Mother-in-law is tricky, as she is sublime, passive/aggressive, highly competitive, jealous and really good at saying and doing the cruelest most manipulative things with the sweetest, kindest, softest voice and expressions. This has been an issue for 6 years...now that we have our 7 month old, it has become far nastier and less tolerable for me...she yanks him from my arms when noone is looking, viciously stares at me if I hold him (or if am within five feet of him), and completely disrespects my requests for him to sleep...I feel as if I am not his Mother when she is around...Also, she has an army of family who back her...I feel very alone in this, as she is very brilliant at doing the "when noone is looking" thing...She clutches him for dear life when I am around and refused to hand him back to me when I asked to take him (just to console him when she couldn't calm down his crying)...She even stepped in between us to obstruct DS's view of me because he was smiling and laughing at me while she was holding him...I don't know what to do...I feel so alone and feel I need Divine Intervention for a miracle...I did everything I could see how to give her the message that I am not a threat...I hand him to her, I encourage them to be together, I encourage her ride in the car with DS and DH while I rode with someone else...When DH and I were first together, I made her a scrapbook of just the two of them, sent her framed photos of just him, have always made myself as scarce as possible so she wouldn't feel threatened...She wore black to our wedding and waved at us the entire time the ceremony was performed, hoping for DH to wave back I suppose...The whole family worships her...they see her as an angel...DH doesn't really get it...The only family I have is my 80 year young Grandmother and 90 year young Aunt who are 2 hours away...no siblings etc...We have been to counseling over this and this issue just doesn't seem to let up...Again, it's tricky...she is a mastermind at being mean with that sweet face and voice...Oh! And I am sure she gets away with it because that side of the family are very actively alchoholic (they each drink heavily daily and have for years and years). Any suggestions?
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11/27/06 at 5:03pm