Do you think it is rude when people comment on your size?

[aywilkes]

Okay, So I am 30 weeks now. Lately - like in the past week, people have been saying to me (strangers and folks that I see in passing regularly) that I look like I'm due tomorrow or that I'm ready to pop now. :
I asked my CNM how I looked and she said I'm not particularly big at all. I have a small frame but my belly sticks out like a basketball. It is kind of annoying to me...and I find it pretty rude too. Plus, i really hate terms like you drop that load, pop, etc.

[Luckiestgirl]

Yeah, I think it's rude, and I get it all the time too. I'm also small framed with a basketball-like middle. It was the same thing with my other pregnancies, too.

[elmh23]

To me it depends on who's saying it. Total stranger: rude. Friend: not rude. But then I have a pretty high level of tolerance for annoying people. Otherwise dh and I would have gotten divorced in my first pregnancy. The man has no filter!

[kathan12904]

I haven't gotten the "you're so big" yet, although I'm sure I will. A few months ago I got "you sure are starting to look pregnant." What is the appropriate reply to that? "Sure am." "Thanks for noticing and commenting upon my appearance." And strangers touching the belly really bothers me.

[jilly]

People are always saying "You still have HOW long? You can't possibly get bigger." or "You must be due almost any day now". I've decided my new response to such comments will be something along the lines of "No, I can still breathe, so I must have at least a month left".

I don't have a small frame, but the baby is all out front, so I do have quite the belly and ds was 8bls 13 oz, so I probably am carrying a fair sized baby, too.

[Gray's Mommy]

Originally Posted by elmh23

To me it depends on who's saying it. Total stranger: rude. Friend: not rude.

: I think it all depends on who & how they are saying it.

[Jude Rose]

I must have some crazy energy, cuz nobody messes with me. The worst I've heard is "you're too little for twins". Not even my MIL touched my belly until I teased her that she wanted to so why not do it.
But I have a whole slew of absolutely outrageously rude things to say back to the first one who ticks me off. Sigh. They must all sense my can of whoop-a$$ I wanna open.

[Cloth4Colin]

Ooooo, I HATE that. It always hurts my feelings when someone makes those comments. I'm another small framed mama that gets a massive size belly - I'm already the size now that I was when I delivered DS...eek! I know I'm only going to get bigger. I had someone (male) at church tell me I was HUGE. I thought that inappropriate coming from someone a) at church, and b) someone that was a guy old enough to be my dad. Had I had the guts (which I never will) I would have said, "yes, I'm pregnant, what is your excuse?" :

[m0dernist]

Me too : The thing that gets me is that I'm tall but small framed - so where is the baby supposed to go other than out? I really just want to reply by saying at least my belly's not as big as your butt!! : But I guess my mommy taught me better than that.

[Gray's Mommy]

Originally Posted by Cloth4Colin

Had I had the guts (which I never will) I would have said, "yes, I'm pregnant, what is your excuse?" :

: I will have to remember that one!!

[poep]

It bothers me too, no matter who is sayinging it. At the beginning people were telling me they couldn't believe how far along I was since I was so small. Well ... the belly is certainly out there now, and people who I barely know have said things like "your so big" "that must be a big baby." My husband tells me that I shouldn't be so sensitive, because people think that they are somehow giving you a compliment -- like there must be a healthy baby inside of you. But, a woman doesn't like to be told she is "big" when she is not pregnant; being pregnant doesn't somehow make it better.

I also think people don't realize just how big a pregnant woman gets in the last couple of months. At the end, when your carrying a 6,7,8 + pound baby, guess what -- it is totally normal to be big!

[p1gg1e]

I like it when rude people say something because so far only 2 people have noticed I am pregnant(strangers)...and I'm a skinny 5'11".. I'll take the rude comments please I feel ignored :

[DreamsInDigital]

Yesterday at the mall a lady asked me if I was expecting twins.

I almost clawed her eyes out.

[dooney]

I have the opposite problem. I can't imagine how frustrating that must be for you. Especially on the days I feel cranky. Nobody thinks I can be six months along because I'm still pretty small. I feel huge, but they act like I'm such a terrible person because THEY were enormous when they were pregnant.

[MaricopaMom]

I get it all the time ... especially at work (I am a nurse). So I get alll these nurses telling me I am huge. It gets old. But most are my friends so I let it slide.

But.... when I was 34 weeks pregnant with my son, a waitress at Denny's told me there was no way I was 34 weeks... I was getting ready to deliver anytime. I was "very big, and the baby has already dropped". : My husband finally said something, because she was just too much!! Now, that one was rude!

[Sara Ann]

I love that! I do think it is rude. I told my sister (we're due a day apart) that a shirt she was wearing made her look huge. I didn't mind, and neither did she. I was being honest and she isn't huge, just the shirt accented it.

A few weeks ago, my aunt came into the restaurant I work at and she was basically questioning when I was due. Are you sure February? Um, yea it wasn't an accident and I know exactly when I ovulated. Thankyouverymuch!

[lurve]

YES YES YES YES!! If one person asks me if I am having twins, I will seriously hurt them! And then there is the "you look like you are ready to pop" comment. Again, rude. I mean come on people, why does the fact that I am pregnant mean that you can throw away all common sense. I visited my FIL in the hospital yesterday and a nurse said the "pop" comment. Yet I was nice enough not to say "wow, you work in the medical field and are aboviously 50 pounds overweight. how do you do it?" Don't get me wrong though, I was tempted...

[MCKMN]

So far the only person who has said anything too me is my dad, and all he said was.. Missy you look alot bigger with this baby, then you have in the past. Not sure why, as he said it genuinely.. it sort of hurt my feelings, but then again everything is hurting my feelings these days

[libragirl]

um, yeah. I'm also in the small frame/big belly camp and a woman at a dinner party recently said to me "I'm so worried about you! and you have 2 months left!" bitch. I'm feeling great, look great, and you're jealous! :

[wantingagirl2b#4]

I'm in the big butt club so don't have the small frame basketball problem many are referring too, but I couldn't wait for others to notice my belly instead of just thinking inside their heads my she is really putting on weight or she is a big woman!! Now though I am 30 weeks expecting twins the lady at church yesterday said and your due when? I told her Feb and her reply is your going to be sooo big! I didn't know how to take that when it came but I just sighed and said yeah thanks and laughed then she said oh I'm sorry like she knew she had reminded me of those dreaded days ahead when I am so large I don't even want to walk to the kitchen!LOL I guess like others have posted it just depends on the persons connection with you and how they say it or how our crazy hormones are for that day!: