Mschats, I'm always amazed at your awesome, positive perspectives on life! I like the idea of working through ex issues so you're ready for your next relationship, sounds like a positive thing! And the diamond thing,
sahmof2girls, that's cool about your relationship, enjoy it!
solareyna, sounds like it's good to know what you're looking for. On the same token, I was just thinking about it, and my amazing partner never really gave me those sorts of physical compliments on our first dates. And maybe in some ways that's why I wondered if we would go towards a relationship or just a friendship, because it didn't fit the mold of compliments or whatever that we sort of expect. I just decided to enjoy whatever direction we did go in, and appreciated our friendship while our relationship was in that territory. In some ways, it was really so freeing, to not have the pressure or thought, is this going to go somewhere? but to just enjoy it. We talked on the phone a lot, he emailed me all the time, and when we did move our relationship forward, the love and respect and caring he had for me were almost overflowing. So I would say don't necessarily try to pressure your relationships to go one way or another...just let them be what they are. Do you enjoy talking to this man on the phone? How much do you have in common or how well do you connect?
sunnybaby, sounds like you're in a good place! I'm sure it must be a relief to hear from him!
It's been pretty stressful around here. I got in a car accident in early December, and my car, though not totalled by the insurance company, was getting more in repairs than I'd be able to sell it for, so I took the money and we bought a minivan (gonna have to fit three carseats!) Car shopping was soooo long and stressful, and I haven't had much good time to spend with the girls, and my house was an absolute pigsty! Then yesterday DD1 stayed home from school as a birthday present for me, and I was miserable and stressed and guilty all day long, they're leaving tomorrow to go to their dad's for Christmas, and I just feel as if I haven't had any good time with them then I ruin the time I do have with them all stressed out! I didn't make them Christmas dresses this year, I ordered most of their Christmas presents from Hearthsong and Magiccabin and they haven't gotton here yet even though I paid for express shipping, and we didn't do some of the craft projects we were hoping to work on! So yesterday, my birthday, was miserable, and to top it all off, the van we bought got a flat tire when I was out, and tired, and overwhelmed, and trying to juggle everything. I managed to get it changed with the help of a kind stranger, but I've just been a huge grump. [eta: I knew when we bought it the tires would need to be replaced soon, that's the only thing the toyota dealer found as a problem, so we were planning on it just not YESTERDAY!] And all the stressing I'm doing has been kind of hard on our relationship as well...last night my amazing beau, who's been pitching in 110% through all this, said (in a very nice way) that he hopes all the stress dies down soon because he misses his Jennifer
And it's true, and my poor kids are leaving in the midst of mama being a miserable wretch. I'm hoping today goes better, and kind of wishing I could just keep dd1 home today and make it a truly enjoyable day. We'll see, she'd miss a party at school, but I think quality time with mama might be more important than quality time with her school friends...