Originally Posted by mountain
Jster, don't leave us here!!!
I won't! I'd miss you guys too much! And I still feel in a lot of ways like a single mama, just in my sense of independent responsibility, even if I have a live-in DP, who's great about pitching in anywhere.
Yesterday DP and I had a joint birthday party, we're both December babes, he turned 30 on the 4th and I turn 29 on the 20th. That was fun! It's neat to think that we'll be able to share our birthdays in the future, to always celebrate together! And I'll bet our wishes had a whole lot in common...also pretty cool... At the party, which was at a marina, my mom (who's looking to buy a sailboat eventually) and DP went for a walk to look at some boats, then my sister and the girls went for a walk to find them (my mom and DP can be soooo pokey!). When they came walking back, my beau had dd2 and was carrying her, with the BIGGEST grin on his face! I knew she must have made him feel special, and later he said she just ran right up to him. (She's been sick and clingy lately, so it's been a while since he got some good dd2 cuddling in). It was cute, and I appreciate how close they are. Sometimes DD1 is a lot more reluctant to let him into her life/heart, which makes me a little sad.
Other than that...I've been under oodles of stress. I thought things would be better once school got out, but I got in a car accident (no injury, thank goodness) and my car got $4k in damages, well it's only worth about $4800 on a good day and I'll need to replace it before baby is born anyway, so we took the check from the insurance company and are basically totalling it
. I bought that car new in 2001, before dd1 was born, and we've been everywhere in it, I'll be a little sad to move on, and shopping for a minivan (yup! big change) has been going slow. Plus time pressures, going-to-miss-my-girls-for-Christmas pressures, shopping (which I HATE!). Sigh, where are my relaxing days? And, um, probably the worst part and most looming part, I have a law review deadline tomorrow at midnight and have no inspiration or interest or energy, nor do I feel like devoting time to it. I think that's really the problem, that law review is hanging over me when I should be DONE!
Mountain, glad to hear things are going well for you! That's wonderful!
BelovedK, I second not putting pressure about "chemistry" on your dating. When I met DP, I had changed my perspective on things, and realized that it wasn't supposed to be about if we could have a magical TV moment, but where we could really connect as people. In fact, we didn't meet on a "date" but at a food sharing for the homeless, and I had the girls with me. It was great, because the pressure WASN'T there to have magic, but we could enjoy our shared interest and get to know one another in person without all the stress. Plus it was just so much more real...it let us be open on a totally different level. I wasn't even sure if we'd go in the direction of dating at that point, but I am so glad I kept open.
Whew! I've missed talking to you guys I guess! I so wish we could all meet in person one day, it would just be so neat!