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post #501 of 618
Oh yeah, and my car died. No way to fix it. It has almost 100k mi on it (ford taurus) so it's ready to be junked. Can't buy another one though. :
post #502 of 618
Kleine Hexe - Could you still have your mom over for Christmas too? She will be alone on Christmas if your dad is working.
post #503 of 618
Thought I'd share a pic of my tree. It's artificial and this will be the last yr that I use it. I've used it for 3 yrs but it's really making my allergies go nuts.
It's interesting, the lights look so big in the pic but they are the regular mini lights.
My mom actually complimented me on my tree. She NEVER compliments me so I was surprised. She said that I have the best decorated tree that she has ever seen in someone's private home. (She works as a nanny and some of them even had professionals come in to decorate their trees!).
It's really funny because this year, I did nothing special to my tree. I wasn't into it at all. I decorated quick as can be. LOL
http://new.photos.yahoo.com/lizcioci...804112696457/0
post #504 of 618

Merry chrissy mamas :)

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oy!

i've been MIA, been depressed, then sick, then insanely busy.
I just have found it impossible to get into a "holiday" mood. I just dont care, period. I am dreading going to family gatherings. I just dont give a damn.

My whole family came down with a 72 hour stomach flu. NO fun.

I havent caught up with the thread yet, but I hope to in the next couple days.

Hope every one had and is having a wonderful yule tide!

Amanda
Hope everyone is feeling a bit better now. I had a bit of the holiday blah's too... Made it a bit difficult to enjoy it but I think it turned out really nice for us, hopefully the same happened for you.

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Oh yeah, and my car died. No way to fix it. It has almost 100k mi on it (ford taurus) so it's ready to be junked. Can't buy another one though. :
Geez tis the season OTJ... our car died too and it sucks, but I'm GRATEFUL that it was our beater of a second car and not the newer car that dh drives to work! I'll be persevering without it, one less cost for us to worry about (it was an 88 so a bit of a money pit, I joked that it has leprosy... leaving bits whereever it goes ) Trying to look on the positive, I'll get more exercise (will have to walk my little guy to school now), better for the environment (its a 6cylinder car, old at that, and only got driven on lots of short trips , and it'll get us out into our community more often!

Our Christmas day is over thank Goddess We had my bil & sil over from xmas eve at lunch time, till this afternoon at about 5pm. We had a lovely lovely time despite the hecticness of having that many people in our house. Sil is really trying to grow up it seems (I used to only be able to deal with her in very very small doses lol) and the kids were ALL wonderful together. It was really quite magical to go thru all the traditional things with the kids with all of them here... read the night before christmas (cool pop up book), left goodies for santa & reindeer (did ya know Santa is traditionally left a beer with his midnight snack here in australia? LMAO) walked up our street to see the excellent light displays. Then the grown ups retired to the patio to drink far too much wine & champagne, eat way way too many prawns LOL and play cluedo (I won it was Mrs white, in the library with the knife hehe) and bs the night away... It was about 1130pm before we even started playing santa lol : Went to bed at 2am, up at 5with the first kid.. but still had a great day. Hope everyone else is having a great holiday with family & friends!
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post #506 of 618
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I'll be persevering without it, one less cost for us to worry about ...Trying to look on the positive, I'll get more exercise (will have to walk my little guy to school now)
Unfortunately, I don't have a husband who has another car. Where can I find one of those? heh heh.
Everything is too far to walk to. Ds's school is definitely too far (it's the only public preschool for his age in my area). Grocery stores are too far. Docs are too far. And, on top of all that, there isn't a bus service in the town I live in.
So, I REALLY need a car. sigh. : :

Can't wait for this day to be over. I'll be taking my tree down tomorrow.
Bah. Humbug.
post #507 of 618
Wish I could clone mine for you OTJ (the husband with the car that is as all my friends think he's a definite winner. Hang tight and try not to let it drag you under...hopefully an opportunity will present itsellf and SOON at that

I'm truly over the holiday season as well, and my tree will be down within the next couple of days at the latest too. By the time christmas gets here I'm ready to be done with it Kids are napping now and DH and I are about to get stuck into the house and try to get it back to normal before it makes me crazy (er).
post #508 of 618
sounds like several of you had holiday "celebrations" resembling ours- thank the Goddess ours is over too! Christmas Eve was the ever so obligatory night at my mom's- she has been angry with me for several weeks (long story) so knew that would be a bit tickley, plus I finally put my foot down about not going back over there on xmas morning to "open stockings' at her house (this has been a thing of hers my whole married live- we have to be there for breakfast and stockings, before we go see DH's folks, so it leaves us with no time to do with just our kids and selves...I decided since she was already hacked off at me anyway, this was the year to just say no ) Then of course, Christmas Eve service- this year at my brother and SIL's church- DH is very very recently exploring Paganism, and he was hilarious- commenting on everything that was stolen by the church from Pagan practices, so we actually had ourselves some fun with that Lots and lots of snippy comments from my mom later, we got the kids home at a semi-decent hour, and Xmas Day was just a comedy of errors, but it's over

kleinehexe- what did you end up deciding to do? I was thinking about you!

craven-

OTJ- so sorry about the car hope something comes your way soon!!

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I'm glad that I don't have to deal with drama of that variety. The worst I have to deal with is preaching. I hope Bean tells FIL that Jesus was imaginary or a goa'uld. It'd serve them right.
: well, did that happen????
post #509 of 618
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Moring, mamas. <happy sigh> We had a lovely holiday- starting with a nice Solstice(it wasn't raining so we could take a walk) and continuing on through a mellow and good tempered xmas. No whining- not even from the grown ups! We are all recovering from various ick, so we took it easy. My mil made a really wonderful dinner for xmas eve. I'm in no hurry to take down decorations- I'll wait until Jan.

I'm feeling very thankful and that includes my spiritual life too. It has been a big year for me. Everyday is a gift.
post #510 of 618
Heyla mamas all!

So...we hosted my DH's family for the holidays this year and all I can say is never, ever, EVER again. Never!

My MIL is a sweet older woman who really does try to understand AP philosophies and while she comes from a very different background herself, she DOES try. My SIL and her family however...sigh. I just made it through three days of snide comments about our house, our lack of income and financial "success", our strange and probably dangerous "beliefs" (like, oh, cosleeping and nursing 21mo dd and not using cio and not allowing "battery" toys and homeschooling and all that). SIL and I come from such different places it's hard to find any common ground for polite conversation and when we added the holidays into the mix...yoicks! And she brought her dog (we have cats) and then was shocked that the animals didn't get along (her dog chewed through the leather edge of our one and only "real" piece of furniture, she didn't apologize, just claimed he must have been stressed by the cats...you really should have put them in the basement or something).

I actually wound up in tears on Christmas eve when they put out the gifts they had brought. My living room was swimming in packages...seriously more gifts than I've ever seen in one place. It's been a tight year and DH and I each gave each other just one gift while DD got two gifts...a wonderful wooden train engine (just an engine) and a wooden "poppy bead" toy made by a local craftsman (a barrel of wooden slats filled with wooden beads that you push with a stick so the beads roll around and pop? I don't know the real name for these toys). And what did MIL bring for dd? A plastic fisher price train set with tracks and buildings and all that stuff AND a plastic ToysRUs poppy bead toy. Most of the other stuff was over the top (a ralph lauren sweater for a toddler?) but those two...I was crushed.

I bawled my eyes out to DH that night and what we wound up doing was opening our gifts with dd first thing in the morning while still in bed and then doing the other gifts after brunch when the rest of the family arrived from their hotel. So at least I got a few hours of dd playing happily with the toys we picked out before she was inundated with the brightly colored mountain of consumer goods. At least I was able to keep her away from the pile of Bratz dolls her cousin got (Bratz dolls and "matching outfit for you"...like a pair of baby blue hot pants and a tight crop top that says "Juicy" on it. Not exactly my idea of appropriate for a 12 yo. Expecially since they all came from her soon to be step-father.)

SIL gave her a little toy stroller which made me cringe a bit, but dd loves it...so I guess the stroller stays and everything else will go to next year's MIN thread. So there is a bright side! It was just hard to find that bright side while holding a growling dog away from dd with one hand and smiling politely.

So...from now on we celebrate Solstice as a family and avoid the extended family like the plague on Christmas.

But it might snow tonight, and DD really did have a wonderful time, and the sun is coming back and there is so much to be thankful for...I know we are truly blessed by the gods!
post #511 of 618
Due to the power outage and "moving out" of our friends' place, I ended up missing our Solstice celebration at church. Instead, we were just incredibly grateful to be home and warm and have some sense of normalcy. We got internet service back on Saturday - whoohoo!

DD has been acting up a bit lately - I think due to all the changes that we've gone through the past few weeks (my pneumonia, no heat/power, staying with brand-new friends for 5 days, returning home, etc.) I desperately need to wash little girl underpants because she's been having a lot of accidents, too.

We were going to have a Christmas dinner at our house with friends (all our relatives live out of state) but we had just got back into our house, so that was canceled.

For Christmas day, we sat around and watched videos, ate popcorn and played with DD. It was very good. We all had a nap too.

I am very glad to have the whole thing over with though. We never did get lights on our real tree. And we only put up 3 ornaments on it. (DD has a little fake tree left-over from the previous home-owners which she decorated.) I feel a bit guilty for having a real tree and then not even really "using" it. But at least it smells nice still and we can recycle it.

Now I am just trying to figure out the best way to get it to recycling. The boy scouts left an envelope for donations and come by sometime soon to pick up xmas trees. That would be the easiest route, but I don't want to give money to BSA because I disagree with some of their policies. So I'm not sure.

DH is off work this week - I am so glad! This month has sucked. In fact it's been hard since before Thanksgiving, so I am glad the "season" is over now. I'm just going to focus on staying healthy (still borderline here with the pneumonia), spending time with my DD and DH and I am starting a new project.

I hope those of you with car woes find what you need as soon as possible. Ode, I've been there before and it's so not fun.
post #512 of 618
A blessed Midwinter to all the lovely mamas here!!!!!!!!!!
post #513 of 618
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Originally Posted by wombatclay View Post
So...we hosted my DH's family for the holidays this year and all I can say is never, ever, EVER again. Never!

My MIL is a sweet older woman who really does try to understand AP philosophies and while she comes from a very different background herself, she DOES try. My SIL and her family however...sigh. I just made it through three days of snide comments about our house, our lack of income and financial "success", our strange and probably dangerous "beliefs" (like, oh, cosleeping and nursing 21mo dd and not using cio and not allowing "battery" toys and homeschooling and all that). SIL and I come from such different places it's hard to find any common ground for polite conversation and when we added the holidays into the mix...yoicks! And she brought her dog (we have cats) and then was shocked that the animals didn't get along (her dog chewed through the leather edge of our one and only "real" piece of furniture, she didn't apologize, just claimed he must have been stressed by the cats...you really should have put them in the basement or something).
OMG! I can't believe how rude your SIL was to you with the snide comments and all. And bringing her dog - did she even ask permission? I really have no tolerance for irresponsible dog owners. And I say this as someone who has a dog and loves dogs. SIL should pay to repair or replace your furniture that was chewed.

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Originally Posted by wombatclay View Post
At least I was able to keep her away from the pile of Bratz dolls her cousin got (Bratz dolls and "matching outfit for you"...like a pair of baby blue hot pants and a tight crop top that says "Juicy" on it. Not exactly my idea of appropriate for a 12 yo. Expecially since they all came from her soon to be step-father.)
Those things make me wanna :Puke Eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeew!
post #514 of 618
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Heyla mamas all!

So...we hosted my DH's family for the holidays this year and all I can say is never, ever, EVER again. Never!

My MIL is a sweet older woman who really does try to understand AP philosophies and while she comes from a very different background herself, she DOES try. My SIL and her family however...sigh. I just made it through three days of snide comments about our house, our lack of income and financial "success", our strange and probably dangerous "beliefs" (like, oh, cosleeping and nursing 21mo dd and not using cio and not allowing "battery" toys and homeschooling and all that).
UGH! I'm so glad for you it's over! I know it must've been hard for you to bite your tongue! I don't think I could've done it...my sil knows she'd get about two warnings then it'd be ON lol. I'm sure your dd will not notice when the other toys are gone and she has the ones YOU chose for her to play with, she will love them and have a ball!

Thank Goddess that's over with for another year!!!
post #515 of 618
The holidays are supposed to be about peace and love and joy. Right? Right? What a joke! I can see that I'm not the only one who has challenging families.

I did end up going to my in-laws on the 25th.

MIL and FIL still did not apologize to me but I didn't expect they would. I just stayed very aloof all day. At one point the new SIL asked me what was wrong because I seemed "off" and I just responded with, "well, ds seems to be getting sick." And he is sick. He threw up on the drive over there. We still went because he sometimes gets car sick. Turns out he has been throwing up since then. poor boy. Today he is so lethargic and just sleeoing and throwing up.

So let's see. I had to deal with the parents in-law rudeness about my parents. I had to try listen to everyone talk about how disgusting and gross birth is. SIL is due in a few weeks so they were all talking about birth. I had to listen to the new SIL bitch and complain and talk meanly about her 15 yr old daughter...including coments like,"Well, I make them go to church and sunday school every week so they should not be horrible like this." I watched her spank her 10 yr old son....in front of everyone inclusing my kids. Then she told him to shower because he smelled. After a very short while I went to sit outside on the porch with all the "men folk" and I stared out at the cows while the "women folk" prepared dinner and set the table. I'm sure I'm getting talked about right now because I was not pitching in and helping the women. I could not stand to be in there anymore. I had to get out. So they can all just kiss my cute little

Needless to say the vindictive part of me hopes that they all get my ds's stomach bug! I mean aren't pagans evil?

I just plan on remaining aloof yet polite when I have to interact with the in-laws. I'm done. Done.
post #516 of 618
for those of us whose holidays were a bit challenging

thank you to the mamas who are sharing positive stories, I'm so glad some of you did have nice relaxing holidays- it gives me hope

and another for ALL of us, I'm so glad to be part of this group of mamas, to rejoice and commiserate with!! Blessed Be!
post #517 of 618
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Needless to say the vindictive part of me hopes that they all get my ds's stomach bug! I mean aren't pagans evil?
: i would be wishing the same thing...
post #518 of 618
so my life is about to get a whole lot more interesting...

DH just called- he has "done the deed" and given his notice to quit my family's business. We have been planning this off and on for a month, my business is growing, but not big enough to support us, but the only way it is going to get to that stage is to take the wild flying leap of faith and get him home. So, a nice quiet opportunity presented itself after their lunch break to talk to my dad (his boss- are y'all lost yet? ) and he did. He has called to let me know he did it, but couldn't stay on the phone long, so I don't really know how everything went, how badly they reacted, etc. I have the most passive-aggresive-dysfunctionally-over-involved in everyone else's business kinda family, so we have been dreading this for weeks...now that it is out there in the open, I don't quite know how to feel...but some positive outcome thoughts would be very welcome
post #519 of 618
Wishing you much success with it Brenda! Sometimes you really just have to take that leap into the unknown to see what you can really do! It'll go fabulously for you I'm sure : I applaud you for being brave enough to do it! I am thinking I would like to have my own small home business in the near future... just have to find my niche I guess

I agree that a seems to be in order here! Amazing that this time of year always turns into so much stress when it's supposed to be a warm happy family time :
post #520 of 618
oh goodness, what holiday you all had!

I am sorry you have such crazy families. I don't see my IL's so I guess I am lucky!!! :

We had a great time with my family but happy to be home!

The girls are playing with daddy right now and enjoying their new toys. (they go way too many...but my mom really did try to keep things in perspective...she each got 5 compared to 10)
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