kel, thank you for your post of concern. I'll try to address the different issues that are involved here and explain our procedures.
Threads that are opened to bring up issues of a personal nature about individuals are not welcome on our boards. These boards are first and foremost for information and support of issues that are "Mothering" in nature and while we do host discussions of various other topics that you might not find within the pages of Mothering mag, the boards are definitely not open for posts that attack, accuse, or abuse anyone whether a member, a moderator, or Mothering.com
Our moderators are volunteer mamas who are devoted to the Mothering community and who post as members just as they also moderate. It can be a very difficult position to balance, particularly when a post is directed toward them in criticism.
We ask in the User Conduct Rules:
"If you feel another member is behaving in a manner that is in violation of these guidelines, do not take matters into your own hands. Simply alert the Board Administrator at firstname.lastname@example.org
You can read the full list of rules in the User Conduct Rules Document by clicking on this link: http://www.mothering.com/discussions...s=&threadid=11
We ask this because many times words are said on the boards that are hurtful and cause pain to others and this is really not necessary nor beneficial in any way no matter how honest someone is being.
When members fail to do this moderators may post to try to encourage resolution and then contact me to direct my attention to the issue for any necessary administrational action. This is what has occurred here. I believe Missy has acknowledged her responsibility and has tried to explain her own feelings which caused her to respond as she did.
The issue will now be taken up privately as it should have been from the very beginning. I thank you for your concern about the moderation of the boards. We all appreciate a peaceful and respectful board community and hopefully we can all work toward maintaining such an atmosphere for everyone's benefit. If anyone has any questions in this regard feel free to contact me by PM or by email and I will do my best to address any issues you may have.