My grandson had a very difficult hospital birth twenty-three years ago,and my daughter was told by this ever so wise dr. that she could never have a vag birth again. Thirteen months later her second son was born @ home after a four plus hour labor. We were about to go for a walk and she said something on the order of "I don't know what's happening, but there's something hanging!" It was her beautiful baby boy. The births were as different as these two looked, one dark hair, skin, eyes, the other fair, blue-eyed and blonde, both the same parents. They both received immunizations,both were breast-fed and parented the same. Early on I noticed how no eye contact was made, or at least not often with number one. I thought he was "shy"
By age eight he was diagnosed as ADHD. The road became bumpy for him I believe because of being labeled. He lived off and on with me, each time convinced he could stay away from drugs and alcohol. Reading previous threads I see so many same stories as his, and now he is somewhere around the Austin,Texas area and we haven't heard from him in awhile. Scarey, but it's not in my control to prevent it, but how I wish it was! He is a beautiful artist, and I treasure the few drawings of his I have. What could we have done to make the outcome different? He is bits and pieces of all the stories,so many factors combined, yet not one identified. How sad in our society that we have so much knowledge, but can't find the autism answer!!! Addiction in todays world is powerful,and I wonder how his autism has contributed, and/or if other young adults have experienced a higher percent of addiction with autism. This young man knows he doesn't "fit in", and when he is high and living on the streets, he either doesn't care, or those addicts around him, because of their addictions, do not view him as different, so therefore he is comfortable. How I wish I could wave a magic wand and make he and all who suffer with this horrible illness just be comfortable in their own skins. Did we as a society cause those who are not as what we view as "normal" to have so much sadness? I hope I haven't!!