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post #81 of 455
Thanks for starting this thread! As soon as I posted, the universe responded and Af appeared the next day.

If my cycles regulate around ~30 days as they did pre-Ds, then I'll try to catch the March egg. I feel like timing the arrival of #2 is so complicated and I just can't decide when its going to work 'best' for us. I never wanted 2 under age 2. In my pre-kids life, I wanted a bigger age gap, but for the AP/NFL parenting style that we've developed in our family, it just won't work if we wait longer. Sigh. There are gifts and challenges with every choice so hopefully the universe will stay on board with this plan. :

I completely understand having this feeling that there is another child out there waiting for you. I have had visions of a future child of ours, who I am guessing is probably #3 or beyond (after #2 we'll be adopting) since he's bi/multiracial and my Dh and I aren't. I don't really talk about it with anyone, but I feel quite strongly there is a son waiting to join our life someday.
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I'm gonna start TTC#1 in or around August 2007.
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Fran- I completely understand what your saying! I still have that feeling that there's a little soul out there waiting on us! I've tried and tried to come to terms with us stopping at 2 kids but I always get this nagging feeling that we should have more. I love my son and daughter so much and enjoy being a mother more than I would have ever imagined. I'm a stay-at-home mother and we are also homeschoolers! My kids are my world and no matter how many children we have,they have made me happier than ever!

The only thing that scares me is that I had pre-eclampsia with my first (ds) and I was fortunate enough to avoid it with my second pregnancy (dd), BUT they both had umbilical cord abnormalities. Luckily, neither of them suffered any complications from the cords but it does scare me a bit since the abnormalities were not detected in uteruo and only discovered after birth. And how ironic that both were only 1% chance of happening. I was told I could have a high level ultrasound next time during pregnancy to look at the cord, and I would definitely want to do that.

I guess there's always the chance for scary stuff to happen in pregnancy! And always the chance for twins! Just kidding!!!

Are you using a curriculum for homeschooling? I'm using a variety!

I know exactly what you're saying. I love love love being a mom, but I absolutely hate being pg! I have pretty severe morning sickness 24/7 for almost the entire time. So I'm really not looking forward to that. I always have hope that it won't happen the next time but I went through it with both pregnancies (starting at about 4 weeks) and I get pretty sick even on low dose bc pills. But that feeling that someone is waiting is too strong for me.

I'm planning on using a mix of different curriculums. I like to say I'm a classical charlotte mason ecclectic unschooler. LOL! I can't decide. I'm pretty much taking elements of Well Trained Mind and Charlotte Mason, but we're going to be really relaxed about it and just have fun learning.
post #84 of 455
I'm also in NYM and the One Thread, but I'll post here, too. We're going off BC pretty soon, and I'll be hiking for six months starting March 4th, so I'll have time to get all the hormones out of my system. We'll be officially TTC when I get back in late August. We have a very short window, because I need a summer baby! I'm a college student, so I need the baby to come in early summer so I'll have a couple of months off with him/her before school starts again.

Hello all other future mamas!
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Pixie, that's an excellent list. I'm VERY interested in Yoga when I'm pregnant. I've heard that it really helps you both while pregnant and during childbirth, do you find this to be true also?
yoga helps *tremendously* during pregnancy and much of the techniques you learn in yoga for relaxation and breathing are incredibly helpful/transferrable for use in childbirth. i did a lot of specific training as a prenatal instructor after my basic 200 hour training, and learned a ton - on top of what i had learned just practicing during my first pregnancy. i feel yoga is very responsible for me having two very easy pregnancies and births, and making the transition to motherhood easier. if you can find a good prenatal class, that is the best, since you can meet other moms-to-be - but in lieu of that, find a good teacher who knows how to adapt a regular class for a pregnant student.

in both pregnancies, i could always tell a difference if i didn't practice for a few days - boy did my hips ache, i had more difficulty sleeping, all kinds of stuff. but with #2 that didn't happen much since i was teaching until i was 34 weeks on top of my own practice, so i got a lot of yoga in!

GathererGirl - how cool that you're hiking the AT! two of my best friends did a few years back, and her DH (and possibly mine) are going to do a through-hike in '08! One thing to think about, though, is that a lot of people get messed-up cycles while hiking because you lose a lot of weight and put a lot of stress on your body - so don't be too worried/surprised if your cycles are wonky on your hike.
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DH and I had our first DS in October. But we would like to TTC after he turns one. So probably the fall of '07. But we both agreed that if it happened sooner than that we would not be worried or upset. As soon as DS was born I told DH that I wanted more right away Even with the complications I had I loved being pregnant and had a fairly good delivery. (planned a HB but I developed pre-e so I had to be induced : ).
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yoga helps *tremendously* during pregnancy and much of the techniques you learn in yoga for relaxation and breathing are incredibly helpful/transferrable for use in childbirth.
The same is true for bellydance (I just participated in a thread about this in another part of MDC). I haven't started yoga class yet, but I dance twice a week, and when I'm pregnant I plan to pick up a prenatal yoga class, too. Hopefully I'll be really ready when it comes time to give birth, since we'll be at home!

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GathererGirl - how cool that you're hiking the AT! two of my best friends did a few years back, and her DH (and possibly mine) are going to do a through-hike in '08! One thing to think about, though, is that a lot of people get messed-up cycles while hiking because you lose a lot of weight and put a lot of stress on your body - so don't be too worried/surprised if your cycles are wonky on your hike.
Yeah, I'm a little worried about that. I'm planning to bring the highest-calorie foods I can find, take prenatal vitamins, and move slowly. There will be a couple of chances to take a few days off and recover, plus several more chances to take a single day or just a low mile day. Please : for me!
post #88 of 455
What a nifty little thread. We are planning on TTC starting in a few days! AHHHH! We have been planning for forever. Things just came up like I wanted to lose 20 lbs before getting pregnant again. 1 for health and 2 so I would have a cute belly. We decided it's now or never. We want the ages to be somewhat close and even if we did concieve next week they would be almost 3 years apart. I'm not looking forward to morning sickness that I had with DS but it might spare me. I really should have gotten my butt in shape before now. Oh well!
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SO my question is... how many people that are planning to try later in 2007 are having a hard time waiting?? : : :
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We are planning on TTC #2 in Late May. We are getting married on the 26th and would not mind whatso ever if we were preggo that night

Hubby i think has been trying for another happy accident. But since we didn't try at all with the first, this might be his way of trying.

I'm having a terrible time waiting. I want one badly... But dd is 16 months and has just gotten to a stage that i LOVE *although she is being a little crabby lately

oh well... and i think hubby is now more excited for the next baby than i am. He's looking at other little ones and swooning!

This from the guy that didn't want kids... then only wanted 1 or 2... and now who knows. I want 4... but we'll see about $$. I only work parttime as it is but will be wanting to work even less or none after next baby. We would also like to mix homeschooling and unschooling if finances will allow it. Oh and we want a bigger house... and hubby has to go to school in August for 10 weeks....

*sigh* but after his first year of school we should be in a MUCH better position.
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i feel yoga is very responsible for me having two very easy pregnancies and births, and making the transition to motherhood easier.
That was exactly what I was hoping to hear. We don't have a lot of options around here for yoga. My gym offers one type of class and it's not prenatal. Do you know of any video or DVD versions you'd reccommend?


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Yeah, I'm a little worried about that. I'm planning to bring the highest-calorie foods I can find, take prenatal vitamins, and move slowly. There will be a couple of chances to take a few days off and recover, plus several more chances to take a single day or just a low mile day. Please : for me!
Wow, GG What an experience! I would love to be able to do a thur-hike on the AT. Are you hiking the entire trail? Is your DH going with you? Wow, I couldn't imagine the planning that must go into that. I've done a few overnight backpacking trips, but never more than one night. Any sites you can reccommend that have helped you prepare? Good luck in March!

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SO my question is... how many people that are planning to try later in 2007 are having a hard time waiting?? : : :
I swear everyone around me must be having babies! 2006 must have been the biggest baby boom in our office to-date! We aren't TTC until the very END of 2007 so my wait is long and my paitence is so thin. I just keep reminding myself of the goals we want to reach before having a child. I am also, finally in a place where I am not baby-crazy, that was a rough time, and am just enjoying my life right now before children. I'm doing a lot of reading and trying to get my body prepared. I'll start charting in Jan which will help me feel progressive in the whole baby-making thing.
post #92 of 455
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SO my question is... how many people that are planning to try later in 2007 are having a hard time waiting?? : : :
That would be me! I just have to keep telling myself "We don't want a September (or October through February) baby" over and over and think about what it would be like being pg in my current job because those are the only things I would be even a little disappointed about. The other stuff - waiting for me to be off BC for 5 months, saving enough money for the homebirth before we TTC, and other little things - are more to get us in an ideal situation and wouldn't be big problems if we had an "oopsie."

Now I have a question (not sure if this one has already been covered): Has anyone told friends or family about the upcoming plan to TTC? We've been planning for about a year and I swore I wouldn't tell anyone we were trying at all and that we wouldn't tell people we were pg until the second trimester. However, I have since accidentally told my mom, MIL, maternal grandmother, DH's best friend and his girlfriend, and a few couples from church that we'll be trying in June. Not to mention that my constant babies on the brain has clued in most of our other friends that it will be sooner rather than later. Now that it's "out," I'm a little scared that there will be questions and pressure come June and that it will be really hard to keep it quiet until the second trimester. I also plan to "fudge" my edd by 2-3 weeks, so it would be prudent to be able to wait until I'm at least 8-10 weeks pg before we start telling people. Sorry, thinking out loud here... Would love to hear other people's plans and thoughts on this topic!
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Now I have a question (not sure if this one has already been covered): Has anyone told friends or family about the upcoming plan to TTC? We've been planning for about a year and I swore I wouldn't tell anyone we were trying at all and that we wouldn't tell people we were pg until the second trimester. However, I have since accidentally told my mom, MIL, maternal grandmother, DH's best friend and his girlfriend, and a few couples from church that we'll be trying in June. Not to mention that my constant babies on the brain has clued in most of our other friends that it will be sooner rather than later. Now that it's "out," I'm a little scared that there will be questions and pressure come June and that it will be really hard to keep it quiet until the second trimester. I also plan to "fudge" my edd by 2-3 weeks, so it would be prudent to be able to wait until I'm at least 8-10 weeks pg before we start telling people. Sorry, thinking out loud here... Would love to hear other people's plans and thoughts on this topic!
This was exactly me also!! I told DP that we weren't going to tell anyone. Well now my sister and a few close friends know. I'm hoping they will forget about it by then. It's hard not to talk about it because I spend at lot of time thinking, reading, and researching about it. I still talk about it with my sister a little bit but not so much with anyone else. They just know we are planning to start in late 07. And we've agreed on about 3 people we plan to tell immediately when we find out we're pg but plan to wait a good month or two before telling everyone and I won't tell work till I'm starting to show or they question me. But we'll see. Nothing is in stone.
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SO my question is... how many people that are planning to try later in 2007 are having a hard time waiting?? : : :
We're TTC right in the beginning of '07 (Hippiemommie, right there with you next week, comming up fast!), but we decided we wanted to start or family last year and had to wait (for various reasons) until now... For me, it went back and forth from being easy to wait and not feeling quite ready yet, to being super hard to wait and getting frustrated because we had to, then being esy again.
We told one friend about it. He's already asked if we're preg yet. We haven't even started yet! I *think* my mother hunted down my myspace also (I have a few pro-homebirth blinkies on there, and talk about some of the things I've been researching). We didn't tell her anything, but she had made a comment a few months ago like, "well, if you decided to have a baby you would research it for 2 years before hand..." and has since been telling me all sorts of stories of epesiotomies, inductions and epidurals, and insanely long labors she can think of. It's not that big of a deal if she does know, we just didn't tell our families because we want it to be a surprise (and we don't want someone asking us every month if we're preg yet... especially if it takes us a long time...I'm certain it will make the BFN's worse... if that makes sense), and my mother's parenting style is so far from what my plans are for my own that I truely can not relate to her on the subject at all.
I asked DH to wait until we're like 13 weeks along or so to tell anyone, he's said that it will be difficult for him, but he'll try... we'll see how that goes
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That was exactly what I was hoping to hear. We don't have a lot of options around here for yoga. My gym offers one type of class and it's not prenatal. Do you know of any video or DVD versions you'd reccommend?
if you're pretty new to yoga, Shiva Rea's prenatal video is good. but if you have a regular practice it won't be much use until 3rd trimester. i've also heard that yoga journal produced a good one, but haven't seen it yet. i'm sure there are links on the YJ website for it. if you can find a good class and a knowledgeable teacher who knoes how to modify for you, prenatal classes aren't necessary. but you do have to make sure your teacher is familiar w/modifying for pg students, because there are thing you need to avoid or practice differently when practicing during pregnancy.

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The same is true for bellydance (I just participated in a thread about this in another part of MDC). I haven't started yoga class yet, but I dance twice a week, and when I'm pregnant I plan to pick up a prenatal yoga class, too. Hopefully I'll be really ready when it comes time to give birth, since we'll be at home!
absolutely true!! a good yogi friend of mine also teaches belly dance and it's great for pregnancy and post partum! especially those abs....

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SO my question is... how many people that are planning to try later in 2007 are having a hard time waiting??
hehe... i'm wavering between wanting to wait another year (or even two) and wanting to ttc right now. everyone i know is pregnant right now, so it's enticing, but i really want DS to be closer to weaning when i get pg because nursing thru pg and tandeming was very physically draining for me and not something i'm super eager to repeat. DH wants to TTC right away, too, so it's hard to wait... but i know it'll be better if we do wait, so that helps a little.
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yeah, my DH's biological clock alarm went off at 34 too - that's when he told me if we didn't have kids by the time he turned 40 he wasn't going to want them at all - so i got motivated pretty quick but i am 8 years younger than he is (he's now 41 and i just turned 33), so i wasn't in as much of a rush.

don't know what his deal is now with wanting another one : but i do want more... just want to do it sanely so the adjustment is easier on the whole family. i'm just starting to feel like i've got a handle on things with the two i've got
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Well I am only 21 and I am having the hardest time fighting the urge. I know practically and logically that I need to wait longer- but all the cute babies!!! It's driving me ! Especially teaching my childbirth classes missing those awesome pregnant moments... MUST RESIST! MUST RESIST!
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