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post #1 of 12
11/28/06 at 8:09pm
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Anyone else feeling a bit isolated?
My hormones are different than they were after dd--with her I was weepy during and definitely after her pregnancy...
This pg, I wasn't weepy much at all...and now, after having my ds, I'm not weepy, just irritable...and isolated.
My folks are here helping--dh is deployed until Feb...dd is 4 and a sweetheart!
So why (with all these people around) do I feel isolated? I just feel kinda disconnected...friends are leaving me alone for my babymoon...which is nice of them, but....
Anyone else? I don't think I'm explaining this well...and I know it is hormones...but.....
post #2 of 12
11/28/06 at 8:32pm
I'm sorry you are feeling so isolated. I can only imagine how hard it is with DH gone. Even with others helping it just isn't the same. I know it is soon, but have you or are you able to get out at all? For a walk, not an outing outing. Also, while it is great your friends are respecting your babymoon time, sounds like you need them right now. Maybe you can let them know that?

Please keep us posted on how you are doing. Postpartum depression can take many forms and we are here to cyber-support you!!!!
post #3 of 12
11/29/06 at 1:21am
I'm sorry Mama.

I felt very lonely after I had dd too. I hope its better this time around.
post #4 of 12
11/29/06 at 10:51am
I feel so isolated right now, hence the reason I've been living on MDC. DD2 is 5 weeks old now, I haven't left the house except to go to the pedi and once to the store in 3 weeks. I had taken the dd's to storytime once and was just starting to get out and about with two dc when dd2 was 2 weeks old, then we all got pertussis. We are slowly on the mend, DD1 is going insane she is so bored, I have to do something with her today. It snowed here last night and she is going to want to go sledding but I don't see how that is going to be possble with just me home all day, and dd1 still vomits everytime she starts running around.

I live in a very small town, 12 hundred people, two bigger towns are 20 and 35 miles away, with most things being in the one that is 35 miles away. DD2 hates her carseat, I have to sit in the backseat with her, that doesn't work too well when DH is at work all week long.
post #5 of 12
11/29/06 at 12:47pm
I'm so sorry you are feeling isolated. I felt that way after 2nd dd, not immediately but within a few monthes. I took some herbal tinctures that did seem to help. I'm sure having dh gone is making it much worse. I hope you feel better.
post #6 of 12
11/29/06 at 7:23pm
My hormones are all out of wack.
I felt very isolated in the beginning few weeks.
But now i am feeling better.

I felt alot of loss of freedom in the beginning but now I am going out alot more and doing things with my new dd.
post #7 of 12
11/30/06 at 11:05pm
I am feeling pretty isolated, exhausted, sad, happy, overjoyed, overwhelmed, scared, irritable and most of all tired!! Lily will be on week old tomorrow. This has probably been the hardest week of my life. My DH is AWESOME and my parents have been helping out alot but I still end up crying alot. I am very happy and in love with my new little one but I just don't know how I am going to do it whent he help leaves. My mom has been spending the night to help me sleep because she only really sleeps when being held so we need someone else here to help us sleep some. I also keep getting paranoid that she is sick or not okay. I am jsut trying to hang in and hope it gets a little easier. Thankful for MDC!
post #8 of 12
12/1/06 at 2:50pm
I think the feeling of isolation is completely normal and I don't know if there is anything or anyone can help. My DH stayed home for the first two weeks and my parents were in town helping, nevertheless, it was (and many days still are) very isolating...it's very difficult to have baby which is 100% dependent on you all day every day (that doesn't change even if people are around really). My sister who has a young one comes over after dropping her older one off at school a couple times a week and helps force me out of the house for a little walk. I think there is so much going on with your hormones, body, etc. that is hard to feel connected to people right now. Hang in there!
post #9 of 12
12/1/06 at 9:07pm
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Thank you ladies--It is good to know I'm not alone (per se!), although I wish all of us were just overjoyed, and not hormonal ya know?

I've got so many feelings/emotions going on right now it seems impossible/illogical...I'm SO GLAD to have this site!
post #10 of 12
12/2/06 at 11:50am
My hormones and feelings are bit all over the place. Part of me just wants to be left alone and I hate to say it, but sometimes I even want DD out of the house so I can just gaze at my new babe and have some quiet. I'm also disappointed that some of my mommy friends have not called or anything, even when I was in the hospital alone and DH had to go into work. well, gotta run and tend to the chaos here!
post #11 of 12
12/3/06 at 12:59am
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Originally Posted by citymama View Post
My hormones and feelings are bit all over the place. Part of me just wants to be left alone and I hate to say it, but sometimes I even want DD out of the house so I can just gaze at my new babe and have some quiet. I'm also disappointed that some of my mommy friends have not called or anything, even when I was in the hospital alone and DH had to go into work. well, gotta run and tend to the chaos here!
This sounds just like me...I love my dd to death, but she gets on my last nerve lately...poor kid...where has her 'nice mommy' gone?
post #12 of 12
12/3/06 at 7:21pm
Yeah there is no "nice mommy" in this house either. I've been getting so mad at dd1, poor thing.
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