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post #161 of 164
I just smile and say yes, the sacrafices are worth it. When I'm cranky I just look at the person and say "take her for a few hours without a nap and then tell me I'm lucky."
post #162 of 164
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Originally Posted by brookesmommy
When I'm cranky I just look at the person and say "take her for a few hours without a nap and then tell me I'm lucky."


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Originally Posted by gargirl
No no no! Oh Nicole, I am so sorry if that is how this came out! Not at all am I saying this!!!! I can see how it reads that way... drat. Not what I was getting at at ALL.
That is cool. I am sorry that I assumed the worst. I think I was responding to several posts along those lines while singling out yours. Peace.

I get the frustration with the word luck, really I do. And when people use it in a snide manner or imply that it is only luck which allows someone to be at home I can see why that would be really annoying. I just wonder why we (collectively in this board) can't seem to agree that a certain amount of luck is involved in our choice to be at home parents. Yes, choosing to be an at home parent does sometimes require sacrifices and hard work (well, always hard work but then again all parenting requires that! ). However, some of that choice is also influenced by luck. The luck to be born into a socio-economic class that afforded us choices long before we had children. The luck to be partnered with someone in a socio-economic class that affords us choices today. And so on and so on. That does not mean it is all luck, but luck is a factor nonetheless.
post #163 of 164
I agree that it is luck. I am married to a great guy that works long hours so I can be a sahm. He does jobs on the side too. I am very lucky. But it is also very hard. I was just barely over 29 when I had my dd. I was very used to the work world and college. Going from social to a sahm is a very big change. I love it and would not change it for anything but most people don't realize how hard it is. Those are the ones I get snippy with.
I've had lots of working mom's tell me that they look up to me because they tried it and couldn't do it. They didn't have the patience.

I think we sahm are a special breed of women and we all deserve a big pat on the back!
post #164 of 164
I would agree that there are elements of luck at work. Luck is definately who/what economic class you are born into for sure. I just get a little bonkers when it seems like people are using the idea of luck in this weird magical way, like all life comes down to luck.

If I thought that way I would still be stuck in a very unhappy life. I don't like to think of other women feeling stuck like I used to.
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