Hi all, I have a huge problem my partner and i have 6 kiddies between us. They all live with us and all but 1 of them gets along with everyone. After huge discussions with all the children about what issues they have we have found that my step son aged 11 has a huge jealousy problem. He gets so upset over the smallest things like me buying someone else some socks. The problem has got so bad he has told us that he doesnt want to do any of the hard work around the farm which my partner and i both found ok but we said if that is how he wants it he shouldnt get the same privelleges the other kids do, so now we are picking on him. His school work is incredibly poor he wont even bring homework home and so now when he doesnt bring it home he loses his motor bike for a week, but we are picking on him. He has been telling all the kids at school that he hates his step brother aged 11 when we asked him why he told us that its because he is taller , smarter, nicer and he doesnt get in trouble. we explained that he doesnt get in trouble because he does as he is asked, but still we are picking on him. My step son has been for the last 6 months getting every single bit of attention good or bad around here and he is loving it. He is also upset that none of the other kids want to play with him but when they told him that it was because he is always trying to boss them around and get out of work he said they were picking on him. He tells me at least once a day how hard done by he is and how he gets nothing. He is the only one out of all of them that gets to race motor bikes , but he doesnt see that. He is the only one that gets any time spent with him as we are forever trying to "fix" whatever problem he has. Whenever anything doesnt go his way he will just cry and wont stop, when we make him do his school work he cries if we get him to wash up he cries. I do not know what to do or even where or how to start to try fix this problem, its now affecting everyone , his little sister asked me yesterday why her dad and i hardly ever talk to the rest of them . I tried to explain but i dont know how to tell them. I love my step son and step daughter greatly and until typing this have never referered to them as step kids please help me.
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12/3/06 at 9:19pm