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Originally Posted by MCKMN  I have no idea what my problem is.. I still have awful fears  , and wish the days away so fast  I will be Ok for a few days, then all these dumb irrational thoughts pop into my head. I want too be happy and excited.. I find myself smiling at times from ear too ear, then BAM bad thought.. like out of no where. I can honestly say.. Out of all my pregnancies, this is one i have not ALLOWED myself too enjoy, and I just have no idea why.  : \
I get very angry with myself *sigh* |
Missy I really can completely understand your fears. There are some things you can do to help work through them if you are interested.
First of all, it can really help to talk about them. Talk about what they really mean and what you can do to control that particular situation. I often do a balloon exercise with my clients with lots of fears. I have them (individually - so both mom and partner do their own) each write down all their fears on index cards - one card per fear. Then we go through each fear 1 by 1 and discuss them - what is causing that fear, is it logical, how it can be dealt with, etc... We then tie the index card to the string of a balloon. When we are all through going through the fears we do one of 2 things with the balloons - we either release them into the wind to let the fears blow away, or we pop all the balloons to "burst the fear". It sounds really simple and even kind of hokey, but the clients I have done this with have all continuously raved about how helpful it was. To the point that I now do it automatically with all VBAC clients. I even did it myself a few months ago and found it very helpful.
Some other things that could help:
Visualizations -visualize your ideal birth, or yourself without any medical complications, or whatever area you are having fears about - visualize yourself without that issue.
Reiki and Emotional Freedom Technique are also both good ways to help clear energy pathways.
I hope some of these suggestions help. Lindsey is right though. There is a very clear mind/body connection in labor and birth. Working through some of these things now will make things much easier later. It may even prevent you from going past your due date
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