amazing Homebirth turned into major emergency c-section

[BathrobeGoddess]

My little girl arrived on Thanksgiving day at 7:46 via emergency c-section. I had a 12 hr labor and had her head 1/3 of the way out when my membranes broke to reveal that she had a prolapsed cord and her heart tones were in the 70's. I tried really hard to push her out for another minute but she wouldn't budge, probably because of her cord not moving because of it being attached to the placenta. My midwife was great, she pushed her back up and got her head off the cord, we called the ambulance and she road on my gurney with her hand holding the babies head off the cord and the Doppler on the babes heart tones. We lost heart tones about 1 minute before being rushed inside and within 2 more minutes I was out under general and she was born. She didn't take very long to come around...they said less than 3 min and she didn't need to be bagged just masked. She is just fine. I was doing just fine with the whole thing going down like it did until I walked back through the door to my house. I am really, really sad that it didn't work out and that I had this 1 in 690 births complication and a c-section. Its going to take me a
little while to get past this, even with knowing rationally there was nothing else for me to do and if I hadn't had a c-section I would also not have my baby with me.

Here are her stats!

Yarrow Kathleen born Nov 23 at 7:46 am

8lbs even

20 in long

She had BLACK hair (both my other two are blondies)

[katie-p-]

I'm so sorry to hear that things went that way. I'm happy that both you and your baby are healthy and at home. Take care, Katie

[MiamiMami]

Hugs to you Mama, and congratulations on your little girl!

[gen_here]

Not that you need the approval of others, Eden, but it sounds to me like you gave your baby the best possible start! You planned and prepared for the most gentle entrance possible, and your pregnancy reflected that. You gave her a beautiful start... then used interventions **as they were invented to be used** to let her continue that life with her loving family! I'm by no means saying that you should "suck it up" or "get over it" - I can totally see how a c-section would be a real shock after such a different plan. But know that I think you and your midwife did an awesome job of working together to save your little miracle. You should be applauded for that!

Take your time healing - physically and emotionally... and let us help where we can.

[DreamsInDigital]

Oh my gosh honey I am so glad you both are okay! Congratulations on your baby but I am so sorry about the emergency!

[Mrs_Hos]

Wow! I'm thankful your water broke so that your mw could see the emergency of the situation! And get her out the safest way! You have a healthy baby!!!!!!!!!!!! Way to go mama!

[holyhelianthus]

thank gooness everything is alright! you did great, momma. congrats!

[Attached Mama]

Congratulations on your new baby! Her name, by the way, is beautiful.

I am sorry that the birth didnt go as planned and that you had to have a c/s. I also had an emerg c/s -with my only dd's birth. It's sure freaky! Wishing you a quick healing and recovery!

[marieandchris]

I too had a planned homebirth go south to a section. Hugs to you. Of course, your birth and its complication is the reason we have c-sections to begin with...there are things that can go wildly, unpredictably wrong.

Strength to you and here's hoping for a speedy recovery!
Marie

[LavenderMae]

Congrats on your baby girl! Welcome Yarrow Kathleen!

[Awaken]

congratulations on your beautiful girl! I"m sure things turning out not as planned was quite a shock. sounds like you had a great and competent midwife who summoned help as it was needed, and this is exactly why we are thankful that c/s and hospitals do exist for when they're truly needed! I'm so glad both of you ended up ok. Take care of yourself

[riversong]

Congratulations on your baby girl! I'm sorry it was not the birth you hoped for, but it sounds like it was handled perfectly. It's great that she's perfect and healthy after a scary beginning.

[bamamom]

AWw mama, I'm so sorry it happened like that for you. It sounds like you guys did everything right, and that the midwife handled it very well on her end.

I hope you guys were treated well at the hospital? Sometimes hospital treatement can cause birth trauma too...

Hugs to ya mama, and enjoy your sweet little one.

[ladybugchild77]

nak

: , yarrow! so sorry ti hear things did not gi as planned but glad you and babe are ok. be gentle to yourself!

[RosesToys]

I'm sorry to hear that things got so difficult at the end of your labor for you. I am glad that you and your midwife were able to adapt quickly and you and the babe are fine.

I hope that processing this big change in your plans comes easier to you than you anticipate. You did what you could to welcome your baby as gently as you could, but sometimes we can't anticipate everything. I think you did a great job birthing your little one.

[papercranegirl]

Congratulations! I am so happy that you and your baby are healthy! Enjoy your babymoon!

It's okay to set aside what happened until you can process it. I know how traumatic an emergency section is, it can leave you feeling completely drained and disappointed to put it mildly. Focus on what matters now- the little one nursing at your chest and know that you can deal with the anger, shock, and sadness anytime. Write about it and seal it in an envelope and when you're ready it will be there. Don't let what happened steal the joy from this moment.

[AllisonR]

Bathroom Goddess,
Well, I know how you feel. My baby was in +2 station and I had push contractions for 5 hours and then ended with cesarean after I couldn't push her past a cervical lip. She was posterior and star gazing or brow presenting, and it just wasn't going to happen vaginally. At least I had a while to debate continuing versus transfer, where in your case it was transfer immediately, no discussion, debate....
I don't know how you feel. I feel 90% ok, because the homebirth part was great, and because I feel I had no other options left. But I still also feel 10% miserable and sad that it had to be that way. It makes me a bit depressed to read all these great home brth accounts of 10lb babies born in 6 hours or something. I'm happy for the mamma's, but sad I am not one of them. Maybe you feel the same way? I hope you can be satisified with the home birth and accept the cesarean. Hugs to you.

[americastamps]

Welcome baby Yarrow Kathleen

Congratulations on your daughter's births.
Hugs for what you have been through. Must have been scary and disappointing. i'm so glad your daughter is ok, and I know you are thrilled she is ok, but it is ok to let yourself mourn the birth you had hoped for too.
You are awesome mama, you did a fantastic job and way to go for hanging in there when things got real rough. You rock!
erica

[mama2toomany]

: Yarrow!!!

[BathrobeGoddess]

Thanks everyone!

I am much better today.

My midwife came to visit me today and I talked to her about how I was feeling. She really left me feeling heard and understood.

A very big piece of my despair is related to what was also taken from Yarrow. She was pulled out, cord was cut right away, no warm mom to go to, she had goop in her eyes and had to go to the nursery. These were all things I did not want for her and my dh and I had never talked about because she was supposed to be born at home. At least dh never left her side and he knew to deny the Hep shot.

I know I will get over this and work through it all but it is going to take me some time.