December dating thread - Page 5

[Haydee]

I have a complaint. I havn't read this thread.. I've been very busy with the Holiday Helper & raffles, which as absorbed all my time, but I really want to vent here, as it seems to fit.

I WANT ANOTHER BABY!

There. I said it. Again.

DS keeps telling me there's a baby in my belly.. asking me when his baby sister will be here.. talking to his baby sister in my belly.. ARRGGG!! We went to meet this friend of a friend (who she is trying to set me up with) and the whole time Ronan played this "You be the mommy, you be the daddy, and I'll be the big brother - Mommy, there's a baby in your belly! Can it nurse from in there?!" game. The guy we met enjoyed playing along, and he was good with DS. Even if he were to be THE one or whatever it would take a while for us to get to the point of having a child.

AAAHHHH! Why, oh why, can't I have another right now?? DS is the perfect age, DD is maddly in love with babies and birth..

Ok. I'm done. /vent

[SunShineSally]

I haven't posted here in a long time and did not catch up on the posts only read a few. Congrats Jester! Also
Chey I wouldn't worry if he calls you back right away some people are confused after sex I had a BF him and I you know and he got all weird about it and it complicated our relationship that we had from middle school but after a week we got back on track some but then there was another firend (please don't judge ) and things stayed the same actually it made our friendship better odd huh? like others have said if he calls talk about it


Sooo I met a guy at a get together my friend had she actually wanted us to see if there could be anyting between us. He seems like a really sweet guy he has his s%it together has a good job (most guys don't) has good family values form what we have talked about and what my friend says, he is good looking (again most guys aren't ) and I felt like I could just talk to him and he would listen and really wanted to (and most guys don't) So when I talked to my friend this morning she said that he wanted to give me his number to talk and get to know me better and he thought I was nice and pretty: I had to run out real fast Ds woke up and he freaks out if I am not there when he wakes up so I had to leave right away. So I do not want to get my hopes up that he is really as great as he seems and as my friend makes him out to be I am also nervous about calling him in person it can be wasier to talk and get to know someone he also knew from the get go that I have a child so that is a good thing. But my friend told me before I got there aboput him and he has been wanting a relationship for awhile and that he just wants a nice girl who wants a real relationship not just a fling. So in someways he sounds to good to be true and that normally means it is So Maybe I will be joining this thread for a long while or just a little while again


Karen

[JustVanessa]

mammakerry- In the grip of baby fever too it seems. I had that scare last month and since then I can't seem to get my mind off babies. I work as a cashier and it seems like every mother with a newborn comes through my till. They are all so fat and cute! I know its a horrible time to have a baby, can barely support myself and ds, starting school next month, bf and I haven't been together that long.....
I have tried explaining this to my ovaries, but they are not listening to reason.

On another topic...bf is coming with me to my mothers for Christmas. He is sure feeling anxious about it. He is going to be far from home with only knowing me and Byron. Also he thinks that my family is going to give him a hard time b/c he is only 7 years younger than my mom. I have tried to reassure him but it doesn't really work.
Oh well. He will be fine when we get there and he realizes that my family is pretty laid back and friendly.
Jasmama- good luck with the new guy.
Jster and Jillian- I am so jealous.

[MsChatsAlot]

mamakerry
I have no doubt that you will have another/more babies in your life. It will happen.

JA'sMama
Yeah! Dating really can be a lot of fun. And it's always nice to have someone show interest in us! Keep us posted.

JustVanessa
Bringing a guy home for Christmas....oh it's been a long time since I've done that!!! I hope he relaxes and enjoys himself. And, as for the baby thing...I really believe there is no 'right' time. Babies are a blessing and a miracle no matter what.

[stirringleaf]

you guys are so inspiring.

:


that is all.

[Haydee]

Originally Posted by MsChatsAlot

mamakerry
I have no doubt that you will have another/more babies in your life. It will happen.

I know.. I just wanted to pout for a minute. DS talking about his baby sister is driving me crazy as well. :

I'm probably ovulating. :

[BelovedK]

Kerry,

Two years before his baby sister was born, DS kept asking about his baby sister, talking about her alot. It was December...well, two years later (in December), I was nursing his newborn little sister. Don't give up hope, you never know what life will throw your way

Children are perceptive, and while sometime the timing may be off, I wouldn't take what he said lightly (that's just me)

[April 2007]

Wow. Yeah. O.k., Wonderful!

I had my first date with the guy I talked about earlier. We've nowbeen officially talking for a month. We met at Starbucks in the mall. He brought me three beautiful pink flowers that coincidentally matched the shirt I was wearing. We walked around the mall for a while just talking, and then saw a movie. Conversation flowed so well and we have so much in common! Our values and beliefs are so similar and it was just overall very wonderful!

Yay to me for my first date in...well...ever! And it was wonderful!

[BelovedK]

Originally Posted by Blessed81902

I had my first date with the guy I talked about earlier. We've nowbeen officially talking for a month. We met at Starbucks in the mall. He brought me three beautiful pink flowers that coincidentally matched the shirt I was wearing. We walked around the mall for a while just talking, and then saw a movie. Conversation flowed so well and we have so much in common! Our values and beliefs are so similar and it was just overall very wonderful!

Yay to me for my first date in...well...ever! And it was wonderful!

That's so great enjoy. I love the pink flower thing

[MsChatsAlot]

Blessed
Congrats on the fun first date! I'm glad it went well.

[sahmof2girls]

I have not been on in soooooooooooo long. I have yet to read through the thread but do not have time at this moment... but will do later. I just wanted to fill yuo all in on my dating. Somehow Me and this man just happened into each others lives and it is MAGNIFECENT! I am having a great time and i feel happy for the first time in well EVER (relationship wise) I have feelings for him that I never even came close to feeling with x. I know that sounds crazy but it is sooo very true. So I will continue to update you all on how things go....

[MsChatsAlot]

Hooray for you sahmof2girls!
Love is in the air!

[sahmof2girls]

[QUOTE=J

Stirringleaf- It seems to me, whenever anyone isn't looking to meet someone that is when you actually do! Goodluck.[/QUOTE]

I was trying to get through a little of the thread befor dd woke up and i saw this..... I had every online personals that i signed up on. They were all going nowhere. The morning I decided to deleate them was the same night that i met my new man..lol anyway i totally agree with that. I was trying way too hard!!! And does anyone believe in love at first sight???? Cause I completley and totally feel one million % connected with him. I can see us in 5, 10, 50 yrs from now. I never saw that with x.......... so much for not reading the thread now...cause i have to finish it...

[solareyna]

Talking about chemistry... I had a date with a guy I met online. We got along great, he is sweet and nice and funny. And so hot. I don't think i have ever met a man who could turn me on just by looking at him. (he does bodybuilding championships (wheelchair division) he's a T-10 paraplegic due to a car accident and he's got the best upper body and eyes and smile I have ever seen.) Well we had a great couple of dates but he never once told me I looked nice and I had to ask him if he wanted to see me again. Everything was there except the feelings from his point of view. I've sent him an email trying to get his opinion on how the date went but so far he hasn't written me back although he's called me three times since Sunday but he's not feeling good. Should i just give this up? He also lives in New Orleans and I live in Florida and we have custody of our children on opposite weekends. I feel like everything is saying we shouldn't go further jsut because of logistics (and I'm afraid to get hurt) but I like him too much to just give up! So now I am going out of my mind. What would prompt a good looking, confident man to not once compliment his date? Shyness or ignorance or does he just not like me? I thought all men knew they should say something nice just for the sake of being nice. Am I wrong? He acted like he liked me, I think. Or maybe I was just imagining things? Ok, I'll stop driving myself crazy and wait to hear how he responds to my email. I refuse to be settled for. If he didn't feel the chemistry I felt than its not worth pursuing.

[BelovedK]

Originally Posted by solareyna

Talking about chemistry... I had a date with a guy I met online. We got along great, he is sweet and nice and funny. And so hot. I don't think i have ever met a man who could turn me on just by looking at him. (he does bodybuilding championships (wheelchair division) he's a T-10 paraplegic due to a car accident and he's got the best upper body and eyes and smile I have ever seen.) Well we had a great couple of dates but he never once told me I looked nice and I had to ask him if he wanted to see me again. Everything was there except the feelings from his point of view. I've sent him an email trying to get his opinion on how the date went but so far he hasn't written me back although he's called me three times since Sunday but he's not feeling good. Should i just give this up? He also lives in New Orleans and I live in Florida and we have custody of our children on opposite weekends. I feel like everything is saying we shouldn't go further jsut because of logistics (and I'm afraid to get hurt) but I like him too much to just give up! So now I am going out of my mind. What would prompt a good looking, confident man to not once compliment his date? Shyness or ignorance or does he just not like me? I thought all men knew they should say something nice just for the sake of being nice. Am I wrong? He acted like he liked me, I think. Or maybe I was just imagining things? Ok, I'll stop driving myself crazy and wait to hear how he responds to my email. I refuse to be settled for. If he didn't feel the chemistry I felt than its not worth pursuing.

Those statements sound like red flags to me. I say follow your gut. Stop pursuing him and see how he reacts. if you don't hear from him then you'll no longer be wasting your time...maybe you will hear back, at least you'll know JMHO

[stirringleaf]

okayyyyy, not looking... where is the magically appearing lover?


i saw a handsome man in target. that is all the excitement i have had this week.


but i love this thread too much to just sit idly by for more than a day, saying nothing.

[sahmof2girls]

Now that I actually had time to go through most of this I wanted to say CONGRATS jster. awwww a neww baby, how I want one so badly. and on the subject of uc, me and my dp...lol sounded funny reading that to myself, anyway have talked about just about everything and anything possible.....including babies. I know it sounds like we re moving light speed but everything is just there, and it is coming from him too. I feel so elated, happy, excited and all that. And one thing about him is that he is not crunchy at all, and he loves that aboput me. but i told him if we were ever to have a baby i want to have uc. and he was almost in tears when i said that. I felt so close to him at that moment seeing the excitment in his eyes, and he said that would probably be the most profound and wonderful experience that he could imagine......wow i am just rambling here. And he is catholic and I am pagan, he asked if I would ever go back to the church and i told him no, and he thought that it was great that i have such strong feelings on spirituality. He is just so perfect. And i honestly love him. I know i will be judged for having all these feelings so soon but i am happy and that is really what matters here.
hmmm my head is loopy right now....tee hee hee. on the day we met i deleted all my online personals and just stopped. I was getting freeked out by so many men i had to stop, and literally when i stopped trying we were p[laced into each others laps. I love how this all folded out.....

HAPPY....that is me

BTW sorry about my wonderful rambling not put togetherness...

[SunnyBabyIn2005]

Originally Posted by sahmof2girls

Now that I actually had time to go through most of this I wanted to say CONGRATS jster. awwww a neww baby, how I want one so badly. and on the subject of uc, me and my dp...lol sounded funny reading that to myself, anyway have talked about just about everything and anything possible.....including babies. I know it sounds like we re moving light speed but everything is just there, and it is coming from him too. I feel so elated, happy, excited and all that. And one thing about him is that he is not crunchy at all, and he loves that aboput me. but i told him if we were ever to have a baby i want to have uc. and he was almost in tears when i said that. I felt so close to him at that moment seeing the excitment in his eyes, and he said that would probably be the most profound and wonderful experience that he could imagine......wow i am just rambling here. And he is catholic and I am pagan, he asked if I would ever go back to the church and i told him no, and he thought that it was great that i have such strong feelings on spirituality. He is just so perfect. And i honestly love him. I know i will be judged for having all these feelings so soon but i am happy and that is really what matters here.
hmmm my head is loopy right now....tee hee hee. on the day we met i deleted all my online personals and just stopped. I was getting freeked out by so many men i had to stop, and literally when i stopped trying we were p[laced into each others laps. I love how this all folded out.....

HAPPY....that is me

BTW sorry about my wonderful rambling not put togetherness...

Oh don't feel bad, it is wonderful that you and him are getting your feelings out there and making them known. I have been known to go at light speed in relationships too. I'm sort of in the same boat on the religion thing, if I still have a relationship even. The guy I have been seeing considers himself "spiritual" and hates any kind of organized religion. As for me I grew up in a Christian household and began to raise my children the same way I was, but in my research about different religions I found that my own views & beliefs really don't fit the mold of any certain one. I have considered Unitarian Universalists though. That's one thing I am hoping didn't turn him off about me because we met through some friends that told him I was a Christian, and he seemed less than thrilled about that.

Anyways, Best of Luck!
K.

[fek&fuzz]

Originally Posted by solareyna

Talking about chemistry... I had a date with a guy I met online. We got along great, he is sweet and nice and funny. And so hot. I don't think i have ever met a man who could turn me on just by looking at him. (he does bodybuilding championships (wheelchair division) he's a T-10 paraplegic due to a car accident and he's got the best upper body and eyes and smile I have ever seen.) Well we had a great couple of dates but he never once told me I looked nice and I had to ask him if he wanted to see me again. Everything was there except the feelings from his point of view. I've sent him an email trying to get his opinion on how the date went but so far he hasn't written me back although he's called me three times since Sunday but he's not feeling good. Should i just give this up? He also lives in New Orleans and I live in Florida and we have custody of our children on opposite weekends. I feel like everything is saying we shouldn't go further jsut because of logistics (and I'm afraid to get hurt) but I like him too much to just give up! So now I am going out of my mind. What would prompt a good looking, confident man to not once compliment his date? Shyness or ignorance or does he just not like me? I thought all men knew they should say something nice just for the sake of being nice. Am I wrong? He acted like he liked me, I think. Or maybe I was just imagining things? Ok, I'll stop driving myself crazy and wait to hear how he responds to my email. I refuse to be settled for. If he didn't feel the chemistry I felt than its not worth pursuing.

I have to recommend the book "He's Just Not That Into You." I am re-reading it, while reevaluating a relationship I'm sort of in with a single dad. It's quite an affirming book because it tells you that there really is someone out there who will think you are pretty and tell you so, and call you, and want to be with you, etc. And it also tells you all the things you don't want to hear but really know are true.

[MsChatsAlot]

Wow...lots of fun stuff happening in this thread.

sahmof2girls - Yeah! Your relationship sounds wonderful. Being in love is wonderful, whenever that happens, celebrate. It is a gift.

solareyna - I agree with fek&fuzz that is such a great book. I've learned so clearly that if I'm not sure, or have to ask my girlfriends something about how he's behaving....it usually means he's not that into me.

And for me....
I've been running into ex's, men I was once interested in, and dreaming about ex's too. I think it's about me resolving and being grateful for everyone in my past so I can graciously accept whomever comes into my life now. I believe that all of this is happening to help me work through any unresolved ex issues so I am truly open to what is on it's way!

It's funny too, because I'm still legally married and have no real desire to be married again or not.....but lately, when I glance up at the magazine sections in stores...it seems like the Bridal magazines jump out at me. And I've never been fond of diamonds...but a flyer came to my house for a jewelery store and there was a big diamond engagement ring on the front and I thought, "I should just cut that ring out and put it on my finger!"

Just thought I'd share.