For those of you having homebirths......... - Page 2

[SleepyMamaBear]

at about 4 months pp with DD i decided that all future children i have will be homebirthed, spurred on by her TERRIBLE intervention filled hospital induction turned urgent c-section.
my family supports me and my choices for my family 100%. they might not always see WHY i feel the way i feel, but they still support me.
my mom is very sad that i am planning on only having DH, MW, MW assist, DD and DD wrangler here when i birth. "but i have never been to a homebirth before!, thats my grandbaby in there!" so she MIGHT be invited over during labor, but not the birth, who knows, my mind could be changed by the time i birth. and i might NEED her there. she was my best support with DDs labor/birth. cause my husband just didnt know what to do/say and annoyed the crap outta me!

my midwife is about 45 minutes away with no traffic. something i dont mind at all. i dont expect to have a quick labor, and getting to appts isnt too hard.

[Graceoc]

We had a homebirth last time (that turned into a UC...story in my siggy) I am on the fence on what we will do this time. But I think everyone assumes we will HB again. My family didn't say much and my IL's were here for the birth and very suppotive. Of coures when DH told his brother he said "Well you are going to have this one at a hospital now arn't you...it is so much safer espically after what happened last time...right????" To which DH replied "Well actually we thought we would do the whole outside with nature thing and give birth in a manger.....how does that sound to ya" LOL! Gotta love my DH! Who btw is NOT crunchy at all but delivers babies just fine and supports me in all that I do....

[SleepyMamaBear]

Grace, what a great DH!!!

[ladyleigh]

I've been preparing my family for a long time. My sister had a hospital birth with complications (meconium) last summer, so I know my parents are worried. But I'm not! And they know me well enough by now to let me do my own thing (I hope so, anyway). My husband is all for it, and I'm only 10 minutes from a hospital if I need one.

[kettunainen]

my friends are all totally keen on homebirths but are mostly not so cool with my wanting to UC. They are... distantly supportive of that. Partner is on board with it all and wife is totally supportive of homebirth, but she's not especially thrilled about UC.

haven't told anyone in any of our families yet that we're expecting, but were I to guess, 2 of the 4 families would be fine with homebirth, 1 maybe and 1 probably not. The last one being my mom. No one in our family has ever had a midwife or a homebirth or even gone to a free-standing birth centre. They're 100% medically-minded all the way.

Our partner's family (who will be first-time grandparents) are the iffy ones. The mom's a former nurse (genera-type RN, i think) and they're pretty mainstream. But they know we're a buncha weirdos here, and they've been able to adapt pretty well to that. Just don't know how they'll take the notion of UC, since our partner doesn't want to lie to his family.

My wife's families are a bit more progressive. Her mom and stepdad are oldtime hippies, so she grew up thinking that homebirth was the norm -- or at lease much more mainstream than it actually is. And her stepmom is Dutch, so midwives and homebirths should be a natural for her. 'Cept her own children are dreadfully mainstream and have had a total of 6 children, one of which died (congenital heart defect, passed away at 4 mos.), so who knows how that's changed her.

[Kimbalina]

We're having a home water birth and I have told my parents. we don't live in the same country, but they didn't say a thing about it. They know me, and know I am very independent, they also know I would do my research and that I'll always follow my intuition.

I have offered them literature if they're interested, but won't push it on them.

My hubby's parents, well he hasn't told them, I suspect they won't be happy about it, but who can say?! They'll find out eventually, and I have been told by friends not to defend your position to people who want to frighten you by saying its dangerous or irresponsible. If you just acknowledge that you've heard their opinion, but don't try to sell them, they'll soon see you won't be scared or swayed.

And continue to mention it when you do, with a huge smile and a ray of positivity! Works for me!