It's my due date and i'm so sad!!!!!!!!!

[evenstarlight]

Not that I expected the baby to arrive this morning......but, when I went to see the midwife this morning she checked me over and I decided to go for an internal exam...I was just too curious.
Now I'm depressed....because I'm not dialated AT ALL and she, although trying not to be too down about it, implied that I definitly had a ways to go. I just feel really sad now! I totally thought this baby was going to be early because my Grandmother, Mother, and Sister were all early with their first babies. Now it looks like i'm not only going to be not on time...but pretty late! I know the baby will come when it's ready, i'm just feeling really sad. I do NOT want to be induced...as I feel that will just mess everything up.

[babybugmama]

remember to relax. The baby and your body know exactly what they are doing. Have faith in your bodies ability to know when is the best time and just breathe and relax. The more calm you can remain, the easier your body will have in letting go and preparing for your birth.

[mary3mama]

Hugs

Remember you can go from no dilation to pushing in no time if your body is ready!

[~*~MamaJava~*~]

Don't feel too sad...your body can do whatever it wants! I've never been more than 50% effaced going into real labor, that I knew about. Some of us just don't get the headstart I think, too, that you're less likely to dilate early with a first baby. Could be worse You could be at 3-4 cm for 3 weeks like some people! That would drive me nuts!

I've gone over with the 1st two and was worried about induction. They magically came as soon as Dr started talking about it, a week over Weird huh? I'd have that visit, and babe would be born within 2 days - scared out, I guess.
My plan with both was to just not show up. They're not going to send the cops out for you

[ATruck]

Sorry. I know it is hard to have things be different than you expect. The others are right-- you could go into labor anytime. But it could also be a long haul. I'd just try to take it a day at a time. Relax as much as you can and try to enjoy the last bits of pregnancy (I'm envious!)... you will never be pregnant with this little one again.

[Shonahsmom]

I'm not in this DDC (or any DDC, I'm not currently pregnant). But just wanted to pop in to say that I went from 0 contractions (not even BH), 0 cm dialated, barely effaced to babe in arms in about nine hours with no types of intervention of any kind. It came out of nowhere, hit me like a mack truck, and baby was born. Many women also walk around 3 cm or more for weeks without going in to labor. Don't psyche yourself out one way or the other.

[beth_marie]

just to let you know with my first child i went in to see dr day after my due date on a Wednesday, was showing no signs of labor not dilated at all, baby hadn't even dropped yet (was having some light BH like contractions) I did however deliver my son that Saturday, was a very very quick labor too. by the time i got 2 hospital was already 9 centimeters!!! so basically don't worry have faith in your body. you'd b susprised on how quick it can be- due with my 2nd son dec 25th just hope its smooth sailing this time around too!!

[Lilcrunchie]

I agree...I know it is hard but dilation really isn't that predictive. When pg with my DS, I was 2cm and 75 percent effaced 3.5 weeks before my EDD. A week later I was 2cm and 80 percent effaced. A few days before I went into active labor I was 3cm.

It drove me nuts walking around pretty dilated and effaced for all those weeks...DS still came when it was his time. This time around I've declined all internals...I might cave next week at 40wks if I'm still pg.

It isn't uncommon to go from nothing to having baby in arms in the course of a single day.

CHin up

[KrystalC]

I know with me my mom was still closed up tight and then she went into labor in the middle of the night, making it to the hospital just 43 minutes before I was born. It can happen soooooooo fast, so please try to keep your spirits up and not get too discouraged. We're all here for you to vent to as needed!!

[Naughty Dingo]

Oh Mama, don't be sad!

I am another that went from nothing to baby in hours.

I have a girlfriend who walked around at 4 cm for 5 weeks - she was really worked up for a while at first and then the weeks and weeks of nothing, can you imagine?

Enjoy this special time, baby will come soon.

ND

[theboysmama]

w/ ds 1 I was 41wks3days and had my midwife check me. I was so dissapointed. I was nothing and i had no bh and nothing was going on. I had him 2 1/2 days later and the labor was very quick. Don't loose hope mama. The baby will come when it is ready.
I don't get checked anymore as the dissapointment was too hard and not very telling.

[Shenandoah]

(((hugs)))

With my first pregnancy I also had all the women in my family go early - and I was late. BTDT I know exactly how you feel. One reason my child was late, I'm sure, is because of fetal position not being optimal. If your babe is posterior, asynclitic, whatever right now or you just want to make sure s/he gets into position try doing lots of cat stretches, knees-to-chest, etc. I didn't know to do those things then. If I had I feel sure my labor would have started sooner. Just a thought.

[evenstarlight]

thanks..you guys are so sweet and very encouraging!
DH and i went out for a curry last night and I ordered the spiciest thing on the menu!! ha ha
I have been doing cat stretches since the start of this pregnancy and the baby is ROL at the moment..so i'm trying not to lean back in a cushy chair too much. Went walking up a hill today and back down...that was good.
Anyway...it's great to hear stories of people who went from nothing to everything in a matter of hours....i'm really hoping that happens with us.

[DreamsInDigital]

I'm not in your DDC but with my last birth, I went from not dialated at all on Sunday to in labor on Monday.

[sbm1001]

Sorry you didn't get the news you wanted to hear. I remember doing this with my last pg & how frustrating & disappointing that was. I declined a check at my last appt because I remember how much it brought me down. As I'm sure you know, though, the baby could still come today, even with no dialaton yesterday. I had my last baby at 40w4d & had only fingertip dialation & no effacement two days prior.

Try not to focus on it (easier said than done, I know). Take long bath's & try to pamper your self a bit. As much as you can't wait to meet your new little one, you need to take care of yourself.

Shannon

[mama_b]

Not in your ddc, but with my dd I wasn't dilated at all on my due date, and I wen't into labor 3 days later.

[cornflower_3]

Another mama here who walked around for weeks 3cm dilated w/ #1 and 4cm w/#3. On the other hand...my MIL went to the docs, doc said at least one more week. So MIL went to see her mother about 1.5 hrs away. While there, her water broke. IL's drove back to their town, husband dropped wife off at ER entrance, went and parked the car, came back in and the nurse congratulated him on his newest son. (My DH,: ) Either way, as frustrating as it feels, you are close to the end of this process and soon we'll all be reading your birth story.

[JanetH]

well the good news is

that you will go into labor and have the baby soon. I know it's no consulation since you feel like you will be pg forever, but I assure you, you won't. Here's to going into labor soon and having a fast and easy labor.