I'm curious what you all use for your kids to call their second mom or second dad. We're looking for some creative ideas. Thanks!
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12/3/06 at 11:57pm
We had concerns that when one name is more socialy acceptable as a parents title than the other's title it can create a hierachy were one mother is seen as the 'real' mother or the more valid mother.
Although these days we both have had a turn at birthing when we first became parents we were concerned about the biases my partner would face.. folks seeing her as a "non-bio mum" or "honourary mum" instead of seeing her as just a mum, no different to me. So we do not differrentiate, not on official forms (where we write "Mother" over the printed "Father"), and such like. Plus we always introduce ourselves/describe ourselves as the kids' mothers.
Its not like we consiously suggested what our kids would call us, it evolved that way I guess and we didn't direct any new names..
Although this hasn't happened in years I do not like folks who have only just met us asking who birthed, as if they are trying to find a way out of viewing us both as equal mothers.