I really want to stay upbeat, but I really need to vent.
Dh is certainly not the most easy-going person in the world, but, so far he's been respectful of my pregnancy for the most part. All that changed yesterday after my 38-week appointment.
Some background: I saw the midwife early in the morning and voiced my concerns about my scheduled induction on Monday. You might remember all my issues about this from a thread I started recently. Anyway, I didn't get to talk directly to my OB yesterday, since it was her "surgery day" at the hospital. She is supposed to call me today at some point to discuss, but the midwife said that "the doctor never changes her mind about an induction date."
Since the baby and I appear to be doing fine and I don't have high BP at home, not to mention that I am neither spilling protein nor have any swelling whatsoever, I don't see the reason why I need to be rushed in for induction at 39 weeks. I don't see the harm in waiting until my due date before assessing me for any intervention.
Dh knows all the details, of course. We had a long talk last Sunday about me cancelling the induction, and he agreed. When he came home yesterday, I told him that I would not have an answer until today. He flipped. It's very hard for him to schedule vacation time, and it seems he has it all set up for next week, so it would be too hard to change. He said he could go ahead and take the week anyway but did not want to "waste the week" with "nothing to do." And so I said, "OK, then, you'd like me to go in for the induction on Monday?" At this point he got even angrier because he claims that my health and the baby's well-being come first.
His argument is that I should have planned this better. Why hadn't I discussed this with the doctor weeks ago? (...because they surprised me with this only last week on the day before Thanksgiving).
Well, that's the gist of it. Dh is still very angry at me, and the whole thing even escalated to him calling me names. I am usually pretty rational about these things, and he takes advantage of the fact that I have a pretty thick skin. But I've got my plate full nowadays and cannot deal with temper tantrums. To say that I am upset is a big understatement.
I thought I was expecting my first baby but it looks like I've got a really difficult one at home already! I am trying to keep this within MDC standards, so I won't discuss my inner dialogue (you can pretty much guess what I mean.)
Thanks for letting me rant...
Dh is certainly not the most easy-going person in the world, but, so far he's been respectful of my pregnancy for the most part. All that changed yesterday after my 38-week appointment.
Some background: I saw the midwife early in the morning and voiced my concerns about my scheduled induction on Monday. You might remember all my issues about this from a thread I started recently. Anyway, I didn't get to talk directly to my OB yesterday, since it was her "surgery day" at the hospital. She is supposed to call me today at some point to discuss, but the midwife said that "the doctor never changes her mind about an induction date."
Since the baby and I appear to be doing fine and I don't have high BP at home, not to mention that I am neither spilling protein nor have any swelling whatsoever, I don't see the reason why I need to be rushed in for induction at 39 weeks. I don't see the harm in waiting until my due date before assessing me for any intervention.
Dh knows all the details, of course. We had a long talk last Sunday about me cancelling the induction, and he agreed. When he came home yesterday, I told him that I would not have an answer until today. He flipped. It's very hard for him to schedule vacation time, and it seems he has it all set up for next week, so it would be too hard to change. He said he could go ahead and take the week anyway but did not want to "waste the week" with "nothing to do." And so I said, "OK, then, you'd like me to go in for the induction on Monday?" At this point he got even angrier because he claims that my health and the baby's well-being come first.
His argument is that I should have planned this better. Why hadn't I discussed this with the doctor weeks ago? (...because they surprised me with this only last week on the day before Thanksgiving).
Well, that's the gist of it. Dh is still very angry at me, and the whole thing even escalated to him calling me names. I am usually pretty rational about these things, and he takes advantage of the fact that I have a pretty thick skin. But I've got my plate full nowadays and cannot deal with temper tantrums. To say that I am upset is a big understatement.
I thought I was expecting my first baby but it looks like I've got a really difficult one at home already! I am trying to keep this within MDC standards, so I won't discuss my inner dialogue (you can pretty much guess what I mean.)
Thanks for letting me rant...
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She did not even call me herself with this; she had one of the midwives call to tell me. So, my choices are: I can show up when scheduled or go off on my own. The practice will not attend me if I don't follow their wishes, and it's too late to change practices for my insurance.
