Originally Posted by Aubergine68
Congratulations on the preschool position, Kim!
Sounds like a perfect fit for you and your son. Any chance there is a spot for your dcb there during the day? Any chance you could still look after him after hours, since you said you'd be doing evening babysitting....
Giving notice is hard because one does bond with the little ones and their parents. I suggest the following:
--Write a letter that states the last day of care you can provide, the reason for the termination, and your regrets. I would also state that the mom can leave care early if she finds the right place, in these circumstances, without paying out the month, but you have to do what you can.
-- Give the parent the letter at pickup on a Friday (tomorrow would be great) since that gives her the weekend to process this and to get started on looking for a new caregiver. Tell her what is in the letter when you give it to her.
-- Talk to the mom about transitioning the little one out of care. I often plan a playdate or two over the month following the end of care because it is hard for one's own children as well as the dc child to have those relationships end abruptly.
-- If you have a network of child care providers in your area, you could offer the mom suggestions about finding a new caregiver.
--- I always give a little gift to the child on the child's last day. Usually a copy of a book the child loves at my home inscribed to the child.
Good luck! Do let us know how it goes.
There is a good chance that I will actually be able to care for him part time once I start, as I will only be doing two days a week for a while, with the occasional full week to fill in for teachers who are taking vacation time. I will definitely offer her those days to help her find care. I most likely will not be able to help her with evening hours, as I will be at the preschool from 7:30-5:30 each day that I am there. They are a preschool/daycare type place so they have after school hours.
I so wish I could give her notice today, but she is away for a long weekend and will not be back until Wednesday. I will have her son for about two hours on Wednesday next week. I will definitely have a typed letter for her and let her know what is in it. That is a good idea. I think it will soften the blow a bit to her.
Helping her to find care is a good idea too. I have a friend who just offered to help out if she could find a provider right away. She used to work in a preschool, but has been a SAHM for about 6 months now, so she has some free time. She is not looking to become a permanent provider, but she would definitely be a good choice while they look if they can't find care right away. I think between my months notice, and her care, they should be able to find something. Maybe not the ideal provider, but at least find care while they get on some waiting lists. I am not positive, but I don't think they are on any lists right now.
As for the place I am working, there is a 3 year wait list right now, so definitely no spots for her son.
Plus, I am pretty sure he would not do well there. He is super sensitive guy, and has a hard time in group situations. There can be as many as 20 kids there at a time, which would overwhelm him, I think.
I also like the idea of doing some play dates to help the kids ease the transition too. Both boys will have a hard time not seeing each other regularly, I am sure. I will also do a small gift for him too. He already has a copy of the book that is his favorite, so I will have to think on that one. Maybe a toy that he really likes? I don't know. Definitely something good to think about.
Thank you so much for your response. You seem like such a great care provider, your kiddos are lucky!
As a side note, I am so excited to have my house back as just ours. I think my son will do so well at the new place, and it will be nice to not have to worry about him sharing some of his more treasured toys here. He has a hard time sharing a few of his things, and it is hard to take them away from both boys.
The new place is so beautiful too. We went for a trial day today, and my son just seemed to be thriving there. He played in the indoor sandbox, painted a picture, worked in the oatmeal sensory table, played out in the snow, curled up with some kids to hear a story, watched lunch be made while he stood on a stool at the counter, and generally had an absolute blast watching all of the other kids do their thing. I think it will be such a good place for him to be. It is so nurturing there, and their emphasis on natural toys and self directed play is just what I was looking for. There is no way I could afford a place like that on my income, but working there is making it a formerly impossible dream come true for me.