Originally Posted by FreeThinkinMama
Did pushing the baby out hurt a lot more than the contractions? Or were they about the same? I'm particularly interested in hearing from anyone who had a tear without meds
I tore both times, no meds either time during labor, but local while being stitched.
1st time-- I LOVED pushing. It was such a relief after intense an transition. It was work, but not painful-- not even the tearing. DD was born with her arm up (by her face, waving to the world).
2nd time-- Pushing did hurt, but in a different way than cx. I expected the pushing part to be smooth sailing like the 1st time, but it was painful . . .however, I think it was pretty fast. I found that making noise (for me, that was yellng) helped tremendously. The pain was secondary to the fact that I just wanted to get the baby out.
Take labor one step at a time, one cx at a time, one push at a time. Live in the moment, but know that it will have an end (labor won't go on forever!). Learn to look for those moments of peace and calm in between each cx, each push-- take that as your time to breathe and relax. Relish those moments, and then you will be able to handle it when your body is asking more from you.
Sending you peaceful labor vibes!
ETA: My techniques : My labors have been fast, IMO, but I really listened to my body and did what I needed. I took showers, I walked around-- I was almost always standing. Sitting and/or lying down did not work for me at all. At the intense parts, I would have DH time my cx-- that helped me a lot both times. I would tell him (or he'd see) that a cx was starting, and he'd give me a countdown of how many seconds were left/how far I'd gone for that cx. The MW put her hands on my lower back a few times during my 2nd labor (I was in the hallway, waiting for a room) and that helped, too. For me, staying home as long as possible was the best thing.