My Pastor called today...asked that Josh and I meet him at the church tonight at 7:00. DH is hoping to become a Pastor so we figured it was either related to that or related to this Sunday night young people service he's wanting to start.
Anyway, one of my friends (from the church, also an AP Mama friend of mine) calls and asks if Pastor got ahold of me because he called her to get my #. He'd called her to, asked her and her DH to meet them at the church.
We show up and Pastor, his wife, and 2 of the counsual members are sitting in the basement around a table...with a mini-voice recorder sitting on the table. I start to get nervous. My friend and her DH and their DS show up shortly after us and we open in prayer and pastor starts in saying that some photos that my friend and I have on our Myspace pages of our children nursing, you can't really see that much, and they say that they are PORNOGRAPHY!! And that we are a bad influence on the teens and that once my friend went to nurse and flashed everyone and some teens saw it. And that it reflects badly on the church and blah blah blah. And THEN they say that it reflects badly on the coffee shop my friends parents own and that people have said they will not go to the coffee shop or to our church because of the photos on our Myspace.
OMGOSH! I went off. I told them that those photos were NOT indecent, they were NOT sexual. And anyone that thinks they are sexual have the issue. Not me. How DARE they insuinuate that there is something wrong with me feeding my child. That I have a LEGAL right to breastfeed ANYWHERE
And they spout off on morals and I have to be a Christian infuance and I'm held to a higher standard as a Christian. And people see I'm a christian...blah blah blah.
He even called my friend and I prostitutes. Not even lying.
And of course they went off on the whole "Breastfeeding is great." but cover up bull crap to which I said "Oh, so I should sufficate my son while he eats? Do you cover your head while you eat?" How is it any different? Why did they attack me like this?
I feel so hurt and betrayed and I just can't believe what just happened. My friend got up and let at the beginning, her DH came back and told them that the church was wrong, they should be ashamed of themselves and that they would not be back to that church ever again.
I got up and left shortly after and after I let DH told them that he wanted no part of that church, resigned our posisitions as teachers and I guess the Pastors wife and one of the counsual members started crying, begging Josh to pray over it and blah blah blah. I won't be going back to that church EVER again.
I've never been so angry and hurt in my whole life.
Anyway, one of my friends (from the church, also an AP Mama friend of mine) calls and asks if Pastor got ahold of me because he called her to get my #. He'd called her to, asked her and her DH to meet them at the church.
We show up and Pastor, his wife, and 2 of the counsual members are sitting in the basement around a table...with a mini-voice recorder sitting on the table. I start to get nervous. My friend and her DH and their DS show up shortly after us and we open in prayer and pastor starts in saying that some photos that my friend and I have on our Myspace pages of our children nursing, you can't really see that much, and they say that they are PORNOGRAPHY!! And that we are a bad influence on the teens and that once my friend went to nurse and flashed everyone and some teens saw it. And that it reflects badly on the church and blah blah blah. And THEN they say that it reflects badly on the coffee shop my friends parents own and that people have said they will not go to the coffee shop or to our church because of the photos on our Myspace.
OMGOSH! I went off. I told them that those photos were NOT indecent, they were NOT sexual. And anyone that thinks they are sexual have the issue. Not me. How DARE they insuinuate that there is something wrong with me feeding my child. That I have a LEGAL right to breastfeed ANYWHERE
And they spout off on morals and I have to be a Christian infuance and I'm held to a higher standard as a Christian. And people see I'm a christian...blah blah blah.
He even called my friend and I prostitutes. Not even lying.
And of course they went off on the whole "Breastfeeding is great." but cover up bull crap to which I said "Oh, so I should sufficate my son while he eats? Do you cover your head while you eat?" How is it any different? Why did they attack me like this?
I feel so hurt and betrayed and I just can't believe what just happened. My friend got up and let at the beginning, her DH came back and told them that the church was wrong, they should be ashamed of themselves and that they would not be back to that church ever again.
I got up and left shortly after and after I let DH told them that he wanted no part of that church, resigned our posisitions as teachers and I guess the Pastors wife and one of the counsual members started crying, begging Josh to pray over it and blah blah blah. I won't be going back to that church EVER again.
I've never been so angry and hurt in my whole life.
to you. Personally I would make sure that that information makes it public. I bet local news would love it.
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I cannot even imagine how you must feel right now. I know that I would be very angry if my pastor and other church members told me something like this. I hope that you and your dh (and your friends) will be able to find a new church that is more accepting (as every church should be!).
: How DARE they?!? I'm so sorry mama! If you were here, you could come nurse beside me! (and the Pastor's wife, for that matter!)
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