Do you ever feel your wasting your time by researching so much ahead of time? I ask because even though there is so much to learn and decide what if I forget it all by the time I'm pregnant?
As for child care Kleine Hexe. I didn't plan it ahead of time with DS, and when he was born, I had more than one person tell me I should have been on their waiting lists when I was pg. Mind you, we did get into the centre we wanted, partly I think because the director and my MIL are old friends. And I had a year of mat leave (being in Canada), so we had a year to sort it out. We found out in Feb that, after 10 months on the waiting list, that they could take him in March, which was when I was going back to work.. If I hadn't had a year of mat leave, we'd have been looking into alternatives to gap us until we got into the centre that we wanted.
I feel much more prepared for things this time, having some idea of what to expect. It's just been so hard to have to put TTC off like this, after I'd spent more than a year waiting and counting down to the time when we would be TTC again. I really wanted a three year gap between kids, but it's going to be more like 5 years if things go according to plan! And the whole bit about being older totally stresses me out. We got pg with DS very easily, almost right after coming off the pill. This time around we've been using NFP since DS was born, and not even had a scare, you know? So that makes of course makes me worry that we won't get pg so easily this time around. So all in all I'm just a stressed out impatient mama-in-waiting! And to make it worse, DS keeps telling me that he wants us to have another baby! Talk about guilt!