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post #41 of 97
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How do you extended nursers do it?!?
a few weeks ago, galen stopped nursing to sleep at night. I couldn't believe it! we had finally arrived. I thought for sure that would be the last one to go, and would persist forever (although I guess it already had, come to think of it). the "wake-up nursing" was the last to go. for about a week, we've had no more than one latch-on in a day, and then it's been only for a few seconds, confirming that the milk is really gone. the past two days he hasn't nursed at all. this morning he asked to, and I reminded him that it's all gone. he said he wanted to see, so he latched on for about 5 seconds and said, "you're right, it's all gone." I'm relieved, because the nipple pain has been excruciating, but also a little sad. he's *really* not a baby anymore!

it *has* been hard, though. I tell people who understand that it would be so different if we lived in a pro-breastfeeding culture, but obviously we don't... if my parents were able to be honest with me, they would say they think there's something W-R-O-N-G with nursing a child this old. they finally quit asking about it, at least. my grandmother (who is terrifically cantankerous, something I've come to really appreciate) would say, "he's gonna still be nursing when he starts to school!" to which I would laugh and reply, "that's why we're going to homeschool!" she would just laugh. she's 87, she knows how fast it all goes by, even though she was a hardcore "tough love" type.

I agree with the pp's who said, don't think about it! but also, when you're fried, remember that they really do wean, kids don't nurse into adulthood, or even teenager-hood. my mantra: one day I will miss this!

hope everyone is staying cozy-- we're supposed to warm back up to the 60's this week!
post #42 of 97
pg brain, julia? i would guess first trimester exhaustion of making placenta. but then, i am notorious for complaining abt not getting notified, cos i forget to check in. reminders used to not have the next message available!

fern, your news is exciting.
post #43 of 97
i'm not just trying not to think about nursing, i pretty much don't, cos it has been more than 8 years of doing it. and for the past year it is just the little nip to go to bed, aside from sickly times. then ruby asks me during the day (especially to watch a movie?) then i think lots and lots. but nursing isn't meant to be a thinking thing, ykwm? anytime my body really rebels and my limits are completely baffled, i have to listen to that too, cos i am really no fun when my resentful cup is filled up.
post #44 of 97
post #45 of 97
dh didn't get the job. I think I held it together pretty well. Only hid under the computer desk for half an hour while I cried. The kids, of course, were with me, but thought we were playing a game.

Sometimes I hate the Universe.

I'll try to get to yahoo soon, I've fallen so far behind I'm intimidated about catching up. Thas why I'm usually a lurker, huh?
post #46 of 97
oh meg. i'm so sorry. i trust that something better will come.
post #47 of 97


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Originally Posted by XmasEve View Post
dh didn't get the job. I think I held it together pretty well. Only hid under the computer desk for half an hour while I cried. The kids, of course, were with me, but thought we were playing a game.

Sometimes I hate the Universe.

I'll try to get to yahoo soon, I've fallen so far behind I'm intimidated about catching up. Thas why I'm usually a lurker, huh?
post #48 of 97
Oh, hang in there, Meg.

Just got back from Mexico where they yanked out my yucky tooth so I am feeling so much better. I took one kid with me, but DH held the house together fairly well while I was gone, so that's good.

Hope all is well for you ladies...
post #49 of 97
dc1 has a school field trip this Wednesday to go caroling in the neighborhood around her school. The fire station is a block away. I have spent the last week expanding the family's (naughty) vocabulary, using the fire department as a prop. I wonder what my child will repeat back to those at the fire station? Should be interesting...

Leah, glad about your tooth!
post #50 of 97
anyone else discovering interesting fears at 4? galen was really wigging out about growing up, so much that it was wigging me out so I asked him, why are you scared? and he said he thought he wouldn't ever stop growing! no matter what I said, he wouldn't believe me that he would, not even "look at daddy and mommy and nana and" etc etc. just wondering whether others have expressed random fears such as this; I figure it goes along with fear of the dark and others that come at around this age (I think?).

and for those who celebrate it, happy solstice!!
post #51 of 97
Sounds like your boy is having a rough time. Poor guy.

Neither of mine have done that, but Julianna has told me that she doesn't want "bobbies" [breasts] because then everyone will look at her. Awww...
post #52 of 97
Happy christmas! and a merry new year!

~jaz
post #53 of 97
ruby is persistent that she is a little girl, not a baby, and that she does not want to grow up. and keeps announcing she is four.

has there been recent comment that galen has grown? we often get that over and over with family holiday interaction, and maybe it is simply what he is hearing.
post #54 of 97
I hope everyone had a Merry Christmas. And a Happy Belated Birthday wish to XMas Eve and her DD.
post #55 of 97
Happy4thBirthdayELwynnNoamSage!
post #56 of 97
Happy Happy Birthday, Elwynn!

I've missed hearing from you, Fern. How are you doing?
post #57 of 97
Thread Starter 
YAY Happy late birthday Xmas Eve and dd!!!!

and Happy Birthday Elwynn!!!!

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and late happy holidays!!
post #58 of 97
Thread Starter 
goddessjulia~ razi has been really scared of monsters and witches lately. the other night when i went to bed, i noticed that he was sleeping w/ the covers completely over his head (i used to do that and would leave a little breath hole) anyway, i talked w/ his teacher about this and she told me something that really resonated w/ me. she said that having fears is normal and having something to project it onto is really important. having something to be afraid of is much better than just being afraid in general. anyway, she said it much better or course but now when he talks about the monsters at night when i tuck him in, i just listen and say "oh, okay" instead of 'there's no such things as monsters', ect. i do make sure to tell him he is safe tho. i *think* fears like that and like razi's are normal processing stuff. Just my opinion tho, of course.
post #59 of 97
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Happy Happy Birthday, Elwynn!

I've missed hearing from you, Fern. How are you doing?
thanks for the birthday thoughts everyone..

im doing good.. we have all been sick and ive been trying to make stuff and be productive of late, so not so much computing.. but im still here just quiet
how are you pregnant momma? i think about you all the time since you are a fostering family too..
our little guy went home last week but next week we will be getting a new baby.. only 3 weeks old! it should be intense and amazing.
post #60 of 97
Fern,
I'm getting big and uncomfortable, but all in all everything is going well. All of my kids are sick too (except J, knock on wood) so that has been oh-so-fun. Christmas was nice.

Sarita, that makes a lot of sense. I bet that's what J's issue is- she's not exactly sure WHO she should be afraid of, so she's afraid of everyone (strangers). Must be confusing to her with the whole "Do I love my grandma or do I love my parents?" kind of thing...
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