleep but moved into his own bed about 2.5 months ago. He comes in the morning to snuggle with his dad, sister, and me and to nurse. He always refuses to take turns with sissie so I end up lying on my side to feed her and he comes from behind me and wraps himself around my topside to get to the top boob. So I have 30 pounds of baby lounging on my ribcage. Finally he fell asleep on me and Dh moved him over to the twin bed pushed up next to ours. Long story short, I had to go to his bed when he woke, laid there for an hour after he went back to sleep, eased myself away and went back to my bed. Ds immediately crawled over and repositioned himself on my ribs Once again he finally finished, laid back on my ribs, and then started tweaking my nipple. : I hate that! I used to let him do it because I used to not be able to feel it at all but ever since I got pregnant with Dd I can't stand it. Anyhow I've spent nearly every day for a year trying to break this habit. I tell him no, use positive language, move his hands, cover myself with my hand, praise him for not doing it, etc. Usually he does stop but this morning he started fussing and fighting me until I finally just snapped "Get off me! Just get off me!" Then I went and took a shower. After I got out he was happy and wanted to play with me.

Sorry that was so long. I'm glad I haven't yelled and I've only snapped that one time. Gotta see how the rest of the week goes.

~Nay