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post #81 of 132
I would wait until she can decide for herself. My mom mentioned a few times about getting my dd ears pierced (we're hispanic), but I never felt right about doing it. After I saw how much she wailed after she got her first vax at 4 months (never again!) I certainly wasn't going to pierce her ears. She can wait until she can tolerate the pain and care for them herself. Wish I had known about the piercing guns and gone to a piercing parlor instead. I did piercings with a gun, and they got infected for a long time.
post #82 of 132
I would never pierce any part of my child without their consent. A hole in the ear is a hole in the ear, even if it is too small to put an earring through. The hole will still be there, if it has healed properly, and it may be unwanted. I know some people with "closed" piercing holes that are still visible- either by a tiny, scar-like indentation or discoloration.

The piercing guns used at malls are unclean and unsafe. Piercing a baby's (or anyone's, really) ears with one puts the child at risk for hepatitis and other infections. A piercing gun can never, ever, in any way be cleaned satisfactorally to remove this risk. A safe piercing is always done with a clean, new needle, by a trained and practiced professional. That said-

A very close friend of mine owns a tattoo studio and his sister is the piercer there. She has said that she absolutely will NOT pierce the ears of a child under 8. She feels that she needs to be sure both the child and their parent/guardian understand the process and proper aftercare. A smaller child also is more likely to try to wiggle away and cause themselves or the piercer injury.

Some pediatricians do ear piercing on children, with a needle. While it is probably cleaner and safer than the teenager with a piercing gun at the mall, I don't think I would want to rely on a doctor for placement, etc. He or she is unlikely to perform the procedure often, so they wouldn't be very well practiced.
post #83 of 132
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Originally Posted by EFmom View Post
I married into a family that tried using the excuse that it's a cultural thing to pierce infant girls' ears on me. My response was that sometimes cultural practices make no sense or are harmful and need to be changed. On my side of the family, the cultural norm is to drink until you keel over for certain occasions. Thanks, but we'll pass on that cultural tradition as well.
I agree. In our families circumcision is also a cultural norm (that needs to be changed!) that we are going to pass on should we have a boy. So the cultural norm excuse doesn't fly with me.

I had my ears pierced at 7 or 8 and I really regret it. I cannot wear earrings because I get disgusting puss in the holes. Now the holes are just there and look really stupid. They still get crusty stuff on them sometimes. Gross.
post #84 of 132
This thought popped into my head. How/why do young girls (3,4,5, etc) know about earrings? I've heard people tell me that their dd really wanted their ears peirced, but at that age, how is it something that they even think of? I dont mean to attack anyone, that is truly not my intent. I'm just having a hard time wrapping my head around it. I cant imagine my 4yr dd asking me for them now. And I understand that kids/people are different, but I wonder if there is something else?
My dd has no interest in them, could it be b/c I never wear them?

For you mamas with young dd's that want them, do you wear earrings alot?

(no judgement whatsoever, just curious)
post #85 of 132
I'm hispanic too and I did get my dd's ears pierced at the hospital :
They did not use a gun or a needle they used the earrings they actually sell earrings here that do the job, and it was not a big deal at all I think the vax shots were a eay bigger deal than this: ( we do selective delayed vax, as we live in a tropical third world country).

I had mine done as an infant too and mine are even and never caused a problem and honestly here where everybody gets their baby girls ears pierced at birth I have yet to see someone with uneven holes. For me I'm glad my mom did it at birth because I LOVE my earrings but have a needle fobia and it would have been so much harder for me to get them at a different stage in my life.
post #86 of 132
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Originally Posted by Shenjall View Post
This thought popped into my head. How/why do young girls (3,4,5, etc) know about earrings? I've heard people tell me that their dd really wanted their ears peirced, but at that age, how is it something that they even think of? I dont mean to attack anyone, that is truly not my intent. I'm just having a hard time wrapping my head around it. I cant imagine my 4yr dd asking me for them now. And I understand that kids/people are different, but I wonder if there is something else?
My dd has no interest in them, could it be b/c I never wear them?

For you mamas with young dd's that want them, do you wear earrings alot?

(no judgement whatsoever, just curious)
My girls (almost-4 and 1) have never expressed an interest in earrings, though I have several that are more-or-less permanently in my ears. They're both fascinated by my tongue stud though, and the older one has asked for one at least once... yeah, that's gonna have to wait
post #87 of 132
My sister's and my ears were pierced as newborns. I wasn't emotionally scarred by it, I never felt mutilated, and I was never resentful towards my mom for having done it. My sister did both of her girls at the hospital as well. I think it's more acceptable where we're from.

I would do my dd's ears if they offered at the hospital. I'm obviously in the minority on this board, but I'm expressing myself anyways and giving my personal opinion, so please refrain from any snarky responses
post #88 of 132
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Originally Posted by Shenjall View Post
This thought popped into my head. How/why do young girls (3,4,5, etc) know about earrings? I've heard people tell me that their dd really wanted their ears peirced, but at that age, how is it something that they even think of? I dont mean to attack anyone, that is truly not my intent. I'm just having a hard time wrapping my head around it. I cant imagine my 4yr dd asking me for them now. And I understand that kids/people are different, but I wonder if there is something else?
My dd has no interest in them, could it be b/c I never wear them?

For you mamas with young dd's that want them, do you wear earrings alot?

(no judgement whatsoever, just curious)
i wear earrings daily. at 14 months alice started holding them up to her own ears and now she stands in front of the mirror holding them to her ears and saying "pretty". she won't have them pierced til she can ask for them though.
post #89 of 132
I have studs in that I rarely change. I have 3 holes in each ear. My mother, sister & MIL all wear earrings. We know lots of girls who have had earrings since they were infants. That is how my DD knows about earrings... Right now she's happy with stickers on her ears I am hoping this lasts.
post #90 of 132
It's cultural in my family but I didn't mainly because I didn't need one more thing to worry about (infection/her ripping them out/etc). I look at is as there is no "piercing emergency", she can get them done later if she wants, it doesn't need to be RIGHT NOW.
post #91 of 132
My daughter (who is due in 2 months!) can get her ears pierced when she asks for it and it old enough to take care of them.
post #92 of 132
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My girls (almost-4 and 1) have never expressed an interest in earrings, though I have several that are more-or-less permanently in my ears. They're both fascinated by my tongue stud though, and the older one has asked for one at least once... yeah, that's gonna have to wait
Sounds like me. I have a 15mo old dd who is always pointing at it, then sticking her tongue out and pointing at hers. Some family friends of ours have a 7yr old and 5 yr old and both asked for tongue studs for xmas this year. Their mom was pretty surprised by the request since she didn't know they even knew tongue studs existed. When she asked where they got the idea, they said from me. I'm sure their mom would have liked to kill me. Then she had to explain why it was ok for them to have earings but not tongue studs, and of course they really didn't understand how it was any different.

As for the original post, any dc will have to wait until they can pay for, take care of, and understand the pain involved with piercings (not only the initial piercing, but infections, healing time, etc). I think it's a great opportunity to teach responsibility and one way to teach them to learn how to distinguish if something is merely just the 'want of the hour' or something they really would enjoy.
post #93 of 132
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Originally Posted by EFmom View Post
I married into a family that tried using the excuse that it's a cultural thing to pierce infant girls' ears on me. My response was that sometimes cultural practices make no sense or are harmful and need to be changed. On my side of the family, the cultural norm is to drink until you keel over for certain occasions. Thanks, but we'll pass on that cultural tradition as well.
Excellent point! I wouldn't pierce a baby's ears, for all the reasons mentioned. I do not have pierced ears and NEVER wanted them. If either DD wants them, we'll talk about it--it's their body, their decision, but they're children, and this is a decision that can last a lifetime.
post #94 of 132
Some practical reasons why I wouldn't go there:

1. Piercing guns are the only available method for people under the age of 13 in my area. The nastiness has already been covered.

2. I'm allergic to metals, nickel in particular, and no earrings ever felt good in my ears until I got my glass plugs. I figure my kids have a good chance of allergies as well. I wouldn't put them through the infections.

3. That girl in elementary school who's earlobes had healed-together lines through them from about where an earring would have been, straight down through the bottom. Somehow the earrings had gotten caught on something and pulled right out. Ouch!
post #95 of 132
Her body her choice. Same as circ his body his choice.
post #96 of 132
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Originally Posted by sesa70 View Post
I supopse I am the minority here...

I dont think its that big a deal. I also think its importance depends on culture. I am hispanic, and its just a 'thing' we tend to peirce our baby girls ears. I had mine done as an infant, I am told that my grandmother brought all her baby girls home from the hospital with earings. I had my older dd's ears done at 2 weeks. She cried briefly, less than 30 seconds. She didnt get strapped or restrained or anything like that. As soon as I picked her up she stopped, and they were healed up in just about 10 days.

Of course, this is just my experience, no one has to agree with me!
Not debating with you , but one could argue that the importance of circ-ing depends on culture too. Doesn't make it right, but it is cultural.
post #97 of 132
Pleae don't modify your child's body.
post #98 of 132
Any future dds of mine can have their ears pierced when they ask for them

I plan on doing it myself, with a hollow-bore needle and CBRs
post #99 of 132
i would wait. i am the only one in my circle of friends who didn't get her little girls ears pierced when she was an infant and they think i'm crazy......i think tiny studs on an infant look silly and in having my own family style daycare right now the 2 and 3yos who have their ears pierced are always messing with em, one ends up lost bc of the fact, sometimes it's found, sometimes it's not and then the parents get mad etc........but in the end, the children don't leave em alone....in my experience that is...

dsd just got hers done for her 7th birthday..she mentioned it a year or so ago and i told her that if her mom said it was ok, we would do it in a few years IF she remembered and still wanted it done....so we did...we took her to a piercing studio bc of them being able to stearlize everything and they had 2 ppl do it so both ears got done at the same time and it was over before she knew it began.....

i was 7 when i got mine done and i only wanted them bc my best friend got hers done..my mom took us to our pediatrician and he did them....but that was in the early 80s.i don't think they do that anymore.....

i'd wait.....she'll let ya know if she wants them....
post #100 of 132
The other thing I was thinking, is that I notice you are in Central VT, I am too (although Central VT is huge ) & I think I have seen maybe one baby girl w/pierced ears in my 5 yrs since I've become a mom. It just doesn't seem to be done here, yk?
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