Well, ITA with most (all, really!) of the pp's... it's the only way to go for so many reasons: it's natural, it's instinctive, it's safer for you and your baby, and like zoe, it's all about FREEDOM. You will NOT have the freedom to follow your instincts if anyone else is around, from early labor to breastfeeding, someone will be trying to tell you how. And Now I Know for a FACT - my instincts have been right all along - the people telling me what to do?? Idiots!!
For some of us, that includes partners! I was actually picked up and placed on my back, by my husband, because the nurse told him I couldn't give birth in a squatting position... AHEM.. I WAS giving birth in a squatting position!!! But I go so deep inside myself during birth, it's very hard for me to respond to what's going on around me. I was soooooooooooooooo po'ed at dp for that one... I felt so betrayed! I'd told him before hand that I was NOT to birth on my back, and needed him to back me up on that. He just gets so worked up when I'm giving birth... very susceptible to people yelling things at him, yk?
So next time, it's all me all the time. And I'm not going to have some well-meaning idiot tell my husband what I can't do. The only way to get there is to not have any well-meaning idiots around. God willing, my husband will become one of those not-present well-meaning idiots. If that doesn't work out... we've talked a lot about how he will wake up tied to the bed to find my angry post partum self hovering over him with whatever blunt object is available!!
What I know will most likely happen for us next time (I hope!!) is that since I'll be the one there, giving birth, in control, having prepared him for everything I can think of, dh will see me as the one with the authority. Plus, he'll be taking care of the other two, so that will keep him occupied.
Additionally, my personal reasons that got me investigating homebirth to begin with, because I had two hospital births that couldn't get any better by anyone's hospital standards, and I still feel that my children and I were shortchanged! If they give you something, like not weighing your baby right away or something, they expect something in return. This is your child, not your damn business contract!!! They start acting like you owe them, when all you've done is allow them to watch you give birth!! Birthing mamas owe NO ONE but ourselves and our being-born babies, and what we owe ourselves is our faith and trust in our design and instinct!!
They meddle meddle meddle... They should be called meddle-calized births!!!
No one will leave you the hell alone. They can't function in that capacity... they're all trained to DO something, and God bless them, midwives by and large are in that same basket (no offense Pamamidwife and others with clues!
) of not being able to sit back and do nothing.
So... had I only known that homebirth was an option six years ago (can't believe how much I've learned!!) and had I only known that UC was an option four and a half-ish years ago... but thank the Lord I know it now.
So I haven't UC'd yet. God willing it will be next year. Either way, I can't imagine doing it any other way ever again... and obviously, I only have the hospital experience to draw on.. never so much as homebirthed w/a midwife before, so pardon all the references to medical birth.