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post #201 of 209
Congratulations to your friend!

Send her all our best wishes for a peaceful drama-free pregnancy. It's hard enough being a young momma, with a toddler and PG without adding "unsupportive former friends" to the pile.

I totally understand your decision. That's most likely what I would do in the unlikely event something like that happened in my church (which has so far been very BF-supportive).

I hope you find a caring, bible-believing church HOME soon mama.
post #202 of 209

Prayers for you and your family!

I am saddened by this whole thing. Your old church definately lost its perspective and focus. The wrong pastor can be so damaging to the health of a church.

I hope you find a new church soon that supports you and has the right attitude about a normal, healthy process; feeding our children.

We are all behind you and you are in our prayers! Let us know about your search for a new church home and how it goes!
post #203 of 209
JamesMama,
For what it's worth, notwithstanding the "Ditrict's" wimpy response to you there's a pretty good chance that the pastor was called on the carpet or at least told to be more sensitive in how he deals with these types of issues in the future.

I agree with the previous poster that said sometimes the hardest thing to do is to refrain from fighting. However, you are taking a stand and setting an example. I have to believe that will have a positive impact.

Good luck in finding a more supportive spiritual environment. More than anything your experience illustrates there is oftentimes a big difference between being a Christian and being Christlike.
~Cath
post #204 of 209
I know this is too little, too late, but I wanted to give you my thoughts on the subject.

God made my breasts to feed my child. In doing so, I am following HIS plan for my life, and the act of nursing is an act of worship. Where better to worship God than in His House? Nursing in church is worshiping God. And that's what I will always believe. I can nurse my child, the way Mary nursed my Savior.

Be thankful for this much. You learned the hard way, but now you know what a poisonous den of rats that place is, and you're honestly better off without their influence. God did not give it to us to judge others, that is His realm alone.

Judge not lest ye be Judged.
Let he who is without sin cast the first stone.

I'm praying for your family.
post #205 of 209
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Some random thoughts.....I would list specific demands or things you want to see happen versus IMO the too general "that actions be taken to restore my reputation". An example: I request that we receive a formal written apology from X, Y, and Z. or "we request that a public apology/retraction be printed in the church newsletter" or............
I would also demand that said demands occur by X, and Y date. In addition, I would also demand a response to your letter by blah, blah, blah date and add in something like "OR we will be forced to take further action." I would also send it certified mail.
You can remain vague where you want to and let them wonder WTH you are going to do next, while at the same time you also do not want to use any terminology that could be construed as slanderous or threatening. Sometimes it's best to say as little as possible. Say just enough to get your point across. I would seriously re-consider sending out such a detailed letter. Keep a firm grasp on the hand you were dealt. You don't want your hand forced too soon IYKWIM. IMO, what they did was illegal in whole or in part (not just the "discussion" but the whole surfing your myspace page and printing out YOUR personal property in addition). It truly depends on far you want this to go as to the action you take next. The whole thing reeks. I am so sorry.

DC
JM....they are blowing you off. Re-do the letter and consider some of the suggestions I posted above. They consider you and the situation a joke.... like you will just let them spit on you and your family, and you'll just go away. Don't let them.

DC
post #206 of 209
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I'm considering replying to the letter...just have to get my thoughts in order.
post #207 of 209
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I'm considering replying to the letter...just have to get my thoughts in order.
I'd be saying something about me praying for that troubled hateful pastor who'd call Jesus' own mother a w***e, but that's just me.

for you
post #208 of 209
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I'd be saying something about me praying for that troubled hateful pastor who'd call Jesus' own mother a w***e, but that's just me.
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post #209 of 209
Glad you liked it Heather, I was afraid it was too rude after I posted.
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