Hittin' the half year mark with the July Mamas - Page 11

[MsGrizzle]

I'm like 4-5 pages behind (chatty today!) - hopefully I can catch up tomorrow.

I'm also a mod of the Yahoo Group if anyone needs anything...

Dh did great with Nathan and Aidan all day (Aidan is sick with cold/cough/fever). I came home to find him cooking dinner with Nathan in the Ergo! Dang, wish we could afford to have him be a SAHD....Nathan is not cooperating with me reading or posting tonight so I'm answering quickly and running...

1. When did you first find MDC? How long did you lurk before joining?

I've been a subscriber of Mothering since 2000! I used the main site for years - always referred people to articles (and sneakily introduced them to Mothering that way). Unfortunately, they no longer have the articles up which really, really stinks!!! I think I started poking around the boards in 2003 when I was pg but since I had an mc I wasn't around long. I came back again last year when pg again. I knew I wanted a home birth and could find like-minded people here. I also knew I wanted to find a ddc because I was not going back to BabyCenter again. I used to cry reading there the last time.

2. What drew you to MDC? (area(s) of interest)

The homebirth board was the first, my local tribe board and then the ddc.

3. What kept you here?

The only reasons are the ddc and the local info. You wonderful gals!

4. What new things have you picked up from being here that you perhaps never considered/ knew about/ thought you'd subscribe to?

It is funny because at BabyCenter, I was the whackjob. Now here I'm pretty much mainstream! There isn't much I haven't heard of here because of reading the magazine...homeopathy is probably the most exciting thing I've learned about recently, so much so that I'm taking a class about it....

[TanyaS]

: I don't know what it is, but I feel something coming on. I told dh "You know it's bad when I'm sitting here exhausted watching tv instead of being on MDC." My throat is sore, and I'm super tired. Eek. Hope it's not the flu.

YG- Now I thought for sure Juice was the mod. Amy! You could always set the YG settings so that only members can see the messages. Protect our little secret even more.

Cards - I agree that the list can be given, but with my assignment highlighted. I'll do extra credit if I have time, but it's nice not having to commit up front.

Breakfasts - We freeze extra pancakes and french toast made on the weekends. When I reheat during the week, I use the toaster oven. Less rubbery tasting pancakes. You can make breakfast burritos in advance, too. Make a big batch of sausage and eggs, assemble, roll in foil and freeze. Heat and add salsa. Mmmm. We like breakfast burritos here. Tomorrow ds has requested oatmeal. We also will have plain old PB&J sandwiches.

I'm going to bed. Maybe I can sleep off whatever this is. I've already taken emergen-C twice today. It's not fair. I just had a stomach bug. It's someone else's turn (and not anyone here, ). Why don't we have a pouting smilie?

I need a "brrrr" smilie. It's going to be 20 degrees tonight. I know, I know. It's practically a sauna to some of you! But I'm sleeping in sweats!

[~pi]

Originally Posted by Sandrine

Sorry you two feel sad about the one person-one card thing.

I dont mind. i could send the list to everyone with who you are suppose to send and then it's your choice if you want to send to everyone or not.

What does the rest of you all think?

Sounds perfect.

Originally Posted by soapdiva

Dh did great with Nathan and Aidan all day (Aidan is sick with cold/cough/fever). I came home to find him cooking dinner with Nathan in the Ergo! Dang, wish we could afford to have him be a SAHD...

Nice!

Originally Posted by TanyaS

: I don't know what it is, but I feel something coming on. I told dh "You know it's bad when I'm sitting here exhausted watching tv instead of being on MDC." My throat is sore, and I'm super tired. Eek. Hope it's not the flu.

Hope you feel better soon. :guh

I learned some info today that is good to know but also hard. Apparently, the 12 hours of separation that DS and I had after his birth that has been at the heart of my difficulties dealing with his birth was just plain bad luck.

It looks like the NICU representative who whisked him away was part of an exchange program with a hospital in Shanghai, and didn't know that the usual thing the hospital does for a stable baby that needs NICU assessment is let mom have a good cuddle first.

Then, the nurse on the maternity ward who told me that I had to wait until I had my catheter out to go down to the NICU was not being entirely honest. If I really wanted to go, she could have helped me into a wheelchair.

I just trusted that people were telling me the truth and were on my side. It should never have happened.

I'm glad I learned this today. I don't know if I could have handled it a week or a month ago.

[elsanne]

Originally Posted by ~pi

I just trusted that people were telling me the truth and were on my side. It should never have happened.

Awwww Maria. I am so, so sorry this happened.

[witt]

Maria so sorry to hear that. I have had 3 disappointing birth experiences and the trauma stays with me.

With Daniel (1st child) they took him after the emergency c section and said he couldn't come into recovery because there was a prison inmate in there!!! Apparently it was ok for me to be in there with him but not my baby!!! I still feel sad about that and we were only separated for 30mins, so I can't imagine 12 hours.

I also feel sad that I didn't get my homebirths or my waterbirths as I'd planned. A dear friend of mine said to me after my first son, why didn't recreate a sort of water birth and have a lovely bath with my baby and reconnect with him and try and feel some healing. It sounds corny but I did and it did help.

Can you create some lovely ritual for yourself and your babe to allow for you both to begin some healing?

[~pi]

Originally Posted by witt

I have had 3 disappointing birth experiences and the trauma stays with me.

Originally Posted by witt

With Daniel (1st child) they took him after the emergency c section and said he couldn't come into recovery because there was a prison inmate in there!!! Apparently it was ok for me to be in there with him but not my baby!!!

I remember that from your accounts in the DDC. I am still over that one.

Thanks for the ideas for a ritual. I've been meaning to do that for a while, but haven't felt in the right headspace for it.

Mostly right now I'm healing, finishing up the birth story, and starting to crank my brain on ways to make sure that this never happens to another woman in that hospital ever again. There are some perks to being both a patient and a researcher -- you can work for change from various avenues.

I think as long as there are some women who are going to risk out of homebirth (like me and you) there is work to be done to help reduce the incidence of unnecessary trauma at hospital births. I'm starting a new fellowship in January (happy about that but sad that my mat leave is over ) and the program actively encourages collaborative, transdisciplinary work outside one's thesis topic.

[Miss Juice]

I can't do my regular morning post because somebody decided to get up with me at 5:30 and rob me of my quiet time :
but I need to give Maria a
and one for Tanya I hope you feel better.

[PancakeGoddess]

Originally Posted by TanyaS

YG- Now I thought for sure Juice was the mod. Amy! You could always set the YG settings so that only members can see the messages. Protect our little secret even more.

Cards - I agree that the list can be given, but with my assignment highlighted. I'll do extra credit if I have time, but it's nice not having to commit up front.

I need a "brrrr" smilie. It's going to be 20 degrees tonight. I know, I know. It's practically a sauna to some of you! But I'm sleeping in sweats!

I checked, and only members can see the YG messages, and new members have to be approved.

I agree about the cards. I might want to send more than one but only being required to send one is nice.

As for 20 degrees:

[sarenka]

maria, witt and tanya - hope your immune system is kicking in nicely by now. maria, it's great that you feel able to work to make sure these horrendous experiences don't repeat for other women. More power to your elbow!
off to town now with dd alone - god this seems like a challenge! Even sending a christmas card or two does...I am such a wimp these days!

[sewaneecook]

As for the cards, I wouldn't have enough made up to mail them to everyone, but I have plenty that I could email to anyone who requested one! PM me if that's the case.

1. When did you first find MDC? How long did you lurk before joining?
My sister found MDC first when she was PG about a year before me. When I told her I was preggers she led me to you guys! and I joined right away.

2. What drew you to MDC? (area(s) of interest)
I've always been interested in extended BFing (I nursed until I was almost 5!), CDing, and GD.

3. What kept you here?
My DDC buddies! I also met some people on the FYT IRL and they are GREAT! Oh yeah, and bumbo seat discussions! j/k

4. What new things have you picked up from being here that you perhaps never considered/ knew about/ thought you'd subscribe to?
Delayed/no vax ... I'm still not certain on that debate, I'm still researching. EC ... I don't think I'd do it, but I no longer think of it as a crazy idea.

DS just woke up, gotta go.

[fenwickmama]

sandrine- i think it's a good plan to share the list w/one assignment and other names as option if time/$$ allows! thanks for handling that...

ack...fussing toddler, gotta run...hi and hugs to all!

[MsGrizzle]

Originally Posted by sewaneecook

3. What kept you here?
My DDC buddies! I also met some people on the FYT IRL and they are GREAT! Oh yeah, and bumbo seat discussions! j/k

:

Tanya - I hope you feel better today - though it sounds like how ds1's illness started - and now dh has it!

Maria - Sounds cool that you might be able to do something about what happened to you!

Witt - Glad to see you back!

[Sandrine]

Good morning,


I feel like a bad, bad momma today. : DD3 fell off the sofa. I put her there so that i can put her blanket on the ground so that she could play. I wasn't even done she fell head first. She's ok but doesn't want to be on the ground, just in my arms. I'm slowly recovering.

I know that it's normal as dd1 and dd2 both fell down the stairs and dd2 fell of my bed.

I should know better by now. sheesh

[Sandrine]

She hasn't learn to roll yet and she doesn't sit well yet either

[Sandrine]

I have 9 names for the card exchange!!!

Just a reminder:


We are doing a one card-one person exchange. I will be sending you the chosen name for you and also the rest of the list, in case you decided to send a card to everyone.

Deadline: Friday

I will pm everyone by sunday

[TanyaS]

Sandrine ~ :guh My ds fractured his wrist in a fall off of our bed! Dh laid him down while he changed clothes and he crawled right off. I didn't tell him that I wasn't putting him on the bed anymore because of his mobility, and the poor baby had to have a cast for three weeks! It's hard when they get hurt. Dh still feels bad to this day.

Still : this morning. I'm just really hoping it's short-lived. Taking lots of Vitamin C and drinking lots of water. So far no fever, just awfully sore throat and irritation. Also really achy all over and tired. Time for more Emergen-C

Cori ~ See, I should have said "Who are the mods for the YG?"

[MsGrizzle]

Originally Posted by Sandrine

Good morning,


I feel like a bad, bad momma today. : DD3 fell off the sofa. I put her there so that i can put her blanket on the ground so that she could play. I wasn't even done she fell head first. She's ok but doesn't want to be on the ground, just in my arms. I'm slowly recovering.

I know that it's normal as dd1 and dd2 both fell down the stairs and dd2 fell of my bed.

I should know better by now. sheesh

Awww, That happened with ds1. Hasn't happened yet with ds2 but frankly, I'm surprised as I've been pretty careless. Need to snap out of that!

[MsGrizzle]

<---- 32 to go!

[ksjhwkr]

Originally Posted by PancakeGoddess

K is just starting to grab at stuff, and his aim isn't so hot yet It's the toddler who likes my knitting.

Seth does this too. It is hilarious, but oh so infuriating!!! He likes to take my knitting and "knit", he always messes it up. :

Originally Posted by TanyaS

That is so scary. I would expect them to do more than apologize, too. I would talk to the pastor/priest/preacher or at the very least the preschool minister asap and ask them how they are going to prevent this in the future.

They have already made a change. There is another congregation that is letting out at that time. So, they are being asked not to congregate in the hall there. It is always so congested. They all speak portuguese, so I it is hard to ask them to move. Luckily there is someone in our congregation who can talk to them for us.
They have also decided that they will have more helpers to bring the little ones down. Every child will be holding the hand of an adult. That is good. I will be going down to watch him for the next few weeks though. Just to be sure.

I don't think they quite understand what a creative outlet it can be for us. If they only knew it helps make us better mommies.

:

Originally Posted by Miss Juice

Nope, it isn't me. It's PancakeGoddess, I believe And I'm starting to feel a little protective of the group : and think we should make interested members pm Pancake or someone else to get the info rather than posting it. Not trying to be exclusive, but not all-inclusive either...



I'm with you. Here's what I would like to see - everybody gets a list of everybody, and each person has one name circled/starred/whatever. So you only have to send one, but could send more if you want. What does everyone think?

double :

Originally Posted by ~pi

I learned some info today that is good to know but also hard. Apparently, the 12 hours of separation that DS and I had after his birth that has been at the heart of my difficulties dealing with his birth was just plain bad luck.

It looks like the NICU representative who whisked him away was part of an exchange program with a hospital in Shanghai, and didn't know that the usual thing the hospital does for a stable baby that needs NICU assessment is let mom have a good cuddle first.

Then, the nurse on the maternity ward who told me that I had to wait until I had my catheter out to go down to the NICU was not being entirely honest. If I really wanted to go, she could have helped me into a wheelchair.

I just trusted that people were telling me the truth and were on my side. It should never have happened.

I'm glad I learned this today. I don't know if I could have handled it a week or a month ago.

:guh Maria. That just stinks. It wasn't until after Emma was born by c-section that I really got into birth and trying to educate people and helping other Mamas. It's sad, but I am finally at the place (almost 4 years later) where I am grateful for the c-section. I am glad that it has given me a unique perspective on birth and that I can help other Mamas who have been through it.

Originally Posted by Quagmire

I have a new set of questions for December if anyone is interested!

1. When did you first find MDC? How long did you lurk before joining?
2. What drew you to MDC? (area(s) of interest)
3. What kept you here?
4. What new things have you picked up from being here that you perhaps never considered/ knew about/ thought you'd subscribe to?

Ok, I did all of this last night, and my darling, sweet son decided to mess with the computer while I was typing (I wasn't getting off fast enough for him to play his "peter" game) and he erased it all. :

1. I got a subscription to the mag when Emma was 2 months old from my sil for my birthday (how's that for a run on sentence for ya??). I had already been on a dd forum on about.com from when I was pg with Em. So, I knew about forums and quickly found this one!

2. I was a lurker for a while. Asked questions about vaccinations and read a lot about cd'ing (I had just started in Feb.). I liked that there were other crunchy mamas like myself. On my about board, there were quite a few homebirth, midwife birth, extended breastfeeding, cloth diapering moms, but there were also lots who didn't...

3. What kept me here? The fact that I wasn't the weird one

4. I never considered vax until I came here. Emma was fully immunzied when she died. Seth and Amelia are not. I do selective and delayed vax with them. I also never considered EC...I don't do it and wouldn't, but I learned about it, so I was at least able to make an educated decision!

[ksjhwkr]

Oh yeah, thank you all for the s for me right now. I am sure that I will write some about Emma if you all don't mind. I am pretty hesitant to write about her anywhere other than the grief and loss forum just because I was asked not to on a ddf I was on before. When I was pregnant with Seth (I got pg 1 month after she died, so it was still pretty raw and new), the ladies on the dd forum here asked me not to write about her. They said it was too hard for them to read it. So, I didn't write to them about it at all. i just bottled it up. I've learned since then that I can't bottle it, but I won't write about it unless I know it's ok. :
You all are the best, you know that?