At DD's preschool it is enormously popular to have playdates where one child goes home with another child and then the mother picks the child up after they have had time to play. This makes me uncomfortable on several levels, one of which is that if they aren't with me, I don't know what is going on. In my mind four/five years old is not old enough to stand up to someone/get out of an uncomfortable situation on their own. We have, however, done one of these playdates with a family that we know relatively well and the mother is a teacher at DD's preschool. There is another mother who keeps asking if DD can come home with them to play with her son. I am extremely uncomfortable with sending DD to this house as I do not like the way the older son and father act toward DD. When we had a playdate (we all came to the playdate) there the older son was quite oddly attached to DD and kept saying awful things to/about his younger brother, who DD was supposed to be having the playdate with. Then the father came in and began gushing about how beautiful DD was and how he would have been in love with her when he was in school and how her hair was so blond and curly and her eyes were so beautiful and how he was seeing why the younger son was so "in love" with DD. It was REALLY weird and REALLY inappropriate. So I am totally uncomfortable with DD going over to this house w/out me.
I'm not sending her, but how in the heck do I politely decline this woman. She knows that DD has gone home w/another family, so I can't say "we don't do that". I'm just at a total loss. TIA!
I'm not sending her, but how in the heck do I politely decline this woman. She knows that DD has gone home w/another family, so I can't say "we don't do that". I'm just at a total loss. TIA!
I suppose you could just say you don't know them well enough, or that big brother kept them from playing before and invite the younger boy to your house. But honestly I wouldn't worry about being too polite if it makes you uncomfortable.
