Originally Posted by kayleesmom
Well i got the news on monday at my OB appt that he doesnt think it is necessary to do a C-section. so now it will be another vaginal delivery. I want to try to go with out a epi. maybe try stadol?
But my question is for mamas that had vaginal birth and breastfed. Did you have your own private room at hospital? Did your hubby room in with you? If you didnt have a private room was hubby still allowed to room in? and if you breastfed did you room in with baby and have a roommate? how did that work out? was the other mom breastfeeding too? any advice cause i have a feeling that i wont get a private room this time. we are gonna have Cigna HMO if that makes a difference on wheather you get a private room or not.
Haven't read the other replies, but wanted to answer your questions.
The hospitals I had my last 2 babies at has rooming in only unless your baby is in the NICU. There is no well baby nursery. Ds was at the NICU so he wasn't with me, but dd was with me all the time aside from her initial bath. The hospital ds was born at even does weights and bath in the moms room. I had a private room with dd and dh did not room in with me. It's not a common thing in the hospitals around here - unless he wanted to sleep in a chair...lol.
At the hospitals around here most moms at least start out bf'ing, but even if I'd had a roommate that wasn't bf'ing, I wouldn't have done things differently. Babies cry, whether they're ff or bf, and they wake at all different hours. There should be a curtain separating the beds so that you can have privacy and your own space.
About the painkillers, my 1st dd I had a shot of morphine, then asked for an epidural... was given laughing gas while waiting for the anesthesiologist, then was dialating too fast for the epidural and ended up not getting one. Dd #2 I decided to go natural since I figured the morphine hadn't helped last time anyways. I hired a doula to help support me. With ds I didn't have any painkillers or an epidural, but I did use the laughing gas again - not sure of the technical name for it... If you do need pain relief, that's the direction I would suggest... it doesn't cross the placenta, clears from your body within a couple breaths, you can start and stop it at will just by choosing whether or not to breath it... and really all it does is relaxes you to let your body do it's job. Which is what I really needed with ds because of the high risk delivery and not being able to move and the stress of knowing I could end up with a c/s at any moment...
So anyways, those are my thoughts. Personally I might chit chat with my roommate, because that's just the way I am, but I wouldn't change how I did things with my babe. I don't really think it matters what your roomie is doing since you'll be in and out of hospital quickly and likely never see your roomie again, so if she gets ticked at you, oh well.
And if your hospital doesn't automatically have you rooming in with your baby, I'd demand it - and let them know ahead of time. If it's not a common request, they may upgrade you to a private room for free.