Do you think it is rude when people comment on your size? - Page 2

[Jude Rose]

I really think people have no idea what they're talking about.
I mean, first of all, people carry differently.

But mainly I've noticed that even women who've already BTDT have pregnancy amnesia over what is normal. I think this country's obsession with skinny women make them oblivious to what is a healthy, normal pregnant woman's size.

[lurve]

Originally Posted by Jude Rose

I really think people have no idea what they're talking about.
I mean, first of all, people carry differently.

But mainly I've noticed that even women who've already BTDT have pregnancy amnesia over what is normal. I think this country's obsession with skinny women make them oblivious to what is a healthy, normal pregnant woman's size.

Hallelujah!!!!

[Daniel's Kitty]

I hate it!!! Although I have been hearing that I look to small and that I am not going to have a healthy baby.

[p1gg1e]

Went to a 2nd hand store and the lady asked me if I was looking for someone for a gift : I said "no its for me" she said have you found out what your having I said nope we will find out in feb ( I'm still in denial about the letter I got from the U/S place )..She said "oh that 20 week U/S is so much fun.. Feb not to far away!" I said "no thats when I'm having a baby"
"Oh" she says.."your so small I couldnt tell!"

I'm 31 weeks!! When do I get to have my belly oggling days

[teeny_bean]

No one ever makes any comments, because no one ever notices that I'm pregnant. I've gained 25 pounds! My belly sticks out way beyond my newly gigantic breasts! I wear flowy maternity shirts and full panel pants (or, uh, sweatpants, but let's not talk about them)! But I guess I'm carrying in a non-obvious sort of way, or maybe it looks to strangers like I've been bellying up to the buffet a little too often.

It makes me kinda sad. I want to get well-meaning advice from weird strangers!

[aywilkes]

Okay...so 2 experiences today and yesterday changed my mind. I don't think it is always rude when a stranger or almost stranger comments. Today I got into the elevator with a guy (1st time ever seeing him) and he asked if I was due soon...very big smile on his face, really friendly. He said you must be due around Christmas. I said nope, February...he said wow or something like that. But super-friendly guy and he is a GUY so he wouldn't know better.
Esp. since so many people today were telling me how small I am and how good I look today.

Yesterday in church during the part after we sing this peace on earth song, we hug the person next to us. This lady give me this huge hug, big smile and asked when I was due (2/6) then she asked if I were having twins. I said no. She said to me a couple of minutes later that she asked b/c she had twins and I look like how she looked when she was pregnant a/r the same # of weeks.

For one of the pp's, I remember my son's paternal gma telling me I was too small and my baby would be small and presumably unhealthy. Now, THAT pissed me off to no end and actually I think it is way more offensive than someone thinkiing i'm gigantic b/c it is an attack on my ability/willingness to take care of myself and give my baby a healthy start. Of course her small grandson was born 8lbs 12 oz.

[13Sandals]

he is a GUY so he wouldn't know better

this is where the difference between rude and non-rude comments are decided. has the person making the comment been pregnant before? if they have and are saying, "sure its not twins?", "you are so huge", "you've gained all over"..etc, it RUDE. If they have never carried a child - I give them a bye. why previously pregnant women would ever use the word HUGE to another pregnant woman instead of saying "oh my god! you look AMAZING" is simply beyond me.

[sehbub]

When I was pregnant with DD3, I didn't pop until about 2 days before I had her, at 30wk2d. Now, I'm 28w4d, and bigger than I was with DD3. My friends all tell me how amazing I look for being "so far along."

I got one mildly rude comment, but luckily was able to think on my feet. Some woman, after finding out I have about 12 more weeks to go said, "Oh you poor thing, you're going to be so huge, and that's such a long time to wait!" I said. "Yeah, I hope I get to wait 12 more weeks. I'd really rather not have a baby 2 1/2 months early like last time." She stammered something and walked away.

I feel great, I love having a belly, and can't wait to definitively see his little limbs moving across my belly. DH and I already love watching him "dance" every night before bed.

This is my last pregnancy, and I'm enjoying every minute.

[libragirl]

last night at dinner my MIL told me she was very concerned about me b/c I'm "so small" - and then proceeded to tell me about the maternal support bra or whatever it's called - the thing that supports your belly. Yes, I'm petite but I don't think my belly is extraordinarily large, and if my doctor recommends it, fine - but just b/c your co-worker needed one doesn't mean I will!

I suppose this shouldn't bother me but I'm tired of people assuming that my body isn't capable of handling this.

Not as bad as my step-MIL, who the other night said "you're so tiny - are you going to have a C section?"

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[sehbub]

Originally Posted by libragirl

last night at dinner my MIL told me she was very concerned about me b/c I'm "so small" - and then proceeded to tell me about the maternal support bra or whatever it's called - the thing that supports your belly. Yes, I'm petite but I don't think my belly is extraordinarily large, and if my doctor recommends it, fine - but just b/c your co-worker needed one doesn't mean I will!

I suppose this shouldn't bother me but I'm tired of people assuming that my body isn't capable of handling this.

Not as bad as my step-MIL, who the other night said "you're so tiny - are you going to have a C section?"

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Tell your step-MIL about my mom, the 4'11", size 0 woman who birthed an almost 9 pound baby boy vaginally. Granted, she was standing straight up on the bed for the majority of her labor, and tore the sleeve off my dad's new shirt in the process, but she did it.

[ryleigh'smama]

I try to take it in stride, I am not terribly tall and dd1 was 8lbs 15oz so I tend to have large babies, so needless to say I get the comments ALL the time about being huge. At the m/w's office today I was getting ready to leave and had to make an appt, the secretary looked at me and said "oh my god, you're still at every two week appointments?" I couldn't help it, I had to laugh, I have a HUGE belly.

[Nora'sMommy]

Awww, gals. People are just curious. They don't see large prego bellys everyday so any decent sized belly is going to look like a big belly compared to all the other non-prego bellys walking around. (well....most!)

It doesn't bother me at all.

This also reminds me of when my 7 week old was like 105th percentile for height and weight and a lady came up to me and asked how old she was and said, "oh, she's so tiny." I was all offended at the time but looking back, she's a 7 week old baby for goodness sakes, of course she looks tiny.

People are just curious.

[veggijessie]

I get alot of coments because all I have gained is belly weight. So I try to lighten up when someone says something about my belly. My normal response is "At least you know I'M level because MY bubble is in the middle!"

[KatieD]

Yes! It is rude! My MIL was going on and on about how huge I am this pregnancy and that I look like I'm having twins at my DS's b-day party last month. My Dad was there also and started chiming in that I was pretty big. It gave me the biggest complex. When I went for my Dr's appt I had her look up my last pregnancy and I actually was 10lbs less this time. That made me feel MUCH better! But, it is really rude!

[dooney]

My favorite comments come from my wonderful husband. Whenever I have my shirt off, he is like "wow... you're so pregnant..." like he's in awe. It's the sweetest thing ever because he's so excited for this baby and he knows I've always been self-conscious about my body but now I'm absolutely loving it. Never felt more beautiful in my life, and he's amazed at all the changes.

[KathinJapan]

Ok I live in Japan where I am larger than most women. I might add I am only 5 ft. 2 in. but still taller than many here... anyway when go to the states to visit I feel positively tiny and petite compared to many people I see, I have to look up to talk to so many folks, it really is totally different. Well, this year I got a lot of you look big comments, that was MONTHS ago, I was not big at all. I hasten to add some of the women making the comments were much BIGGER than me, and NOT pregnant. It really got me. Now I am huge, loving it and people do assume I am due earlier than Feb. but they say it in a nicer way and I don`t mind at all, and compared to many pregnant women here I am huge so they just don`t know.
OK rant over.
LOL.
Kathryn