I really hope you can figure something out.
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12/3/06 at 11:15pm
Do you dislike your dp right now? The reason I ask is this is his baby, too. Perhaps birthing with him in your home could be healing for you both as parents, not necessarily partners. As a first time mom, I would recommend having someone there to help you at least, during birth.
Another option is to ask him to leave your house and you live there.
I wouldn't feel comfortable towards the end of the preg living with my parents if they didn't support my birth choices. I also wouldn't put me or my baby at risk for medical intervention because of someone elses fear of birth.
Oh Sweetie... I don't have anything to say but what has been said. I wanted to offer you and !! I wish I could offer you a safe place... to live, to birth... to recover from all this craziness.
I used to clean hotels... and they ARE seriously dirty, but if you take that route, you could take supplies to clean it yourself (just what you'll want to be doing in labor!!), especially if you want to get in the tub. And be sure to bring ALL of your OWN linens, blankets, sheets, a plastic/rubber sheet to cover the mattress and their stuff ... hotels (that I can afford! ) never wash their top blankets or bedspreads... maybe once a week!
And I also thought, do you have anything like little cabins, that have their own walls, stand alone buildings, in your area? You know how some places, rather than nappy little motels, have just little cabins to rent for the night? Maybe that would be less obvious/less people hearing you? Especially in January, that might be affordable. Tons of those here in Colorado, but I don't know Alabama.
I second FLB, see if you can't connect with some underground midwives, and/or some less governmental aid organizations.
Oh my goodness.... That is a great idea! The cabin idea, that is. In January here you can rent a great little cabin in the woods at a local state park for next to nothing. I could probably afford to get it for a couple of weeks, so I would have time to clean it well. These cabins overlook a beautiful lake and they have HOT TUBS and fireplaces... hmmm.... my mental image of birthing in a dirty hotel room as my only *out of home* option just changed drastically. I am going to look into this.