Anyone on a schedule yet? - Page 3

[veganf]

Originally Posted by secretresistance

Without this being an attack on anyone-I don't think it's cool or respectful to disallow your child to sleep.

Understood. But being observant of his general self-imposed schedule and some knowledge of general human sleep patterns I find it quite respectful to help my children to sleep better if it helps them to be happier when they're awake. Around 3-4 months old babies tend to get distracted by the world around them and a little guidance in the sleep department IMO really works wonders.
Obviously if he's THAT tired he'll just fall asleep. Of course that happens occasionally. If I'm run-down, sick, etc. even I'll do that. But in general a schedule leaves me feeling much more rested and I stay healthier then.

[secretresistance]

Originally Posted by veganf

Understood. But being observant of his general self-imposed schedule and some knowledge of general human sleep patterns I find it quite respectful to help my children to sleep better if it helps them to be happier when they're awake. Around 3-4 months old babies tend to get distracted by the world around them and a little guidance in the sleep department IMO really works wonders.
Obviously if he's THAT tired he'll just fall asleep. Of course that happens occasionally. If I'm run-down, sick, etc. even I'll do that. But in general a schedule leaves me feeling much more rested and I stay healthier then.

Cool. I've got no beef with you, just sharing my perspective.

[ColoradoMama]

Originally Posted by secretresistance

If you were listening to your child, why would you need to do anything like regimenting their sleep? I'm not condemning anyone else, simply pointing out what, in my opinion, does and does not fall under the philosophy of attachment parenting. Without this being an attack on anyone-I don't think it's cool or respectful to disallow your child to sleep.

That was incredibly rude and presumptuous. You are ABSOLUTELY condemning me by saying such a comment. It's because I watch my children and know them so incredibly well that they have a bedtime. They don't even want to miss anything, and I don't blame them. BUT - When the two older ones are allowed to stay up later, they have a horribly miserable day the next day. They are cranky, fight with each other, and don't enjoy even the fun things that we have planned for the day. I guess I could be a "model AP parent" (I put that in quotes because I don't believe this would be a model AP parent AT ALL) and ignore their true needs and be a sheep and do what you think I should do and let them be miserable all of the time. However, I don't think that would be APing at all. Attachment parenting is about doing the best for YOUR child and YOUR family, it's about informed decisions, and intuitive parenting. Because someone does something different than you, doesn't make it wrong. When you're going to attack someone for what they've said, don't try to insult that person by adding a line that you're not meaning to attack them.

[Kellie_MO4]

I don't doubt that you love your children, or that you would inentionally do anything to upset them or anything... I just don't personally agree with

I refuse to let him fall asleep for his first nap before 9am.

... I (personally) think it's mean to not allow a sleepy baby to sleep

[secretresistance]

Originally Posted by ColoradoMama

That was incredibly rude and presumptuous. You are ABSOLUTELY condemning me by saying such a comment. It's because I watch my children and know them so incredibly well that they have a bedtime. They don't even want to miss anything, and I don't blame them. BUT - When the two older ones are allowed to stay up later, they have a horribly miserable day the next day. They are cranky, fight with each other, and don't enjoy even the fun things that we have planned for the day. I guess I could be a "model AP parent" (I put that in quotes because I don't believe this would be a model AP parent AT ALL) and ignore their true needs and be a sheep and do what you think I should do and let them be miserable all of the time. However, I don't think that would be APing at all. Attachment parenting is about doing the best for YOUR child and YOUR family, it's about informed decisions, and intuitive parenting. Because someone does something different than you, doesn't make it wrong. When you're going to attack someone for what they've said, don't try to insult that person by adding a line that you're not meaning to attack them.

If you want to cool your jets a little bit, I'm happy to try communicate with you. Nothing I wrote or believe has anything to do with your or veganf personally. I don't think keeping my kid awake based on what the clock says is a good idea. I don't think it fits into the AP philosophy. I don't have any judgment or a desire to attack you or the OP. I'm sorry that I don't understand how I'm condemning you.

My interest lies in sticking up for AP ideals, especially when I'm asked. I can't reconcile preventing my child from napping with acting in tune with what she needs. That has nothing to do with what you or anyone else does.

[veganf]

Originally Posted by Kellie_MO4

I don't doubt that you love your children, or that you would inentionally do anything to upset them or anything... I just don't personally agree with ... I (personally) think it's mean to not allow a sleepy baby to sleep

Okay, I'll explain....

If I just carry him around the entire morning and go about my business he'll be back asleep for a very brief nap (20 minutes) by 7:30am. But if I try more insistently to distract him with toys, a mirror, music, etc. then he'll go to sleep around 9/9:30 for 45 minutes instead and sleep by himself while I get things done (like diaper scrubbing, preparing the boys lunch for preschool, etc.).
If he's clearly tired he will fall asleep anyway or begin to get upset, whereupon I would have set my "nap schedule" at an earlier time. But by scheduling his naps around his needs at the same time every day I find he sleeps better, is happier, and I can get much-needed tasks accomplished. Everyone wins. Well, in our family anyway. I hope I explained myself more clearly.

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