Just thought I'd bring this up because it fumes me!

[SunnyBabyIn2005]

My sister babysits 2 boys, their mother died from cancer earlier this year and now the father has custody of them. The oldest boy is not his child, but hers with another man who did not want custody of him. Well the oldest is intact (at the moment) because his mother left him whole for all the good reasons to, yet she gave in when the youngest was born because his father pressured her to circ him. Well, anyways, almost instantly after she died the father was making plans to get the oldest boy (age 6) circed. I guess they went for a consultation today and his surgery is scheduled for Dec. 12th. This just totally fumes me that he would do this, especially against his dead wife's wishes.

[LavenderMae]

That is so wrong. WTF is wrong w/ people.
That poor little boy.

[13Sandals]

omg that poor, poor, poor little boy. he will miss his penis. he will totally know. that man is a monster. I hope one of the relatives sues to stop the procedure. that is the most depressing thing i've ever heard. there was a thread not too long ago about a 3 year old who got circ'd and he was crying, 'i want my old penis back..' i can't believe this is allowed to continue.

[mattemma04]

There is probably little you can do to prevent it. Ofcourse you could confront the father,and let him know the boy can certainly sue him when he is older.Him and the doctor.Let the doctor know as well prior to the surgery.Put a packet together for the young boy,and when he is of age give him the information so he can sue.Poor boy.Bad enough he lost his mother,birth father never really wanted him,and now his step father will mutilate his genitals for life.Chances are he will be conditioned to think circumcision was in his best interest.

[Susuhound]

can't you get an injunction to stop him? having custody doesn't mean 'do as you please'. there's gotta be a lawyer around here who can help. He's just lost his mother and been rejected by his father, he doesn't need to be mutilated by someone who is supposed to be caring for him.

[Microsoap]

I wish I could swear here!

Originally Posted by SunnyBabyIn2005

My sister babysits 2 boys, their mother died from cancer earlier this year and now the father has custody of them. The oldest boy is not his child, but hers with another man who did not want custody of him. Well the oldest is intact (at the moment) because his mother left him whole for all the good reasons to, yet she gave in when the youngest was born because his father pressured her to circ him. Well, anyways, almost instantly after she died the father was making plans to get the oldest boy (age 6) circed. I guess they went for a consultation today and his surgery is scheduled for Dec. 12th. This just totally fumes me that he would do this, especially against his dead wife's wishes.

The boy will feel sexually assaulted, which it is to the max. Chances are likely that he'll grieve for his foreskin/intact genitals for the rest of his life, since parents selfishly do this in infancy when the male has not voice because they know if you asked a (say,) 7-year-old "Do you want skin covering the end of your penis cut off?", he'd of course say: NOOOO!!!! And this boy will hate this person (I guess I have to call him that!) for the rest of his life.

All because of this selfish person's own insecurities. And think of THIS way, everyone: Why does he wait until AFTER his mother's death to force this sexual assault on to another human being? Because he DOESN'T HAVE THE YOU-KN0W-WHAT to do it to him when she was still ALIVE.

[SammyJr]

What a disgusting insecure man....and the "doctor" performing this mutilation is no better.

[13Sandals]

is it possible to call Social Services in your town? alert them there is a doctor doing a non-recommended cosmetic procedure on a 6 year-old against his recently deceased mother's wishes? give them the dr's name and the name of the father - perhaps they can scare one of them out of it. who knows -you might get someone at Social Services who is anit-circ...you could also mention that recent ruling where the judge ruled in favor of keeping the boy intact until he reaches the age of consent. seriously - there's got to be something that can be done here.

[SunnyBabyIn2005]

I don't know the Drs. name, my sister just relayed the information to me. I know they are going out of town for the surgery though.

[MCatLvrMom2A&X]

I almost didnt read this because I had a sinking sensation in my stomach that this is what it would be about : I am so sorry for the son. You could try to talk to the father but I seriously doubt it would do any good.

Everything I want to say about this "father" is a big UA violation.

[TigerTail]

Not to speak ill of the dead, but it would be easier for her relatives to fight him if she'd not gone along with mutilating her younger son.

Intactivists, don't give an inch.

[minkajane]

What is WRONG with people??? Not just the dad, but the doctor? What kind of doctor would agree to circumcise a SIX-YEAR-OLD for no reason????

Have you talked to the dad? We had a poster on here a while ago who got custody of her 3-year-old intact relative and was planning on scheduling a circ just because she thought that it was necessary and the boy's mom just hadn't gotten around to it. Maybe this dad thinks that circ is an absolutely essential thing and he's doing something good for his son. The boy may be non-retractable and the dad has been told the circ is necessary for the boy's well-being. Maybe if someone spoke to him and shared info, he'd "see the light," so to speak.

[Zamber]

That by far is the most disgusting, cold-hearted, screwed up thing I have ever heard! The boy just lost his mother for crying out loud! And now his step-father is going to put him through a cosmetic surgury?! What does he stand to gain doing this to this poor boy? I wish the biological father was in the picture to stop this from happening.

What the is wrong with that man that he has to hurt a little boy to make HIM feel better?!

[SunnyBabyIn2005]

I only met the father & the children once, at the mother's funeral because she was a friend of my sister, but as far as my sister knows the only reason he is having it done is so he can "look like him".

[kldliam]

where do these arrogant parents draw the line?
Age 6? 10? 15? When does a person's penis belong to him?

I guess the line is drawn when you can't physically hold down your kid anymore at your will to have part of his genitals ripped off.

[mommymarliah]

holy sh*t what the f*ck?!?! This makes me want to puke, isnt there anything that can be done to save this child?????

[grendal82002]

Originally Posted by SunnyBabyIn2005

I only met the father & the children once, at the mother's funeral because she was a friend of my sister, but as far as my sister knows the only reason he is having it done is so he can "look like him".

Wait the only reason he is having it done is so he can "look like him"?. This makes no sense. This child is not evwen his biological son. On top of that can't the child refuse to have it done? I mean hes only six but shouldn't he have some say about it.
To the OP I think your sister should intervene somehow. This is just disgusting.

[phatchristy]

: Just horrible.

[aira]

I hope this works out for the child to keep his penis. I agree with TigerTail, though - if she caved about it...

It also proves that he's not just uninformed - he apparently had these discussions with the mother...??? And if she caved, he probably wasn't very nice about it. :

[Bm31]

That "man" is no better than a child abuser.