The December 4 yr old thread - Page 2

[MamaFern]

happy birthday day zachery!

[saritasmile]

YAY ZACKARY!!! HAPPY BIRTHDAY! I wish i knew how to make the writing more exciting.

[tea olive]

HAPPY BIRTHDAY ZACHARY!!!!



<<<<<god, i am so not attuned to the dates and events. sorry i'm missing birthdays and such.>>>>>

i have to say i am the same, as much as i know i should do better.
when i forget to say happy birthday or congratulations or fail to answer a question even when i meddle in other things and you have asked me directly, please know that i mean nothing by it. i have simply forgotten because my mind is convoluted. also, even with so many years of computer usage, i think this is my first year finding my way with using it, and feeling out my communication with it.

jaz, that sounds really really nice.

ruby is quite stubborn and defiant. i know the other two were at this age but this particular version makes me bananas cos she seems to know better what is going on. lately she pees in her clothes once a week because she simply finds it too much trouble to go. i am finally not hounding her to go all the time cos i give up on that one.
it is worse when dh is home. my guess is cos he is more lenient with them. hahahahaha, me the strict parent. it is actually more about consistency i guess. i'm really good at constantly growling about the same things and being hypersensitive to it ever happenning again and avoiding those situations or fixing the house so it won't happen. i have become rather strict in comparison to how i was four years ago, even a year ago. i will not do anything for ruby when she shrieks at me, no matter how pathetic her situation. cos she is able to control her voice when i demand it, thought it ain't pretty this weeding of it. they are shrieking so much that i am afraid the cops are going to come over so i have become intolerant of it.
they really need to say no and can't help it though. it is part of saying "i'm me!"

[DecemberSun]

Zachary's birthday was December 3rd, but thank you for all the well wishes. Happy belated birthday to Haeven! And happy birthday to the ones I have forgotten to mention... I think Eli, Ruby, and Razi are the only other 4 yr olds, the rest are coming right up? I think we can all agree that we love each other's kids and we don't mean to forget to wish happy birthdays. It's tough to keep up with this wild group!

Ok, so my baby is tranverse at 27 weeks. Do I have time for her to get into position? I don't have health insurance and can't imagine how we would pay for a c-section. Please please send us prayers and well wishes that she gets her head where it needs to be!!! I can feel her completely stretched out with her head on my left and her feet on my right. It's really weird because Zachary was always head down, as far as I could tell. And this baby is facing in so she likes to punch my insides, which feels intensely weird to me! It's definitely bizarre to feel someone tickling my bladder.

[XmasEve]

Leah, dc2 was transverse for the LONGEST time. Then when she got too big for that, comfortably, she was OBLIQUE all the time. If she wasn't oblique, she was breech... Only rarely was she head down! And I never saw a doctor or midwife, and had her UC. She turned head down only about the last 3 weeks, so at about 40 weeks.

For me it was mental. Until I was honestly ready to have her out in the world and in our family, she wouldn't "assume the position!" It's quite common. Have you been experiencing any recent stresses or fears about adding another baby to the mix?

[majazama]

happy belated b-day to Zachary!!!

Leah, you have lots of time before the baby will need to be head first. Are you going with a MW? Post something about this in the "midwives/doulas forum" or UC forum, and they can help direct you to some good websites on 'spinning babies'.... There is something I remember about making sure you are having good posture all the time to be sure baby is in a good position. pushing a shopping cart is a good activity to get baby in the right spot....

anyone here remember that website???

[DecemberSun]

Originally Posted by XmasEve

Leah, dc2 was transverse for the LONGEST time. Then when she got too big for that, comfortably, she was OBLIQUE all the time. If she wasn't oblique, she was breech... Only rarely was she head down! And I never saw a doctor or midwife, and had her UC. She turned head down only about the last 3 weeks, so at about 40 weeks.

Thank you, that makes me feel better!

Originally Posted by XmasEve

For me it was mental. Until I was honestly ready to have her out in the world and in our family, she wouldn't "assume the position!" It's quite common. Have you been experiencing any recent stresses or fears about adding another baby to the mix?

No, but I have certainly been enjoying not having contractions every other second! I was thinking maybe that's why I had preterm labor with Zachary- because he was engaged head down, ready to go from the very beginning. And this baby is nowhere near in position, so maybe this is a good thing!

Thanks, Meg.

[DecemberSun]

Originally Posted by majazama

Leah, you have lots of time before the baby will need to be head first. Are you going with a MW?

I am seeing the OB that delivered Zachary. She used to have her feet up by my ribs on the right, but for the past month or so she has been completely "sideways".

[saritasmile]

Leah, I don't think you should worry one bit! Rajani was sideways/head up (ish) til about 31-32 weeks. my midwife was not worried one bit and told me i shouldn't be either. if it makes you feel better to check out the spinning babies stuff, you should. hope that helps

[DecemberSun]

I usually only post here on MDC because I know I'll always get the answers I need from you ladies. :

[tea olive]

it's so interesting to me, the idea of too much information.

if you want to feel like you are doing something about it, get on your hands and knees for two minutes a day, and skip scrubbing the floor..
reed was sideways most of pg and i just could never understand the limbs until 2nd pg because haha, they hardly explained or commented on it. it is very intriguing thinking back abt how i wasn't particularly ready all that time either.

ruby's tongue is definitely better. i found my book yesterday and it pointed to ruby having bac or virus and home treatment. then late last night i started reading online how strep is the same cause of flesh eating bacteria, and my friends that looked at her tongue remarked it looked like it was dissolving. so today i had to talk to dh again abt calling the doc. ended up deciding that it was still wait and see, cos she had no other problems or symptoms other than being the fussbudget she is. also helps when you google stuff online and look at really scary pictures that are nothing like what we have. i gave her some dry mouth solution and that seemed to help her feel better.
it's just weird cos it is nothing we have ever seen before, a swirly tongue with varying and changing thicknesses.

today we went to a farm and cut down a tree. it was the most fun we had as a family in ages, walking around feeling like we owned the world, smelling and running on this refreshingly brisk day. we haven't had a live tree in years and it is so nice.
then i spent the last half of the day dealing with the freaking stand cos clay hammered a crack in it immediately and battling with myself figuring what to do. i won, but it took awhile.

[abranger]

casina-

To make her more comfortable try this. It really helps me to shwish mylanta or something like that in my mouth hwen I have them. Some kind of liquid for heartburn b/c it is a base and can neutralize the acid.

Amy

[tea olive]

awesome! thanks!

[MamaFern]

our new little foster baby is here!

he is 6 months old and so squishy and sweet.. i can't even belive for a second how some momma out there didn't want him. its totally unbelievable to me.. this is how the story goes.. his parents, for some unknown reason, passed him off to a grama, who cared for him a while then passed him off to someone else who was known by the ministry as unsafe, so he was put in an emergency foster care home, stayed there a few weeks and finally arrived here this afternoon.. we dont know any other details yet..i keep crying about it because i just feel so sad for him.. no baby should be so unloved..but he is loved by us.. im totally in love already.

[DecemberSun]

Congratulations on your new arrival, Mama Fern!!!

Hoe lucky for this little boy to finally be in a loving, secure environment. I can't ever imagine how some of these mamas can be so dettached from their babies...

[XmasEve]

Congrats Fern!

So Amy, is G still self-weaned? She hasn't even brought it up in weeks? I can't imagine that, so cool, to fill your dc right up to full. I will forever mourn dc1's weaning... dc2 is going strong, I never got to nurse dc1 this long, and instead of loving every minute of it, I'm like about it. How do you extended nursers do it?!?

[tea olive]

not think about it.

thassa my answer.

[Mona]

Originally Posted by XmasEve

Congrats Fern!
How do you extended nursers do it?!?

yeah, try not to think about it.
but honestly, i know i'm giving her something that nothing else can give her. with most of my parenting style, i like to think of it as an investment. heheh
i mostly have been fantasizing about where i'll go for my weekend away when she does. :

[abranger]

Originally Posted by XmasEve

So Amy, is G still self-weaned? She hasn't even brought it up in weeks?

SHe asked this week, which is frankly what made me realize she had stopped and I told her she hadn't had any in a long time so it might be gone. She asked if she could chekc so I said yes. 2 minutes later she said yup its all gone. Not a word since

Amy

[goddessjulia]

thanks for alerting me to the new thread, casina! sheesh, you'd think I would know it's december already preggo brain is really getting to me, and I've got 31 weeks to go! :