DD is 2.5
we are in a 2bdrm apt. one is our bedroom. the other is the toyroom. the main problem is, they are ALL her toys, and she feels strongly about them all, mainly, cause its her "turf" her toys, her space. make sense???
so even if its a toy she isnt usually very interested in, if one of the other kids want to play with it, or even show an interest in it she runs over and grabs it from them, i am NOT fast enough to stop her most of the time. we talk about how its not very nice to grab, that so n so was playing with it, and taking a turn with it, and she can take a turn with something else, then try to find an alternative for her to play with. but she doesnt want what so n so has because she wants to play with it, she just doesnt want THEM to play with it. she has become VERY possessive of her space and toys, and she has started lashing out with her hands. it worries me and bothers me. no one ever thinks THEIR kid will be the bully. and she hasnt ever had it modeled for her. when we lived with my mom, her cousin who was in daycare started hitting her pinching her and pulling her hair. then i limited her exposure to her cousin so she wouldnt be exposed to that behavior. that was like 6 months ago. now she is the bully, and its breaking my heart. i have such a hard time watching my child go from SO awesome and sweet and fun when its just us to a little beast when the other kids are here.
i am trying to keep her from the other kids unless she can use soft hands and use her words to express herself. it doesnt even bother me when she roars at anyone, because at least she is verbally expressing how she feels. then i validate her feelings, we hug, and she moves on. but the hitting, hair pulling, etc. its bothering me SO much!