i can't believe the nerve of some people

[MysteryMama]

i don't know if this the right spot for this post, but here it is. today dh told me that his ex wife had the audacity to make a negative comment about how our 5 mo is dressed. she said something to the effect of "does he even own any cute little jeans? every time i see him he's dressed like a baby". i don't know why im letting it get to me so bad, i just can't help but to be upset. i would love to be able to buy all those cute little mini adult clothes from the baby gap or wherever, but the fact is we are just way too broke to consider superficial purchases like that. my mil bought ds all of his clothes, and he has plenty of them and they're always clean, just not all that uber trendy. meanwhile, dh pays her (and her new husbands) mortgage in lou of childsupport and they both work (im a sahm) and don't have the kind of debt we do. so we have to pay our rent and their mortgage and we are so broke it's ridiculous, but she takes her kids the most expensive stores in the mall and then complains about the prices of clothes. and then has the nerve to make a negative comment about how my baby is dressed. sorry if this post is sort of rambling, im just upset right now and nothing is coming out right. i just need a little support. thanks.

[wildmonkeys]

It hardly even seems like a money issue to me. Of course your 5 MONTH OLD INFANT is dressed like a baby!?@#$% What a silly thing to say

[MysteryMama]

Originally Posted by wildmonkeys

a money issue to It hardly even seems like me. Of course your 5 MONTH OLD INFANT is dressed like a baby!?@#$% What a silly thing to say

i think what she meant by that was she was taking digs at him (or me and dh) because whenever we take him out, it's in his little sleepers or an outfit with babyish print and not in a cute and trendy mini adult looking hoodie and a pair of name brand jeans like her baby.

[momto l&a]

He dressed in nice comfy clothes.

I hardly imagine jeans on a baby as comfy.

As you can tell I am all about comfort

Besides kids grow out of clothes so fast why would a person want to sink large amounts of $$ into how they are dressed?!

[sapphire_chan]

If you decide you care, check out Goodwill. The one by me has a ton of little clothes and I know I've seen some jeans in there.

[Staceyy]

She's jealous of you and is trying to take a shot at your baby because she knows how strong a mother's maternal instinct is. Ignore her. This is just how people get suckered into keeping up with the Joneses.

[Benji'sMom]

Originally Posted by jeannie81

"does he even own any cute little jeans? every time i see him he's dressed like a baby".

My baby doesn't own any jeans. Why would he need jeans just to sleep in all day? That wouldn't be comfy and doesn't make a whole lot of sense. Have you ever seen a baby trying to crawl around or learn to walk in a pair of jeans? Not my idea of a good time. All my baby wears is sleepers, day and night. Lots and lots of knit pants and sleepers! He needs something that will stretch around all his FAT rolls!

[Vixenmama]

this is not about baby clothes and anway...

doesn't this totally sound like somthing a 12-year old would say ?

The only "outfits" my babies had were either gifts or thrift store finds. My babies (both born in winter) wore sleepers in the cold weather and t-shirts and a dipe in the summer.


"Clothes" for babies are an unnecessary luxury. I agree that "non-baby" clothes are expensive, uncomfortable for baby and generate a lot of laundry. Babies are much more comfortable in their sleepers.

If you'd like to see your kid in an outfit, thrift stores are filled with inexpensive items. Babies never really wear out their clothes so the items can be in really great shape. I've found big names there too, gymboree, hannah, etc. which I don't give a hoot about anyway. If it's cute and comfy, that's all I care about.

Don't let the (*&^% get to you. Your dh should say "well, you've got great taste, if you want to shop for baby, be my guest".

[Redifer]

I don't think we bought DD jeans until she was past the 1 year mark... and even then I lined them with fleece to make them more comfy!

She's being ridiculous. For one, I grew up in a relatively wealthy family, and it is NEVER ok to remark on someone's clothes. For two, despite growing up well off, we learned how to SHOP. I can buy a $25 pair of toddler jeans, or wait three weeks til their clearanced out at $5. My daughter is one of those "trend-setter" babes... and I don't think we've ever spent more than $10 on an outfit. I refuse to spend money on something that will be outgrown, colored on, puked on, pooped on, stained, etc all within a one-week timespan.

If I saw her, I'd bring it up casually how it's so miserably tacky to comment on other's finances, especially when you're better off than that whom you choose to victimize. Anyone with a decent upbringing knows that. If it were me, I'd end it simply by putting it to her where it hurts: her own desperate desire to be part of the classy-upper-crust society. People born into money are taught to conduct themselves with class, and that you NEVER, EVER, discuss money. The "M" word is a dirty word among the wealthy, as is making implied suggestions about someone's financial situation.

[jenP]

Totally agree with PPs!! Jeans on a baby are RIDICULOUS! Very restricting and uncomfortable for baby and makes diaper changes difficult. A diaper and a onesie or sleeper is NORMAL for a baby to wear, doesn't mean you are poor or lazy or have no sense of style.
Also agree with PPs that she was just coming up with a jab.
But, my MIL always asked why DD wasn't in "cute outfits" at that age. She wasn't trying to be mean, she just truly believes babies should be dressed up cute all the time. Never mind about comfort and convenience.
Just let her comments roll off, good luck to you!
Jen

[momto l&a]

Should have added.

I think babies are sooooo adorable dressed as just that, babies.

I am jealous that they could spend an entire day dressed in PJ

[tarheelbaby]

My mom and I had a good laugh recently when we saw a little baby dressed in "mini adult" clothes. His shirt was bunched up around his neck, and his jeans were stiff and bunched up around his armpits. He looked like an overweight politician. Not cute. Not comfortable, either. My own DS lived in Carter's sleepers his first winter, and he was cute, comfortable, and his clothes were affordable. Try not to let it bother you; I know it's easier said than done. As the pp mentioned she is probably just jealous of you. There's a reason she is an ex, you are not!

[savannah smiles]

That's such a bizarre thing to comment on. I agree that she was probably trying to upset you and I'd tell your dh not to pass those kind of comments along should she ever make any more. Although we can afford to dress our baby up however we want I'm all about comfortable clothing. There's a Salvation Army down the street from dd1's school and that's where I score a lot of Gymboree (including the shirt the baby's wearing in my siggy). I love sleepers and baby'ish clothes because babies are only teeny once in their lives!

[egarcia76]

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Just let it roll off your back. What some people say. Jeez.

[TinyFrog]

I agree that jeans can't be all the comfortable on a baby. I recently saw a picture of a acquaintance’s baby and he was dressed in jeans, white t-shirt and a button-down collared shirt. Ok, that doesn't seem all that bad, what got me was that the shirt was unbuttoned and he looked liked a little gangster which was probably what the dad was going for since he likes to act like he's a gangster because he thinks it cool. Don't get me started on the backwards baseball hat the kid has to wear too.

[zinemama]

This is so obviously not about the jeans.

And your dh should know better than to take that kind of negativity home to you.

[EmsMom]

Originally Posted by Benji'sMom

He needs something that will stretch around all his FAT rolls!

Yeah! And those fat cloth diapers too! I could never figure out why any mom would put their babies in those mini adult clothes -- The kids just look really, really weird in them!

[alicia622]

Originally Posted by momto l&a

He dressed in nice comfy clothes.

I hardly imagine jeans on a baby as comfy.

As you can tell I am all about comfort

That's what I think too. When G was an infant, I was all about comfy clothes and I prefered one piece rompers or jammies. It drove G's bio mother crazy because she wanted him dressed in little outfits. It made no sense to me...he was a baby! It had nothing to do with saving money for us either.

[grypx831]

That's so tacky. I'm sorry your feelings got hurt.

[Mama Dragon]

She sounds like a class A UA Violation. Dang I wish I could name call! Ignore her, we *have* mini adult clothes (from inlaws) and they sit unused unless I run out of clean comfy clothes for the babies!