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post #41 of 46
If you need to pump you need to get a hospital grade pump. I think the Medela Classic pump is the best hands down. Pumping does take getting used to, but what you pump does not = what she gets or you make.

Are you counting wet and poopy diapers? Output is the best sign of input. We used dimes for poops, pennies for pees.

Do you have a LLLeader in your area? Some groups are better than others, but post to FYT and ask if the leader in your area is good, or who to call if there is more than one.

There is a homeopathic remedy for when only one breast is working. I think it's Calc Phos. I can look it up if you PM me if you are interested.
post #42 of 46
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I have the pump that the midwives gave me from the Milk Bank.

I've found my local LLL groups, but none of them meet for another 2 weeks. I've been in touch via email with the leader of the local group and she gave me her phone number, but we've been playing phone tag so far. I'm hoping to be able to meet with her or talk to her sometime soon.

mamaverdi - I'll be PMing you in a moment to get the homeopathic remedy for sure!

Morgan is producing a good number of pee and poop diapers per day, but she was still losing/not gaining weight (we've been going in for check ups at the birth center every day to two days to check up on her). She's been on a soy forumla supplement through an SNS (1 oz every feeding) and has gained back some weight. She's still 6 oz below her birth weight. My main concern is that my left breast never feelslike it is filling. I will feel a let down occasionally on the right, but never on the left. I wake up in themorning and the right screams that I need to feed her but the left is no more full than it was the night before.

Our other big problem at the moment is that she refuses to nap during the day. She'll nap like a champ on and off until about 2 or 3 pm and then she's wide awake until she passes out at around 1 am. Poor thing is obviously exhaused and getting cranky form that, but I've tried everything Ican think of to get her down for a nap in the day time, but with no luck. We've been nursing lying down in bed, we've gone for drives, we've walked in the sling, we've tried the swing... I just can't think of what else to try. And sincce she is so tired and cranky when I do put her on the breast she sucks for a few seconds and then falls asleep. When she is asleep she will spit out my nipple and then in about 1 minute start screaming that she's hungry. We go through this for hours a night.

Any suggestions?? I'm desperate to get her off this formula supplement, but I'm not willing to compromise her weight gain. Again, I think we'd be able to nurse far more efficiently if I could get her to nap...
post #43 of 46
Congrats on your new little one, and although I have no great advice for the supply and weight issues, I just wanted to say that you keep at it. It will get easier, I promise. I had such issues with my first child. My dd went through 2 rounds of thrush, LOTS of gas, ate EVERY 45 minutes from about 2 weeks to four months, and NEVER napped.
My mantra was, "get through another week." At four months, things got dramatically easier. Keep at it. It is such a short time in hindsight...but insane as you go through it. Keep us posted as you work things out.
post #44 of 46
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... My main concern is that my left breast never feelslike it is filling. I will feel a let down occasionally on the right, but never on the left. I wake up in themorning and the right screams that I need to feed her but the left is no more full than it was the night before.

Our other big problem at the moment is that she refuses to nap during the day. ...
It's my first time through this as well. My boobs almost never feel full -- either of them -- because my dd is nursing on demand all day. I look for milk on her face, watch diaper production, and just try to glug down as much water as I can.

My dd is also a non-napping baby, so my only ray of hope for you on this point is that she might end up falling into a pattern of long sleep at night, which would allow you to catch up as well and keep your energy up for caring for her in the day. My dd decided that 9p was bedtime when she was about 4-6 weeks old, and has consistently "crashed" around that time for 6 - 8 hours ever since (we're at 5 months almost now). She feeds once during the night usually then eats a TON in the morning.

good luck You sound like a wonderful mama, not a terrible one. You're willing to work so hard to give your baby the best baby food out there -- that's awesome!!
post #45 of 46
cablegirl, you CAN do it, you WILL do it, heck, you ARE doing it! I know it is natural to feel inadequate, but you are doing your very best - please remember it isn't easy for lots of mamas and you are not a failure. You are giving your baby an amazing gift where many other women would have already given up trying (and, darn, some don't try at all ). I don't know what the deal is with the left breast - it's possible that you just had a less effective latch on the left and the breast wasn't stimulated as much as the right (or I guess it's possible that the left has less mammary glands - but I wouldn't jump to that conclusion right away) but I would just keep pumping for now. It took me a few days of constant pumping (every 2-3hrs or so) to get 1oz per session. I did have to supplement from days 5-12, but did manage to increase my milk enough to lose the supplement. These are such a tough few weeks at the beginning...when you get through this it will give you a sense of your amazing mama strength!

Re: sleeping - have you tried swaddling? (Hope that isn't a silly question if you've already tried it-both my ds loved to be swaddled and rocked - they seemed instantly soothed.)
post #46 of 46
OK, I'll try to add just a couple more things. Like my BFF told me, breast feeding is an art. Apparently, pumping is too. I was just about to give upI didn't start pumping until DD was almost 12 wks, and it took days to get right. I would pump and pump for 2 oz, and same thing, one side would just not pump. Finally, there came that "magical moment" when it all worked out. So, as pp said, don't go on that so much.

*As pp said, use the lanolin, use the lanolin.
*Wear a bra all the time, night and day, until you become more comfortable.
*Hot showers work wonders. Let the hot water flow over your shoulders and down your breasts, and massage them while you are in the shower.
*Try nursing in the football hold, with baby propped on a nursing pillow. You can cradle her in one arm lovingly, and use the other to drink something, flip channels with the remote, flip through a magazine, or talk on the phone to your friends and family. I frequently use nursing time to catch up on phone calls. If you have a headset, all the better. You can nurse, talk on the phone, and still have a hand free.
*Or just prop her there and have 2 hands free, so you can read a book or play a video game, whatever your style.
*Try the nursing pillow at the PC so you can NAK lol.
*In this position, you also get full face and eye contact with your babe.
*Baby not napping could indicate gassiness or other physical discomforts. DD just would not nap at that age lying down flat, it hurt too much, and the same thing, she was good for one nap a day, then no more, or just a few minutes at a time. You might try:
**Nursing her propped up at an angle. Again, the football hold works great.
**Sleeping on the side or inlcined. We do this on Peds advice with a sleep positioner. They also have incline positioners, essentially a wedge shaped piece of foam. You can also try an Amby if you can afford it (see askdrsears.com) though they are pricey. Alternatively, try a bouncy seat or swing. The angle is just so much more comfortable for them, and DC may surprise you and go down for hours. The first time I put DD in the swing at about 8 weeks, I was amazed. Of course, being the AP mom you are, you use it judiciously.
**Elimination diets (check other posts about this while NAK

Finally, don't be too jealous of DH being able to calm her. Just think, Thank God (or whomever you choose) he can, so I can get the heck away for a few minutes to . . . take a shower, massage my breasts, put on lanolin, a nice fresh bra . . . eat . . . call mom . . . etc.
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