TTC in 2007 - Babes in waiting... - Page 7

[DucetteMama21842]

Cattiebrie you crack me up! Been thinking of you. Sending your way. I am not sure when my exact ovulation date is.. I am too lazy. I subscribed to a free website and I just input my temp each morning and notate my cm and it computes it all for me. I know.. I know.. : My period was supposed to be here yesterday... so.. three weeks from now I would assume?

[Cattibrie]

I'm using a free website that computes it all for me as well. If the previous charts are to be believed, I should have O'd yesterday (no crosshairs yet, just going by the last few months). On another thread I'm on, a couple of people mentioned that they get O pains, and that they typically O 2-3 days before their thermal shift. I don't get O pains and it's not always clear to me what my body is doing. With that in mind, I'm extra glad I put DH on a strict regime (he was extra glad too )... just in case I O before I think I do. I think we've got a pretty good shot this month and I believe I'm in my first 2ww. I ordered a bunch of tests yesterday. My plan is to start testing on the 21st... we'll see what happens.
: that AF shows up soon so you can get started... or that you're in for a surprise and that's why she's late :
Hippiemommie... if you're still in for this month GL and lots of to you (and anyone else who jumped off the Wait Wagon )

[DucetteMama21842]

Hey all! Enjoying a moment of sanity while DH watches a movie with Dom. : : We are doing a little better today, but not much. It's just hard being cooped up inside. We usually go SOMEWHERE each day and go do something with the kids- so I can see Dominic going stir crazy too. I am having a hard time lately on debating whether or not to focus on the kids until they are in school or go for my RN and Midwifery degree.. (my passion. I already teach Bradley Method Natural Childbirth Classes). So hard to decide.

I woke up this morning and found DH sleeping on the couch. (He works nights) Apparently he came home and thought we were sleeping so soundly that he wouldn't disturb us and try to move the kids around trying to crawl in. I sat down next to him and talked about his work night.. and then out of the blue he says, "I think you are pregnant." (Which he has said everytime I was.) And I said, "A little presumptious since I am only a day late." He says, "Just a feeling.. you have been forgetting to check your temp.. so you could have ovulated later and we should have been more careful." (We were waiting until spring originally.) Then he says, " It's okay.. I've been waiting for you to want to try. And we were going to start trying next month, but I think you already are."

So we will see... just thought I'd let ya'll know whats up in our world.

[NJ*Doula]

This wait is killing me!!! I'm about to start the fourth week of my pill pack (on Sunday) so it would be so easy just to not start the next pack....

If I stop the pills, it would be so risky. There's only a month and a half until my hike, and two weeks after that I'll be off them anyway. But I want to be off them now!! *sigh*

And before anyone suggests it, DH can't use condoms and I have a nasty reaction to anything topical. *lesigh* again.

[Cattibrie]

DucetteMama21842, ugh... cabin fever can be so tough. I hope tomorrow is better. : that your DH is right. I know it's not exactly the plan, but I'm crossing my fingers for you anyways
GathererGirl, we can't use condoms either. I'm *extremely* allergic. Figuring out what we want to do for BC is going to be fun heh.
We're spending the weekend at our cabin. It's the off season so we're the only ones for miles (many cabins on the lake we're on). We're only an hour from home, but it's nice to not be there for a couple days. The "alone time" with DH is nice too.
Hope everyone's having a great weekend.

[DucetteMama21842]

I'm kind of hoping to be... but kind of scared to be. Does that even make sense? We'll take whatever god gives us. I'm just nervous I guess.. I wouldn't be able to test for at least three weeks. My hcg levels are extremely low each time and it takes me until my second missed period to typically test positive for a urine test at the doctor/midwifes.

[DucetteMama21842]

So I am typically about two months along before I even know it. Last time with Isaac I took a test on a friday.. Negative.. my second missed period was on saturday. On monday I scheduled a doctors test to be sure.. Positive on Monday. What in the world? : My body is just crazy that way. Oh well- less wait I suppose.

[Cattibrie]

Originally Posted by DucetteMama21842

I'm kind of hoping to be... but kind of scared to be. Does that even make sense? We'll take whatever god gives us. I'm just nervous I guess..

That's exactly how I'm feeling. The end of this week I can start testing. I've been going back and forth between thinking of just waiting and seeing if AF shows up then testing if she doesn't, and testing Thursday. Nerves are fun aren't they? Heh.

[DucetteMama21842]

Well.. I thought I would update everyone. You won't believe the spookiness of this situation...

We are getting ready for church this morning and I express my concern to DH about being a few days late now. He says, "Well.. I don't necessarily think you are pregnant NOW.. I just think you're going to be pregnant soon." : We try to dig all of the snow off of our car and get in... no budging.. this car is not making it out of the development. Settle down to eat lunch with the kids.. and AF starts!!!!!!!!! So hey- at least there's an answer for me. It's almost starting to creep me out his predictions.. but maybe we are just super close.

So I guess I have some more time.

And I am finally going to break out all my fears and share them with everyone here. I REALLY REALLY REALLY want to be pregnant again. I REALLY REALLY REALLY would a new baby.. and I am not even scared of labor in the slightest.. it was so much fun last time- but I am REALLY REALLY REALLY scared of the "RING OF FIRE"!!! I didn't have it with Dominic.. but with Isaac.. his head was bigger than the 100th percentile.. and it BURNED! So it may sound stupid, but that is the ONLY thing holding me back. And comforting advice or inspiration?

[StrawberryFields]

Originally Posted by DucetteMama21842

I REALLY REALLY REALLY want to be pregnant again. I REALLY REALLY REALLY would a new baby.. and I am not even scared of labor in the slightest.. it was so much fun last time- but I am REALLY REALLY REALLY scared of the "RING OF FIRE"!!! I didn't have it with Dominic.. but with Isaac.. his head was bigger than the 100th percentile.. and it BURNED! So it may sound stupid, but that is the ONLY thing holding me back. And comforting advice or inspiration?

This is my first time venturing into this thread...I have one foot in the 2007 tribe, and one foot in the 2008 tribe now. I am so indecisive! I think dh has me just about convinced that 2007 is the way to go. I'm still scared though! I've never planned a baby before, ds was a total surprise.

Anyways, mama, your post spoke to me because first, our babies are the same age my ds was born 11/25/05 and I'm kind of encouraged to see that you are anxious to TTC because I have reservations, feeling like I *just* gave birth to ds! I have to come to the realization that it was over a year ago!

Second, I feel exactly the same way about not being afraid of labor--actually looking forward to it, a little--but being afraid of the ring of fire!! I didn't experience it with ds because I had a hospital transport and an epidural, but I am sooo afraid of making it at home this time and feeling the ring of fire. My hope is that since dh's family seems to be a family of small headed babies, (ds included) that will be my saving grace.

[DucetteMama21842]

Oh I am so glad you joined us! Don't be intimidated about "the ring of fire"... I know it is somewhat to me.. but I am beginning to be at peace with it. Nothing hurt after the head. And if I had prepared more for my labor (ahem.. kegels and perineum exercises) I probably would not have had as much burning. Plus, I am looking into water birth next time, which I have heard really reduces that chance also. I'm getting braver by the minute- and you can to! So excited you are joining us!

[amitymama]

Hello, another babe in waiting in 2007 here!

We have pretty much decided to start TTC in August, when we are on the Greek islands for my BIL's wedding. It's the perfect timing for us as DD will be 15 months old, we'll be in our own house (we're buying this spring/summer) and it will be romantic as hell!

I'm really really excited about this next pregnancy because the first one I was a bit overwhelmed and nervous and didn't have the confidence in myself that I do now. Also, DD was not planned. I can't wait to have 'baby sex' and wonder if I'm pregnant all the time and all the anticipation that comes with that. I am also looking forward to having a home birth this time instead of a hospital birth. My first one was pretty good but I feel let down in that the midwives were very hands off and didn't try to help me with the pain with natural remedies. I was having back labour and no one even pressed on my back or suggested good positions so I was just writhing around in pain and ended up having an injection of pethidine (closest US equivalent is Demerol, I think) so I didn't get the natural water birth I wanted.

My two biggest fears are -- being pregnant again and how I'll handle it if my SPD is worse this time, plus taking care of a toddler; and how in the world I will have enough love in my heart for another child! I already love DD so much that I can't imagine having enough for a whole other one!

[DucetteMama21842]

Welcome! I agree.. we should all try to conceive in the Greek islands... Ooh la la!

[StrawberryFields]

Originally Posted by DucetteMama21842

Oh I am so glad you joined us! Don't be intimidated about "the ring of fire"... I know it is somewhat to me.. but I am beginning to be at peace with it. Nothing hurt after the head. And if I had prepared more for my labor (ahem.. kegels and perineum exercises) I probably would not have had as much burning. Plus, I am looking into water birth next time, which I have heard really reduces that chance also. I'm getting braver by the minute- and you can to! So excited you are joining us!

I was nervous to join, now that I've posted on the TTC 2007 thread I feel like I have made a commitment to TTC now and it scares me! I just can't wrap my mind around making the DECISION to have a baby! How can I possibly make a conscious decision to create a person? That seems like such a monumental decision that I can't possibly be responsible for making that kind of commitment. It was so much easier when it was decided for me and my part was "Oh, look at that! A BFP!"

I am not sure about water birth, I opted out of setting up a tub last time and think I would probably opt out again too. We'll see.

I feel excited but totally freaked out at the same time! And I worry about how I would have room in my heart for another baby because I just love Andrew so much that I can't imagine another! And I am scared of loving a second baby and giving Andrew the short end of the stick as a result. So much to think about!

[BurtsGirl]

Originally Posted by StrawberryFields

I just can't wrap my mind around making the DECISION to have a baby! How can I possibly make a conscious decision to create a person? That seems like such a monumental decision that I can't possibly be responsible for making that kind of commitment. It was so much easier when it was decided for me and my part was "Oh, look at that! A BFP!"

I totally understand this. It's much different when you have to plan, prepare, and make decisions about having a child. We don't have the priviledge of an opp's baby being a same-sex couple and the monumental decision of having a child is HUGE! I started out flip-flopping back and forth one week I wanted one, the next I wasn't so sure. But now it's pretty steady with the wanting one. I don't think anyone can be completely sure or completely ready for a child (especially their first because they have no experiences to go on). It's just something that you have to close you eyes and jump and hope for the best.

My main fear is how a child will effect my life and my relationship with my wife. She and I are totally solid but we spend a lot of time together. I worry what the late night feedings and everyday wear and tear of childcare will do to us as a couple. Anyone other soon-to-be first time moms with me on this? Any advice to ease the transition from mom's that have gone through this already?

[StrawberryFields]

Originally Posted by BurtsGirl

I totally understand this. It's much different when you have to plan, prepare, and make decisions about having a child. We don't have the priviledge of an opp's baby being a same-sex couple and the monumental decision of having a child is HUGE! I started out flip-flopping back and forth one week I wanted one, the next I wasn't so sure. But now it's pretty steady with the wanting one. I don't think anyone can be completely sure or completely ready for a child (especially their first because they have no experiences to go on). It's just something that you have to close you eyes and jump and hope for the best.

Exactly! It seems easy enough to SAY "Let's start TTC now," but when it actually comes down to sealing the deal, making a commitment, I start backpeddling. But you are totally right about never being 100% sure or 100% ready, so I think that I will have to just swallow my fears and go forward!

My main fear is how a child will effect my life and my relationship with my wife. She and I are totally solid but we spend a lot of time together. I worry what the late night feedings and everyday wear and tear of childcare will do to us as a couple. Anyone other soon-to-be first time moms with me on this? Any advice to ease the transition from mom's that have gone through this already?

I was afraid of this too, but having ds did not negatively affect our relationship at all. I think that the things that help us most are having a family bed, and remembering to treat each other as partners and not always making everything about the baby. I always take time out to ask dh how work was and actually listen to his answer, not just say "Oh, umm-hmmm, I see" distractedly while I play peek-a-boo with ds. I try not to be completely absorbed in ds all the time.

One thing I do remember though is during pregnancy I made a comment to dh that I didn't know how "newer" couples made it through a pregnancy. I needed so much from dh that I was glad we had 5 years behind us so he knew the "real" me and could take the *pregnant* me with a grain of salt. So being able to look past the puking, the pimples, the emotions, etc., etc., is definitely a plus!

[DucetteMama21842]

And being able to give up any more alone time as you are now with your spouse. You are a totally different person once you have kids.. it's like your inner mother comes out or something.. so If I had it all to do again.. I'd make sure I got a couple of years of us living responsibly as if we were parents BEFORE we actually went through with having any kids. Not that I'd take back my boys for a minute... but I miss the alone "just us" relationship we had before at moments.

[joshs_girl]

Question on timing....

Do you think there is any sort of a "magic number" that couple should hit before trying to have kids? (I know there's no real magic number that works for everyone, but humor me )

I know in my head, when people announce their marriage after dating/being together for (what I consider to be) not very long, I'm always a little secretly judgmental, and thinking "girl I hope you don't regret that!".

[BurtsGirl]

Originally Posted by DucetteMama21842

so If I had it all to do again.. I'd make sure I got a couple of years of us living responsibly as if we were parents BEFORE we actually went through with having any kids.

Danile, can you elaborate on that a little. Examples, maybe?

Josh's Girl, I really feel that is up to the couple and varies so much between couples that no one can really answer it. I think it also depends on the age of the couple as well. DW is 32 and I am 28. We feel, for our relationship, 4-5 years is good for us. DW thinks time is ticking away and she wants to have them before she considers herself "too old". Providing we get pg the first try we will have been together almost 5 years when the baby is born

[amitymama]

I have convinced my DH that our next birth will be at home....YAY!!!