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Originally Posted by The4OfUs 
Ooh, these are tough. While I think both can be totally normal and age appropriate, I also think that they are also things that need parental intervention to teach and guide the child as to how their actions and words can affect others.
Lindsey, those pics of Marlow are too cute!!!  , mama. This is tough. I think the bouncer vs rocker isn't part of "raising" your child, just doing things differently, like I'm sure you don't both brush your teeth the exact same way, you're going to soothe him different ways, so maybe you could approach DH that way, that it's the same philosophy (soothing), different technique type of thing. The CIO issue I would definitely put my foot down on, no way, no how would that happen...there's a difference between needing to take a few minutes to pee, or to regain your composure if you're burnt out, and leaving a baby to cry to "teach" them something....but I'm preaching to the choir, I know. I know there's a difference between fussing and crying, but you can easily tell when one is ramping up, and one is ramping down. As far as spoiling, it's literally impossible to spoil a baby. As to nipping it in the bud, if I may be so presumptuous, if your DH would read a book he might like Anthony Wolf's "The Secret to Parenting" (I know, cheesy title) - it's a great read for more authoritative parents into how and why gentle discipline works, and gives easy to remember anectdotes to how to handle various situations. I'd also maybe suggest getting him some developmental information so he knows what is appropriate and what's not at various stages in early childhood (Bates and Ames put out a decent "Your X-year-old" series, and the website Zero to Three is also good)- though I do think it's a 2-fold issue; knowing what is appropriate behavior (since too-high expectations can lead to lots of struggles), and knowing how to redirect behaviors when they're developmentally appropriate, but not socially appropriate (i.e., the creamed corn issue Lindsey brought up above). OK, I'll step down off my soapbox now. Gentle discipline is my HUGE soapbox issue, as I believe it's the single most important issue in childrearing past babyhood.....  :
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ITA. Very well put Heather

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Cute Cute Cute!! Still to upload them off the camera
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Originally Posted by sehbub 
I totally understand. It's HARD. Don't worry, no one can be expected to like everyone all the time, sweetie.
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Well put! Its hard when they're not your kids.
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Originally Posted by Marlow's mom 
Thank you! She is HUGE! She is now 29 inches long and still 20lbs (doing the bathroom scale thing). She is in 12-18 month clothes already. Definitely doesn't look like a baby born early! BUt I guess at 6 lbs she wasn't a small preemie in the first place!
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Wow! Chunko! Too cute! And at 6lb's she was definetly not a small preemie!!

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I know but they're just little kids and when they run up to me with their sticky-goobery hands I just want to run away but when Marlow is all sticky and stinky I want to run to her. I wish I could just get over myself sometimes.
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hugs hon

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O.M.Freeking.G. Guess what showed up on my porch this afternoon? YES. My Amazon Box.
So many bizarre scenarios are running through my mind right now about how this could have gone down....each of them more bizarre than the next!
Good news is, all the kiddies will get their presents, even if they are a week late.
So, here's a fun question: What do YOU think happened to my package that finally made its way to me?
I think it got dumped after whoever stole it realized it was just childrens' books, someone else found it and decided to take pity on me (since it was obviously presents, as I ordered 4 copies of one book and 2 copies of another) and sent it to me, since all they had was the address on the box and our phone number is unlisted...though that doesn't answer the question as to why it was a duplicate receipt and not the original.....(note to self, check credit card transactions after I sign off MDC).
So anyway, there you have it. How unreal. Gotta go email my girlfriends....
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How Awesome!! I like your theory on the thief
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Originally Posted by Marlow's mom 
I think ummm.. the thief was maybe a teenager. His/her mom found the package and sent it to you.
OR
Someone's dog stole your package (that's why one end of the box is busted) and wrapped it up for his people. When they opened it on Christmas they thanked him and secretly sent it back to you so as not to hurt his feelings...I mean he's just a dog, he doesn't know any better.
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Lovin' the dog theory!!

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(my Mil is a USPS mail lady...she's slow).
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OMG, I find this hilarious!!laughup

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Has anyone else stopped doing a normal part of their everyday appearance (besides sleeping in) now that they have a baby?
What I mean is, I have stopped plucking my eyebrows. I just don't have the time to spend on it. Well, I do if I want to not play online.
So now I have my full blown bushy brows. My mom is half Mexican and my dad is a Greek so they are Bert and Ernie.
I am liking them but also a little self conscious about them too.
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Dude, you're killing me here!!

When a get over a fit of laughter, I read your next post and it cracks me up again! Bert and Ernie!!

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I'm kinda in between before and after kids. I've always been a bit Rockabilly/Funky. I wear jeans, but love chunky shoes. Im also only 4'11'', so any height I can get, I get!!! I keep my hair cut and colored. I wear jeans, but pair it with a cute top. My glasses are my trademark, kinda funky. My make up is pretty simple, a little concealer under my eyes, loose powder, blush, mascara, and lip gloss and if Im feeling racey, I wear red lipstick. I just really like the look from the 40's. Helen, your wedding pics reminded me of that style. LOVED THEM!!
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Sarah! When did you change your photos? They are too cute and funny. What kind of carrier is Sam in?
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Great new pics Sarah!
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I am thinking of telling her that she is no longer welcome in our life until she gets checked out. 
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Sorry you're having trouble with your mom. That must be really hard for you guys

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MAN, do I love the fact that he's handy. He can fix just about anything. I find that INCREDIBLY sexy.  :
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You're SOOO lucky! My dh is NOT a handyman. I usually try fixing it myself or my fil does it. Its actually kind of cute.

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Originally Posted by sehbub 
Korin and Amy -  for dealing with the crappy parent/IL situation. Korin, your FIL sounds like a peach.  :
Heather, I WISH B was handy. Like at all.  He's cute and everything, but I've pulled out the "household repairs the Rosie the Riveter way" book my sis got me a few years ago more times than I can count. If something is broken, B always says, "well, let me take a look at it." And then I inevitably end up fixing it. He tries, sweetheart that he is, but it just doesn't work. 
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I hear ya on the handyman situation!!

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Originally Posted by mommitola 
True appearance confessions:
I haven't had a pedicure since September. The polish is still partially on from then. Ahem. I just cut my nails off anyway so as not to stab a baby.
I try to keep some kind of routine though. After my shower, I do skin care and do my brows (following the Allure-magazine approved ingenious method), and dry my hair. Floss. I don't shave anything anymore. What's the point? I threw out all my makeup in August when I realized it was expired anyway. So no makeup anymore, although I'd like to get some.
I get a haircut more like every 8 weeks, and I am a monster by the time the next appointment rolls around. My stylist always yells at me for not coming in for a bang trim and neck cleanup in between appointments.
Why, it's screeching time!
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Our toe nails must look the same. Same red paint from 2 months ago!! I also keep my brows groomed too. You look beautiful without makeup!! You have such style. Your eyes are gorgeous!
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What is this method?
I find you ideas intriguing, and wish to subscribe to your newsletter...
[obscure Simpsons reference, anyone? I know it's used as a flamekiller online sometimes, but I mean it seriously!]
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Yes, what method and my dh thinks the Simpsons reference is about the Comic book store guy.
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Merry Christmas everyone!! We are having a wonderful Christmas (remember, it is 12 days, lasting until Candlemas, not just one day!!) despite the flood....anyway I just caught up since I hadn't been around in a few days, and will be back later to respond & post pics! Thanks again for all the cards, they are all beautiful! Korin, yours was so sweet. And all the June babes (+ one July babe of course, Kelly!) are just adorable!!
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Thanks Kerri! We've got our tree up still too. Not taking it down till after the Epiphany. But then again we tend to be procrastinaters (sp?) so it might be up a little longer.

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We call such tattoos "the tramp stamp" 'round these parts!
Haha! Oh man, this needs a visual aid. You find the end points and the natural arch using a pencil - line a pencil up vertically with the side of your nose. Where it hits the inner corner is where the brow should start. Tilt it from the axis of your nose to align with the outer corner of your eye. Where the pencil touches on the brow is where it should end. Then move it so the pencil appears to cover the pupil of your eye when looking straight ahead. this is the natural arch's peak. Then the trick is actually minimal plucking for shape, and more trimming with scissors. So no overplucked brows. And I should say you only do the pencil measurement once, after that it's basically maintenance. I do not stand in front of my medicine cabinet with a pencil every morning.
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I've got a tattoo on my lower back too

: Plus 4 more. And Im researching my next one right now. I really want a pin up and I think it might be a Bettie Page. Love her, so beautiful!!
Awesome method!! Thanks for the instructions. Gonna do mine tomorrow morning.

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here's the thing, yes it is normal for the age but yes it is time for a parent to start teaching them proper responses for given situations. c does the spit things out in his father's hand thing because dh is okay with it, but he is also being taught to get a napkin and if it were someone else's kid spitting regurgitated food on me, i would think yuck and try to redirect them to use a napkin. so age appropriate yes, but old enough to start learning, yes as well.
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I agree. Carson's done the spit out food thing, so has Kya, but its usually on our plate, which to me, is equally discusting. And they are being told that thats not proper. Dh and I joke that her first date will be short, cuz the minute she tastes something yucky, she'll spit it on his plate and it'll be over!

We also joke that she'll have to take her carseat with her on her first date, cuz it goes to 100lbs and I was 98lbs in high school!

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friends were supposed to come by today but decided i live too far and it would be better if i came down to them by myself with my 2 kids in the car though i commute 5 days a week down normally and i am the one who always comes down to them and i have lived in this house for 4 years and this is only the second time this friend has been in it. not bitter though. kind of glad to have a day to myself. just irritated by the rational...
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That totally sucks! sorry

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Ladies, i've been toasted so many times, I'm roasted.
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I have a lower back tattoo  :
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Me too, Me too

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C... when in pants potty training still sucks. will not tell me at all if he has to go. so we are having some naked time and i have resorted to bribes for when he goes by himself. we are at about 99% accuracy without pants and i don't have to tell him when to go more than once or twice. hoping to reintroduce pants tomorrow...  :
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We do the potty prize with Carson too. When she uses the potty, she gets to pick a prize out of the grab bag. It consists of little cheapy stuff, keychains, stickers, bubbles, etc. NO CANDY!!
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I've got a lower back tattoo too...  It's a nice one though. It doesn't say JUICY.
Helen, your childhood sounds a bit like my high school years spent at a Fundamental Baptist boarding school. It was like homeschool because there were no teachers, and we couldn't leave the campus. It was friggin nutty. We had to wear culottes, the kind that go past your knees. I wrote an essay about culottes if you want to read it. We also had to watch the Left Behind videos. Not the remakes by Kirk Cameron, but the friggin scary-ass 70s ones. Some weird stuff. I had nightmares of hell for ten years after that. Thank God for atheism. 
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About the Juicy tatoo

Can't believe you made it out of there alive!

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Love it. [shudder - you poor, poor girl]....I noted in the description that it said they fall 24 inches from the inseam.....my entire inseam is only 24 inches - so I'd be wearing......PANTS!!!!!! 
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Me too!! I know my inseam is shorter than 28 inches!

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Me too.  It's a bouquet of snapdragons, in honor of my paternal grandfather. I also have healing hands on my left hip, which were drawn from MY hands, which is kinda cool, and I'll be getting a bouquet of the kids' birth flowers in between my shoulder blades when we can afford it.
The tattooing is addictive. So is piercing.  :
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That snapdragon tattoo sounds so pretty. I'd love to see a pic. How cool about your hands being the model. And yes, I belong to TA (tattooees anonymous)

I have five and am currently looking for inspiration for my next one. And I've had 6 piercings, but took out my tongue ring. I still rock the nose ring though! And I kept my belly ring in till about 7mos preggers then took it out until after the dc's were born, then put it back in.
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Sorry, it doesn't count as a tramp stamp unless you also accessorize it with a visible thong and velour sweat pants with something written across the butt! It should also be "tribal," but you shouldn't be able to tell me the meaning. And then you'd be my SIL. The second choice for tramp stamp iconography in Massachusetts is a Claddagh, pronounced "Klatter."
I was also more of a piercing person. My one rule for Harper will be that any piercings she may want are done by a professional, not a gun at the mall. I scarred the heck out of my ears going that route, and the difference once I tried a professional studio was amazing. It's so weird that we'll have to have policies on things like body mods, cell phones, email addresses for our kids.
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OMG thats funny!!

Whats a Claddagh? And ITA about being pierced in a professional shop, not the mall!!
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 : no it's not.  : its a tree which also happens to be my business logo. i'll see if i have a pix... i have 3 tattoos. time for a new one...
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Would love to see a pic!
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hee. i was thinking this was something suggestive until i saw the 6 month old part and realized it was just a typo. 
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Hah, me too!
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laughup  :  :  : geeze, um, your mom's dad. um, does he not like kids????
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I was thinking the same thing!

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I was really sad about moving our celebration to my parents' since I was SO looking forward to hosting our first Christmas in our new house here, back in antediluvian times (and if you get that joke, you have a very good vocabulary  ) but it ended up being very nice. My side of the family is very small (we did the huge side of the family - DH's - for Thanksgiving on our big road trip) so it was just the five of us, my folks in NJ, my grandmother (from NY), and my younger brother (from Chicago). It was pretty quiet but a lot of fun - the girls looooove my brother (he's the 25-year-old cool uncle who runs around playing with them and gave them THIS for Christmas - and they can't wait for us to use it; we're going to try it out tonight! There are recipes in the booklet it came with for dairy-free sorbets, so thankfully I won't be deprived!) My grandmother loves spending time with her great-grandchildren, and it was nice to just relax and catch up with family.
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That Cuisenart ROCKS!!!!!! Man it sucks not eating dairy or sugar!!! That looks pretty tasty!
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Has anyone not been toasted yet??
I need to pass it on!
Taking down the tree today!!
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Me, Me, I haven't been toasted yet!

: I missed being online yesterday and all of a sudden we in a whole new verb
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Hey, you'd do well on the SAT with those powers of deduction!  Yeah, it means "before the flood" but it's usually used to mean "very old, a long time ago" because it actually refers to "THE flood" (like the Biblical flood) so anyway, it was my lame attempt at English-major wit 
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I though it was rather witty and cute!

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Well, crappity-crap-crap-craperooo... Dan is back in the hospital today. We left around 2:45 this morning and I headed out (he opted to be admitted and rest there rather than have to move around) at noon or so. Couldn't stand to be there anymore, 'though my Dad came to help with baby duty. Again, she was a champ. Slept much toward the end of our stay, and then the ENTIRE drive to my house, then my parents. Hooray! Anyway, Dan's symptoms were the same, but a bit worse this time with the aphasia and numbness. His brain is "clean," though, so they think he's having compound migraines. Not cool, but better than a stroke. I'm staying at my parents' until things settle out again.
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UGH, Megs, Im so sorry. Thinking of you and Dan.

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maybe i'll find some time to post those pics someday....
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Would love to see some pics
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I have only wore sweats in the last few years in public twice and both times I was leaving the hospital after having babies.
I am looking forward to seeing you at the LLL conference. Wait until you see the hotel!!
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I don't think I've worn sweats out in public since I was a kid. When I had the kids, all were born in the summer, so sweats NO THANKS!! With all 3 I wore a loose tank dress. And Im jealous you guys are getting together.

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Originally Posted by medicmama 
Hello dh has the gi flu fun! I try to be a girly girl 90% of the time i have makeup on, i always shave/shower, lulu just goes in with me.
Please keep us up to date meg,sorry to here your hubby in back in the hosp,it must be so nerve racking.
My mom is the realy hard to please type.No matter how hard you try it's never enough. She went way over board for christmas and didn't get what i asked her to get,and when i asked her about it I was being picky and unappreciative of "all she does for me" .  : I asked for jeans for the boys like 2 pair each,they are long and thin so I need like a 6 in length and a 4 in waist and the only place i can buy them pants is at penny's they carry levi's slim and she goes to wally world and gets elastic cords for the boys. If they fit I could do this but they don't. She said they were too expensive. But thats what they NEED, not the other s*it she spent like 60 dollars on!
She must think I'm realy fat she bought me a bath robe and a cord jacket that is a size 2x.I wear a size l-xl in t shirts and thats cause I like them not clingy . "You know you are not as skinny as you once were you know" She is just hurtfull.
She asks the kids what grammy b get you,oh that's nice,don't you like what i got you even better! mine's better I'm the best grammy arn't I .And she got pissed when I said yes you win your the best and everyone else sucks! It turned into a  you no  you match.  sometimes it is best to keep my mouth shut. Then she gave me shit about the tree being on the floor and dinner not being ready.  :
Thanks for the therapy session,I'll leave the co-pay on the way out! 
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She sounds so sweet

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It looks like we have thrush again and J.C is getting a little patch of eczema on his face. So Im pretty sure its the dairy and the enormous amounts of sugar I've been consuming since Thanksgiving!! So Im going no dairy or sugar. Hey Kerri, can you send me some recipes or links for non dairy stuff. Maybe a list of the dishes you make, so I could start a list. We're both taking probiotics now.
On a much happier note, J.C is cutting his first tooth!!! Its barely poked thru, but I can feel it!!
Ok, off to bed with me...Im gonna have to make sure I get 'puter time everyday, cuz this is just too long of a post and hard to keep up! Phew, we can talk!
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