Her fears are real for her, but in her mind "nobody cared", which led to her flipping out...
I also see nothing wrong with that. I also often hear people, but still choose to do what I want...
I'm not arguing with how OP handled things, which I think was fine. She acted like a gentle parent.
But sometimes the hierarchy of parent-child relationships leave kids vulnerable to being treated as less equal or less important. It's easy for all of us to slip into that trap without meaning to. Your words made my mind instantly jar back into remembering that our kids' feelings and motivations matter too - and all of a sudden I saw a dozen new ways to have dealt with that particular scenario that my mind hadn't been open to a few seconds earlier.
That's why I love this place and you ladies .