AAAAARRRRGGGGG! ANOTHER confrontation with grandma!!! - Page 3

[cortsmommy]

Originally Posted by Fyrestorm

Tell her the same thing I told my MIL. You made secisions that you felt were right for your children. It's my turn to make decisions fro mine, If you want to make decisions for any more children, have some more of your own. End of discussion.

I have said that to my mother, my father, my grandmother, and my ex in-laws. It worked.

Since then I have learned to keep my business to myself and when asked nosy questions about anything at all I don't answer.

[Gitti]

suschi, do you know by any chance how to see your site? It is crashing within two seconds.

[CerridwenLorelei]

gabysmom I hate that we are fine

thing. And I wished I had known more about not vaxing many years and first kid ago. My poor 19 yr old.
I am ahem this side of 40ish. I found my old vax card a few months ago.
I had more than what was recommended because we were back and forth through the state and British Virgin Islands. the # made me:
I have way too many autoimmune disorders now and stay ill more than not lately.
Don't know if any of it can be attributed to any of them. But I think the arthritis link is worth persuing for me. I was 16 when first dx with it.
DS had a dx of adhd shortly after the mmr booster -like within the week.
I have a child who is vax injured from the Hep B. He is nor will ever be 'normal' per se,,

so fine.. harumph

[gabysmom617]

Originally Posted by CerridwenLorelei

thing. And I wished I had known more about not vaxing many years and first kid ago. My poor 19 yr old.
I am ahem this side of 40ish. I found my old vax card a few months ago.
I had more than what was recommended because we were back and forth through the state and British Virgin Islands. the # made me:
I have way too many autoimmune disorders now and stay ill more than not lately.
Don't know if any of it can be attributed to any of them. But I think the arthritis link is worth persuing for me. I was 16 when first dx with it.
DS had a dx of adhd shortly after the mmr booster -like within the week.
I have a child who is vax injured from the Hep B. He is nor will ever be 'normal' per se,,

so fine.. harumph

Yeah, I saw a link stating how AD/HD and schizophrenic disorders could be related to vaxes in some cases. I have both. I also read that asthma could be related. MY husband has AD/HD and asthma.

Yes we are so fine. My husband can be so : : sometimes.

I don't know, I just guess (and it's a guilt thing i'm trying to work out within myself) I feel that when I stand up to my ma that I betray her. She is not a people person, she doesn't trust people much. She is very nervous, anxious, and very fake to other people, even my two sisters. But she (seems to be) at ease with me, and she feels she can just let go with me, all the good and the bad.

I've been reading up about dysfunctional families since I started this thread. She can't let herself "go" and be "at ease" with anybody, it seems, accept me. My dad can be very controling and irritable sometimes. My mom grew up in an alcoholic household. Lot's of issues there, she doesn't talk about much though. She says she hates alcohol though. Her mom was very...um...weird. I can't imagine how it would be to grow up in a house with a mental mother and and alcoholic father. I think she "releases" all of that controling and negativity on me, because she feels at ease with me, and it's just so built up.

Ok, I think I need to go elsewhere to finish my theraputic family dysfunction discussion.

But anyhow, I was just saying that to say that that's why I think I have a hard time just standing up to her. Not to say I won't, cause I'm not getting vaxes.
She just doesn't respond to subject changes. I've used that tactic many many times. She's very confrontational like that...just to me though.

[CerridwenLorelei]

go to the homeschool board

and look up 'bean dip"
Just switch it around to cover vaxes!

[TxMominCT]

Y'all all should do a google movie search for "what's in a flu shot" there is this very very funny spoof on why you should (or shouldn't) get your shot! You'll love it.

[Electra375]

A person's vax status is private. I will openly discuss it here, but not IRL. My dh does not even know the extent of our children's non-vax status -- I'm in charge of their well-being plain and simple.

I'm sorry you are having such a terrible time with your mother, the simple solution is to say "she's fine, the doctor's visits are fine, I'm not discussing it further with you."

More simply just don't discuss it with those in your family whom you know will disagree or make your life hard.