I am totally just butting in here (saw the thread on the "front page") but I just wanted to let you know my experience. I got a hernia when pg w/ #4. The dr never told me it wasn't a good idea to get the surgery, and I was in so much pain that I agreed. I was 5 months pg, and once it was done, I felt great and was so glad I had it done. But the actual surgery was excruciating. It took a lot longer than anticipated, and they couldn't give me too much sedative bc of the baby. And I felt the whole thing. It was very painful. And later another dr said she couldn't believe he had not asked me if I was planning to have more children. We were definitely open to more kids, and this dr said most drs won't do it if you're thinking of having more.
Again, sorry for barging in here, just wanted you to hear from someone who's btdt.
Good luck!
Liz