Mommy intuition anyone want to share experiences? - Page 3

[bri276]

I have a strong feeling against the MMR (of course, dd isn't going to get any more vaxes at all, but that particular one gives me worse heeby-jeebies than all the others combined). I think if she got it, it might be the end of her, if not life technically, neurologically. Someone would literally have to kill me to get that shot into her.

I planned a birth center-attached to the hospital but very relaxed, and always thought "well, if for some reason I don't make it to the center in time I'll just have an "oops" UC in the bathtub at home". I didn't care if I went to 43 weeks, I wasn't going to let anyone screw up my birth. Suddenly at about 39/40 wks I began having nightmares, anxiety and my blood would run cold when I didn't feel dd move often enough. Something inside me began saying she needed to come out. I did everything to stimulate/induce labor naturally. At 41 weeks I couldn't ignore the feelings any more, the warning bells had turned into blaring alarms. I was hysterical at one point on the phone w/ my midwife and went in to be induced at 41w1d at 4 cm dilated and 50% effaced- the natural induction attempts did something, at least. DD was born with a cleft palate, 2 minor heart defects, breathing rapidly, went off to the NICU. Two weeks later we had the news that she had a chromosome disorder. Had she been stillborn, no one would have questioned it, they would have chalked it up to her chromosomes but I knew, somehow, that something was going wrong in there and perhaps her disorder interfered with the signals that kickstart labor naturally. I don't regret it. I don't think she'd be here if she wasn't coaxed out.

so, I know it's there, and I believe in it. I thank God that I had enough wits about me somehow in that nicu daze to lie and tell them we'd get the hep B done at the pediatrician's office so they wouldn't jab her there without my knowledge.

[Deborah]

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[Kokopelli-mana]

Unfortunately I have offered up my children to doctors and nurses' interventions despite my knowlrdge of their lack of necessity and risk. I have learned from this, and resolve to be strong from here on out, but I suffer with guilt and anger.
One nurse who I confided in when my 3-week old ds was hospitalized with rsv listened to me explain how I did not want him to endure pain of any kind, which was one reason why I did not circumcise, proceeded to manhandle and ignore his and my cries for mercy during interventions over the next 4 days.
Needless to say, this will haunt me for the rest of my life. But I am wiser now. At ds's and dd's expense, unfortunately.:

[plantmama]

Like others posted here it was dh who had the "mama instinct" or papa instinct about vaccines. I was just completely confused as to what to do. Dh was adamantly against them. I agree with him completely but do research while he is content with his instincts guiding him

[angelachristin]

Definitely, the gut feeling at his 2 month and 4 month shots (I'm so sorry, baby!) led me to research...I just wish I had done it sooner...he'll never, ever get another now, though.

And the mommy intuition led me to demand to be induced at 40w4d...I had the most terrified feeling all of the sudden and KNEW he needed to come out...he was born the next morning, when my water broke it was meconium stained and he had the cord wrapped around his neck. I know maybe he could've been fine even though the mec can be a sign of distress...but somehow I knew he might not have been had I not pushed to be induced.

[JesseMomme]

I think the first time I really "heard" my mother's instinct was when we were in the Dr's office and they took ds1 away from me to go into an exam room to do the RIC : I had that feeling of "this can't be right" that I'll remember to this day. When I got ds home and changed his diaper...I knew I had done the wrong thing, but couldn't put it into words as to why, other than it looked terribly painful and suddenly circ just didn't make sense once I'd seen the effects on my own son, who had been intact for six weeks prior. I didn't learn anything about how wrong RIC is until I was preg w/ ds2.

I had already been reading bits and pieces here and there from moms who didn't vax, and was awfully apprehensive because of it when I had ds2 go in for his 2 and 4 mos shots. I stopped after that.

It took me a while to recognize when my mommy gut was telling me something really important, and now I trust it 100%. It hasn't steered me wrong yet.

[Qestia]

Originally Posted by JesseMomme

I think the first time I really "heard" my mother's instinct was when we were in the Dr's office and they took ds1 away from me to go into an exam room to do the RIC : I had that feeling of "this can't be right" that I'll remember to this day. When I got ds home and changed his diaper...I knew I had done the wrong thing, but couldn't put it into words as to why, other than it looked terribly painful and suddenly circ just didn't make sense once I'd seen the effects on my own son, who had been intact for six weeks prior. I didn't learn anything about how wrong RIC is until I was preg w/ ds2.

I'm in the same boat, I left the decision to DH and gave myself the license to not think about it, we didn't do it till 6 weeks later either, and I felt it was wrong then, and I feel it's wrong now, and DH still disagrees with me. But that's a topic for another board.

[freespirited]

I feel that I'm very intuitive when it comes to my dds' health. I first decided not to vax due to a strong intuitive feeling, and that led me to research which then gave me further reason not to vax. Each time my dd1 went to a Pedi for something, I went home and researched their advice because it never felt right. 3 different experiences with Pedis, each with very bad advice. One said to put cortisone cream on dd's mosquito bites, most of which were very near her eyes. Come to find out that that could have caused glaucoma. Another one said that my 6-month old EBF needed both fluoride and iron drops. Knowing nothing about that, I just felt it was wrong. Research confirmed that. Finally, another one warned me with dd1 that if I didn't stop co-sleeping now (she was 4 months old), I would never get her out of my bed. That also felt wrong and I continued to co-sleep and dd left my bed at 9 months with no problems. She just turned 3 and is still in a bed in our room (her own bed) and that feels right for all of us, so that is what we do. If the thought of doing something that concerns my dds gives me pain, then I absolutely don't do it. I listen to my inner guidance all the time as a parent. I am just compelled to do so. I have never been able to stand to hear them cry for even one minute. And as a result my dds and I are very connected to one another. So I am a big believer in mother's intuition. I have felt it very deeply since becoming a mother, and most importantly, I act on it even when it is causes me to do so something in the face of adversity (such as not vaxing, or nursing in public).

[essnce629]

When I was pregnant I asked my midwife her thoughts on vaccines and she told me to do a lot of research and if I did decide to vax to wait until ds was at least 6 months old. After ds was born I started researching a little (as in I read 1 book on the subject) and I decided to follow an alternate schedule. At 7 months he got his first vaccines (Hib and Polio). At 8 months he got DTaP. At the injection site after his DTaP vax he got a hard lump in his leg and a month later when it was time for his second round of Hib and Polio the lump was still there. The nurse I called said it was fine for him to get his other two shots. I didn't like the idea and cancelled our appointment. I just had a gut feeling not to go in. I knew vaccine reactions could get worse over time and I felt like maybe the first time he just got a small localized swelling, but maybe the second time his whole leg would swell, and the third time his brain would swell. I decided to do some more research and the rest is history... He's never had another shot and I'm still researching!

I also come from an extemely allergic family and felt like ds would be at greater risk for having a vaccine reaction. I just learned last week that my grandmother is allergic to all the tetnus vaccines (and almost every drug she's ever been prescribed). I have asthma as well as outdoor, animal, and drug allergies. My mom and her brothers have food allergies. My boyfriend's dad has celliac disease. And my son now has eczema . I just don't see vaccines being a good mix with our history.

[Deborah]

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[Qestia]

Here's a new story. DS is 2 and I haven't found CP yet and I don't know how far down the exemption road I want to go and my day care provider has been asking for his updated vax record (he is partially vaxed). I had last friday off and decided I'd just go take him in and get the CP vax, he hasn't had any reactions to the shot's he's received, why not. I was planning on called the ped's office mon or tue to schedule it. Mon I go home from work sick, tuesday am still too sick to call the ped's office, Wed i try to call and it keeps going thru to the answering service, Thurs I try to call and the line is always busy! I decide G-d is trying to tell me something and am postponing further vaxes indefinitely [again].

[cahwilson]

This really hit home for me. Knowing nothing about vaxes, dh and I consented to all the routine ones up until 6 months. Like others have said something was SCREAMING inside of me not to do this to my poor baby. I began to look into things starting with the hep B vax. All I looked at was who was at risk for the disease. I couldn't believe they felt my baby had to have that before she left the hospital. This led to more researching and a lot of struggling with tough decisions (about many issues).

After 6 months of no sleep I called the ped. and asked what I could do for her b/c I thought she was suppossed to sleep through the night (we had tried CIO for 5 total minutes before dd started banging her head). They told me to shut the door and let her cry and bang her head until she learns how to sleep. That was a big turning point, when I thought WTH are they thinking...thats child abuse. I then realized the ped. did not know everything and I did not need to automatically trust her. I brought dd into my bed, felt no shame about not giving her polyvisul and continued to pray and research about my vax decision.

One day dh and I were talking about it and we just completly agreed about no more vaxes. We had both seen them change our child and I just knew I could not consent to anymore. As soon as I said she will recieve no more shots there was a hige weight lifted off my shoulders. I feel so much peace with my desicion to not vaccinate her. I finally learned to listen to my baby and myslef and it has made a huge difference for both of us.

[MilkTrance]

Mommy (well, pre-mommy) intuition told me to say "NO!" to the induction, that even though DS was very large (9+lbs) it just wasn't his time to go. Mommy instinct told me that my induction would inevitably = C/S.

After managing to pass off the doc and the hospital for a week, I did consent to the induction, and I did end up with a C/S.

[Genesis]

I don't have a great story or anything.

But I haven't vaxed 9 mo DS at all, not because of any extensive vax knowledge (I'm just at the beginning of my research) but because when I think of him getting vaxed, I get a bad feeling and feel very anxious. I have no idea if I will ever vax him for anything, but for now it's a firm NO.

[KT'smama]

I don't remember feeling any anxiety over vaxing our first dd who is almost 16 now, but I did have gut feelings about things with her. The first time I remember was being at a water park and her wanting to climb up all the big stairs with her dad and slide down this HUGE slide. I let her get half way up and then the bad feeling I was having turned into almost panic. I went up and got her and she was upset that she didn't get to go, but my panic was gone! From then on I realized that if I had a feeling about something I was usually right. There was a man at our church who liked to hang out with the teen girls and it just felt weird, and I told dd not to be around him...he was arrested for molestation weeks later. Another time a similar thing with someone else happened. I just got a bad feeling around this person and sure enough, found out later he was arrested on sexual misconduct. Many other things over the years too...butas far as the new baby goes, when they asked me in the hospital if I wanted her to have the hep B...minutes after delivery my instinct was a very strong NO! She still hasn't had any and when I was considering doing some at her 6 mth WBV I got a panicky nervous feeling so we didn't do it.